When Everything Wasn’t An Emergency – Day 311 of 365 Days to a Better You

Are you old enough to remember? There was a time not all that long ago when every single solitary thing wasn’t an emergency.

There was no 24/7 news cycle to turn mundane events into level 10 crises. People actually drove from here to there without the need to talk to or text anyone. Kids had daily summer adventures and their parents had no clue where they were all day. A conversation was between two or a few people within earshot of each other or over a phone connection. It wasn’t a viral event in front of millions of eyes stirring hair trigger controversy.

To be sure, there were drawbacks to those days as well. I’m not suggesting you abandon the benefits today’s tech has provided. I am saying it’s incumbent upon you to know when too much is enough. You must be smart consumers of the firehose of information pointed your way, weeding through the crisis of the minute and focus on what’s really important. You must reclaim your ability to have disagreement within our free society without sacrificing your sanity,

Not everything is an emergency. Not every battle is worth having just because it rolls through your information stream. You need not juggle a thousand data points on every aspect of your day just because you can.

It’s beneficial to unplug, step off the information treadmill, and release the need to be in 24/7 crisis mode about literally everything.

The world used to spin around just fine without our moment-to-moment monitoring. It can again for you, if you’re willing to take a breath and restore the balance between the ability to know everything and the need to.

Just in case no one has reminded you today, YOU are awesome!

Ray

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Take Your Own Wise Counsel – Day 282 of 365 Days to a Better You

Today’s affirmation: I am a vast source of wisdom. I am a wise counselor. I have the answers within me.

Here’s something to stick in your back pocket today. You know an amazingly wise and perceptive person who is always ready and able to provide you fantastic advice. Fortunately, you have access to that person 365/24/7. I’m talking about you, of course. You’re a wise old owl.

“Me?” you say. “I’ve got lots of challenges I can’t figure out. How can I help myself?”

Don’t be so quick to discount yourself. It’s all a matter of perspective. You need to step outside your challenges, put on your wise counselor’s hat, and analyze your situation like you are a friend or a family member coming to you for advice.

You’ve played that role many times in your life. With some detachment, you’re amazingly wise, stunning insightful, and brimming with compassion.

Give yourself the benefit of that sagely master within you. What would you tell a friend to do in your situation? What would you caution him or her about? How would you encourage your friend?

You’re much more critical and cynical when dealing with yourself. Lend the wisdom and compassion you’d show someone you care about. You’ll be pleasantly surprised by this powerful internal resource walking around in you all day long.

In case no one else has told you today, you ARE amazing!

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Ray

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Ask and You Shall Receive – Day 12 of 365 Days to a Better You

Ask for what you want.

In Matthew 7:7, Jesus says, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.” There is a power in asking.

Picture my wife April and I driving down the road. I look behind me once and then again. She feels a tinge of frustration.

Are you trying to get over,” she asks?
Yes,” I reply.
Do you have your turn signal on so they know you want to get over?”

It seems silly, but we walk around in our lives acting as though the people around us and the Universe already know what we want. We’re all adults and we’ve learned that simply asking doesn’t get us everything we want in life. It gets us a lot more, though, than not asking and expecting the world to somehow infer our intentions and wants.

Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” Failing to ask is failing to shoot.

Power hack: Use these seven power words up the power of the ask. The goal is not to control others. The goal is to make your asking for what you want as powerful as it can be.

In the video above, Kevin Hogan mentions the research of Dr. Ellen Langer. Here’s more information on the power both of asking and, specifically, of adding the word because.

Then there’s the work of Dr. Robert Chialdini. He’s studied the universal principles that persuade people to say yes. We’ll get into these in more detail in a future blog. For now, watch his very popular video overview of the topic. You’ll definitely pick up some things you can use right away.

There’s no question that asking ups your chances of getting what you want in life and how you ask influences the response. It appears that asking is the key to receiving.

Stay inspired!

Ray

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Be Your Coach Not Your Critic – Day 10 – 365 Days to a Better You

Be a coach, not a critic.

There’s no doubt that we all need a kick in the pants from time to time to keep us driven and focused. Self-discipline and self-reflection are keys to the pursuit of success and happiness.

Many of us learned in early in life to be our own worst critics. I’m not completely sure of the psychology behind it; whether it’s nature, nurture, or some combination thereof. The thing is many of us allow that inner critic to speak to us and treat us in ways we’d never allow another person to do.

Power hack: Coach yourself up don’t beat yourself up. I want you to fire the inner critic and hire the best coach you can ever have – YOU.

Instead of mindlessly and destructively criticizing yourself to defeat, coach yourself to victory.

To be a good leader, start by leading yourself well. Rather than going into critical mode, try Balanced Feedback.

Ask yourself:

  1. What did I like about what I did?
  2. What would you do differently next time.
  3. Close with an affirmation or a positive pep-talk.

Shush the critic and bring on the coach!

Have a great day, my friends!

Ray

Here’s more tips for giving feedback. Most are easily applicable to self-coaching.

Damn It! Just Be You

choiceI was out taking a walk with my dog on this beautiful summer afternoon. The Sun was busy being the Sun. Grasshoppers were busy being grasshoppers. I didn’t see one tree trying to be grass or altering itself to fit in with the other trees. I didn’t see one flower faking a smile.

Yet, we humans, sophisticated as we are, struggle with just being ourselves. We’re often trying to what be everyone else wants us to be, trying not to be what everyone else wants us to be, or trying to be someone else.

We can learn from flowers, grasshoppers, trees. Be who you are, damn it! Now, some will say I don’t like who I am or you won’t like who I really am. I can assure you, you weren’t born deficient and you weren’t born with a big ‘tude. You learned those things and they are just other masks you’ve learned to wear to protect yourself or hide from the magnificent being of light you came to the planet to be!

So, enough with the masks. Enough with the fakery. Enough with the pretense that you’re someone else. Being you is quite enough!

Ray

 

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

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White House Correspondent Maria Love is on to the story of her life and with the help of an Anunnaki leader seeks to unravel and reveal history’s biggest conspiracy. The Awakening has begun!

10 Quotes About Excellence

Excellence Affirmation:
Excellence is my personal brand. My commitment to it is unwavering.

Here are some of my favorite quotes about excellence.

  • “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
    ~Aristotle
  • “If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.”
    ~Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • “I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence, I can reach for; perfection is God’s business.”
    ~Michael J. Fox
  • “None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone.”
    ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • “Excellence – Take what you have and do the BEST with it.”
    ~Joyce Myer
  • “Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.”
    ~Steve Jobs
  • “Excellence always sells.”
    ~Earl Nightingale
  • “Excellence is not a skill. it is an attitude.”
    ~Ralph Marston
  • “Excellence is the gradual result of always striving to do better.”
    ~Pat Riley
  • “Excellence is to a common thing in an uncommon way.”

~Booker T. Washington

Stay inspired!

Ray

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