Listen to People Who Have Succeeded #1 – Day 80 of 365 Days to a Better You

Listen to people who have succeeded #1

People who achieve massive success in their own right don’t have it handed to them. They face many of the same doubts and challenges you face. It’s why we can find courage and inspiration in their stories.

Take this young boy growing up in a war-decimated Austria after World War II. He aspired to be a world-champion bodybuilder, a leading man in the movies, and an American citizen. The people around him told him he was crazy. Someone like him could never achieve things like that. That little boy’s name was Arnold Schwarzenegger and all of those dreams – and more – came true for him.

What was his road to success? He outlines his five rules for success in this video. They’re rules that we can all easily apply to what we’re trying to achieve.

  1. Find your vision
  2. Never ever think small
  3. Ignore the naysayers
  4. Work your ass off
  5. Don’t just take, give back

Let’s all commit to be our best and do our best!

Ray

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Fear, Failure, and Dreams – Day 39 of 365 Days to a Better You

Fear, Failure, Dreams Lived

The fear of failure is the shortest route to it.
~Ray Davis

Today is the last in this little mini-series about following your dreams. It’s a theme we will revisit before the year is over.

Ellen Johnson once wrote, “If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.” Many people have been taught to avoid fear and failure. They’d feel embarrassed to try and fail. What would their family and friends think? This is an evil trap that keeps many people in the starting gate when it comes to their true dreams.

A few years ago I read an article about a study where they compared Japanese and American students’ approaches to learning. The writer pointed out that it is not uncommon to see a Japanese student fail numerous times on his or her way to learning something successfully. In Japan, there is no stigma to failing along the road to success. It is an expected and accepted part of the learning process.

In the United States, we attach a tremendous amount of stigma to failing. So much so that American students are generally not willing to go through the process of failing to learn. American students tend to focus their attention on subjects where they can be successful and shy away from subjects where failure might be involved.

So instead of going through the failure to learn the process we often hear our children say things like, “I hate math.” They don’t really mean that they hold a personal grudge against math. What they are saying is, “I would have to fail too many times to get math and I’m not willing to do it.”

I’m not here to say that one nation’s approach to learning is superior. However, this fear of failing extends beyond school and impacts our adult lives as well. Many people have big dreams or goals they would like to accomplish, but, again, they are still not willing feel the sting of failure to get there. Instead, they learn to play it safe just as their children do with the math.

That’s where my little aphorism at the top comes in. When fear failure so much that we are unwilling to try, unwilling to risk learning new things and failing a little; we cannot achieve our goals and dreams. Most this revolves around our stigma of fearing to fail.

Recondition yourself to overcome your fear of failure. In an outstanding article, Olimpio Zapanta offers five steps for overcoming the fear of failure.

  1. Divorce failure from your self-esteem.
  2. Failure is not all bad. It can be a great teacher.
  3. Failure and success are intimately linked – failure is often a prerequisite for success.
  4. Successful people fail constantly. That’s how they succeed.
  5. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect before you go for it.

With these five great steps and little determination, you don’t have to let the fear of failure sidetrack you from your destiny! Remember that “A Success” is what we call someone who had the courage to persist through fears and through the failures.

Just accept it. You’re going to have some fear when you step into new arenas. You’re going fail when you try new things. So what!

Joseph Campbell called out the irony of human striving when he said, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

Refuse to allow your dreams to die on the sword of inaction.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Here are three fantastic quotes that remind you how important it is to try new things.

 

Dream Building Builds Dreams – Day 38 of 365 Days to a Better You

Dream building builds dreams.

Let’s continue talking about your dreams and how to manifest them more easily.

We talked about living as if you already have your dreams. One of the specific things you can do is go “dream building.”

Go out on the home tour to see and experience the house you dream of living in. Go down to the car dealership and test drive the vehicle you want to own. Taste your dream – smell it, hear it, touch it, see it. The more senses you have involved the more real it is to you.

Plant a vision firmly in the soil of your subconscious mind that one day you will have the object of your desire. You will experience the experience you seek. You will feel the love you want.

Many years ago my wife and I experienced this related to a house. We were renting a tiny house in our small town. We used to walk around the town lake where sat the nicest subdivision in town. I remember one night in particular we were looking at the beautiful houses and saying aloud, “Some day we will live here.”

At that moment, there was no logical reason to believe that we’d be able to afford a house at The Lake. Still, we planted the seed deep in the soil of our minds. We watered it and nourished by driving through the neighborhood occasionally.

We kept getting up each day and doing our thing. We advanced in our jobs and kept on dreaming. About five years later, we decided to buy a house in town. We had no idea we could afford a house at The Lake. We cautiously set up an appointment to go see a house there. It was love at first sight.

We were qualified for the loan, but, in all honesty, the payment was still a stretch for us. No matter, we bought the house and fulfilled our dream to live at The Lake. We loved that house and lived there for 11 years until we moved to Boston four years ago.

Some people might claim that there was no link between that night we dreamed of living there and the day we actually did. I’ve experienced too many similar experiences to dismiss this idea. There’s no doubt that the seed planted eventually became the three of the life dreamed.

