Your Spinach and Your Kryptonite – Day 93 of 365 Days to a Better You

What’s your spinach and what’s your Kryptonite?

Perhaps the oldest and most prolific aphorism in human experience is, “Know Thyself.” Yesterday we talked about the narratives in your life. These narratives are deeply embedded. Changing them is not a flip-of-the-switch proposition. Navigating that path to change is filled with hazards. You have to know what your “spinach” is and what your “Kryptonite” is.

Back in the day, Popeye the Sailor Man was constantly getting himself in tough spots. Just when it seemed all was lost, he’d down a can of spinach and instantly be super-charged to take on any challenge. Conversely, Superman is almost always winning until someone pulls out the one thing that can stop him – Kryptonite.

Every one of us has our proverbial spinach and Kryptonite. You must know yourself well enough to know what yours are. What feeds you and gives you practical super powers and what beats you down and defeats you every time? There’s no shame in admitting the latter…NONE. We all have our weaknesses. It just means you’re part of the human race.

Whether you’re trying to tackle a huge demon like an addiction or fine tune your plan for career success, changing your narratives is about leaning on your spinach and avoiding the triggers that spawn your Kryptonite.

Trust me, you can and many people have spent their lifetimes in therapy focusing on how to stop their Kryptonite from being their Kryptonite. They are better served and results come much faster when they focus on how eat their spinach every single day and pull on their strengths.

That’s not to say that your Kryptonite won’t bite you from time-to-time or that you should swallow feelings that need to come out. It is saying, as Rumi so eloquently asked and advised,

“When you go to a garden, do you look at thorns or flowers? Spend more time with the roses and jasmine.”

Your Kryptonite can only defeat you if you constantly take it out of the proverbial box and focus on it. If you do, you’ll continue to propagate narratives of sadness and defeat. But, if you have the persistence and the courage eat your spinach regularly, narratives can be transformed and so can your life trajectory.

Power hack: Your mission is to figure out what your spinach is.

  • Time alone?
  • Time with your kids?
  • Time at the gym?
  • Time in nature?
  • Your favorite music playlist?
  • Your affirmations?
  • Your vision board?

I’d love you to leave a comment below and let me know what your spinach is!

Just in case no one else tells you today, YOU’RE AWESOME!

Ray

 

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Say Absolutely! – The Affirmation Spot for Tuesday April 27, 2010

Today’s Thought:

“When failure becomes your teacher, success becomes your future.”
~ Ray Davis

Have you ever noticed the power that words have to transform people and situations? Years ago I was teasing someone at work by saying “absolutely” to every thing she said. For some reason, it put me in the habit of saying “absolutely” to things in life.

When someone would ask me a question, rather than saying yes or sure, I got in the habit of responding, “absolutely”! I became aware that my own sense of resoluteness and confidence was buoyed by saying the word. I also noticed that other people seemed to respond well to someone saying, “absolutely”.

People would comment that someone saying that word so enthusiatically was refreshing and inspiring. So, I kept doing it. Today I answer absolutely practically and metaphorically in life. I’ve found the word has a power and surety about it that people seem to want to experience.

So, here is my challenge to you. When someone asks you to do something tomorrow say enthusiastically, “absolutely”! Amid the gray, unenthusiastic responses they experience all day, your “absolutely” will stand out.

Do I guarantee it? Absolutely!

Stay inspired!

Ray

Dr. Barbara Fredrickson on Positivity – The Affirmation Spot for Tuesday February 23, 2010

Today’s Affirmation:
Today my expectations are high and my experience rises to meet those expectations.

I think it is so important for people to understand that the transformative power of positive thinking and positive emotions are more than just anecdotal experiences had by a few of us. Many in the scientific and psychological communities are working very hard to put scientific and analytical evidence behind these experiences.

While I understand that for some of my readers who have had these powerful experiences, no scientific proof is needed to validate your experiences. There are many people in this world who have trained or are by nature trusting only of empirical data.

Dr. Barbara Fredrickson is one of the leading voices and researchers in the field of positive psychology. Dr. Fredrickson is the Kenan Distinguised Professor of Psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is the Principle Investigator at the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Lab at UNC.

In 2009, Dr. Fredrickson published Positivity, an easy-to-read and use primer for anyone looking to bring the experience of positive emotion into his or her life.

Here is an excerpt from an interview with Dr. Frederick describing her work. This is Part 3 of 3. The other two segments can also be found on YouTube.

Stay inspired!

Ray

2010 Affirmation

“2010 is MY year! This is the year I break free! This is the year I break through! This is the year I break out!”

Dreams Affirmations – The Affirmation Spot for Friday February 19, 2010

Today’s Affirmation Topic: Dreams

  • I am the engine of my dreams. My dreams never give up on
  • me and I never give up on them!
  • I dream my dreams to live them not just to dream them!
  • My dreams are the fuel that powers me to my destination! Today I choose to follow them!
  • I am here on this planet to live not just think about living. Today I take bold action on my dreams!
  • Today I am converting the energy of my dreams into the momentum of action!
  • I am the creator and manifestor of my dreams! Today I am making them come true!
  • Today I allow my dreams to do the driving rather than my doubts!
  • Today I live the life of my dreams while I’m awake!
  • I am absolutely committed to my dreams! Today I make sure
    they don’t get lost in the shuffle of life.
  • My dreams are coming true each and every day!

Stay inspired and keep dreaming!

Ray

2010 Affirmation

“2010 is MY year! This is the year I break free! This is the year I break through! This is the year I break out!”

Love Is The Ultimate Affirmation – The Affirmation Spot for Monday February 15, 2010

Some of you will remember the great Leo Buscaglia and some may ask who? Dr. Leo Buscaglia was a motivational speaker before everyone was a motivational speaker. This long-time special education professor at USC was famous for his passionate belief in love and the potential of human beings.

Today I am sharing the final two parts of a 10-part video posted on YouTube of Dr. Buscaglia speaking in Wisconsin some time during the 1980s. The speech was called Love: The Ultimate Affirmation. The video is dated, but the message is as fresh and needed as this morning’s headlines.

Love: The Ultimate Affirmation Part 9 of 10

Love: The Ultimate Affirmation Part 10 of 10

Stay inspired!

Ray

2010 Affirmation

“2010 is OUR year! This is the year we break free! This is the year we break through! This is the year we break out!”

Hold On – The Affirmation Spot for Monday November 30, 2009

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Many people who follow me on Twitter or elsewhere on the Internet have come to know me for my positive affirmations and motivational thoughts that I post regularly throughout the day. What they do not know is that my life was once far from a bed of roses.  I hit absolute rock bottom at the age of 25 and very nearly left this world way too early.

Much of my situation was self-imposed and based on some really wrong-headed thinking about life in general and my life in particular. I know all too well and all too personally how difficult life can get. I also know – from my experience – how critical it is that we master our thoughts and tilt them in a positive direction. That is why it has become my life mission to spread that message to everyone I can.

Today I am sharing a video from a song that came out at that moment in my journey.  I consider this song to be one of the great motivational anthems in modern music. “Hold On” was released in 1990 by the singing trio Wilson Phillips. For me, this song came along right at this moment when I was facing my life or death situation and climbing my way back from the edge.

This song spoke to me as I was just “holding on for one more day” and hoping things “will go your way”. That’s where I was and the best I could think each day at that time.

This song – even 19 years later – still speaks to me. It’s popularity at the time and since indicates it has spoken to many others as well.

What a message of hope for a brand new week! This is a live version from the MTV awards that year.

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”

It Is What It Is or Is It?

“It is what it is.” Has anyone else noticed the sudden popularity of this phrase? Perhaps in this era of big fears we feel swept along by forces we cannot control. It’s become almost mantric for some people.

On the surface, this statement seems to be highly pragmatic and even a little bit wise. But, I wonder.

I’ve been paying special attention to when people use this phrase. They tend to use it in situations where they feel they have no control and have resigned themselves to an outcome. There is a subtext, “I’m powerless to change the situation,” but what comes out is, “It is what it is.”

Certainly there are things in life – despite our positive thoughts and motivated action – that we cannot change. I cannot make Monday Friday. I cannot become 10 again. However, we cannot allow the times, our circumstances, or other people to convince us that the realm of things over which we lack control is large.

“It is what it is” is actually an affirmation – even a meditation – on our powerlessness. If we choose to buy into that mindset and inhabit that space, that is what will expand in our lives. Everything will become only what it is instead of what it can be. We will see ourselves as helpless entities acted on by massive forces rather than as the amazing and powerful beings that we are.

Words have enormous power. Choose the ones you say to yourself and to others wisely.

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”