Consider:

A dream fed is dream sped.

Feed a dream. Starve a doubt.

You feel like you’re treading water, treading water, treading water, and then one day you realize you’ve slipped right into living your dream. There’s a kind of unconsciousness about the last step that allows you to ease right into a life you only, well, “dreamed” about.

Today, no matter what physical or psychological weather you face in your life; keep treading, keep dreaming, and stay focused. Your dreams can be yours.

Not every dream is attained by strenuous, focused action. Some dreams grow organically in the background as you keep moving one more step forward. As Napoleon Hill wrote decades ago, “Whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve.”

The mind’s eye is a powerful lens through which to conceive, believe, and achieve your dreams.

Ray

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Live As If Your Dreams Are Already True- Day 37 of 365 Days to a Better You

Live as if your dreams are already true

In yesterday’s post, I talked about articulating your goals and dreams. Today we explore the concept of putting your intentions to achieve your goals and dreams out into the universe and living as if they are already true.

Dictionary.com defines intention as 1) an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result. 2) the end or object intended; purpose.

Intentionality is about thinking, speaking, and acting as though your goal is already accomplished. There is a certain assumptiveness to it. You don’t question your ability to reach the goal. You begin to embody its accomplishment. It’s about “living as if” your dream is already true.

If your dream is to be a great painter, you begin doing the things that great painters do. You devote time to your art. You begin mingling with other artists. You start living the life you want today and let your art follow you to the dream.

Be practical and responsible. If your goal is to become a millionaire, don’t go out and spend yourself into debt on the assumption you are about to become a millionaire. Rather begin making decisions about your life like a millionaire. Begin envisioning yourself in that position. Begin taking actions to get you there.

Intentionality is about putting a stake in the ground and committing your mind, body, and soul to reaching your dream. That requires a decision. The moment of decision is like the splash of a rock being dropped into a pond. The intentionality is like the ripples that stem from that splash. A decision to act displaces the configuration of the universe as surely as a rock hitting the pond displaces water. It creates movement in the world.

The strength of the ripples (your intentionality) is determined by the size of the rock (size of your decision). The bigger your decision and the more determination there is behind it, the more powerful the ripples will be in the world. You can augment your intentionality by continually dropping rocks (renewing and recommitting to your decision).

There are six things you can do to solidify your intention to achieve a goal or a dream. Each is important in creating the ripples and the movement towards accomplishment.

  1. Think about your dreams – don’t let the day-to-day struggle of life prevent you from focusing on your dreams. Keep them “top of mind”. Write them down and keep them in front of you.
  2. Share your dreams with others – there is additional power created when we share our dreams with another person. Sometimes others can support you creating a synergy of action that you cannot achieve alone. This also involves articulating your dreams – another important step in bringing them into action and reality.
  3. Pray or meditate on your dreams – ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened. In your quiet times ask, seek, and knock on the door of your dreams. Your quiet time is the time where you solidfy your intentions and handle the obstacles you encounter. You get recharged, re-energized, and refocused.
  4. Believe in your dreams – most great people go through a period on the way to their dreams when they are the only one who believes. You may face that and you need to be prepared to push forward.
  5. Act on your dreams – thoughts and words are the foundations of achievement, but action is the engine of it. If your thoughts and words are never translated into action, you will never achieve.
  6. Begin living as if the dream is already accomplished – be the person you want to be and live the life you want to have and let the reality follow the actions.

If you do these six things, you will create a powerful intention to see your dreams and goals become a reality.

Now go out there and make a big splash! Create your ripples and get on to achieving your heart’s desire.

Be positive Be peaceful Be prosperous!

Ray

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Note: This article is based on an article that first appeared on this blog in 2008.

 

Articulate Your Goals and Dreams – Day 36 of 365 Days to a Better You

Articulate your goals and dreams

Can you articulate your goals and dreams? Are you making your goals and dreams concrete enough to bring them to fruition? Are you putting your intention for their realization out into the universe? This week we are going to look at some ways to bring your goals and dreams closer to reality.

Articulating Your Goals and Dreams

Words matter. In fact, practically every creation story from our ancient texts speaks of God speaking the world into existence. So, words don’t just matter. They become matter…they become things.

From the beginning, words have been the source of creation. They are the first step in manifesting thoughts in our head out in the world. They are also the bridge between thoughts/ideas and actions.

It’s nearly impossible for your goals and dreams to become a reality, if you are unable to articulate them. The ability to clearly articulate your goals and dreams is the first step in clearly envisioning them.

You often hear successful people talk about their mission statements. These statements are nothing more than a formalized articulation of who they are as a person and an affirmation of their dreams and goals.

Articulating your goals or dreams need not be that formal. It can be as simple as a phrase that succinctly describes your goal. To begin, use some simple questions to get your thought process going.

  1. What is your dream?
  2. What do you want to be doing in five years?
  3. If you could be doing anything with your life what would it be?

You’re not worried about “the how” at this point, only “the what”. “The how” takes care of itself once you clearly envision “the what”.

Here’s a simple 7-step process to begin articulating your dreams and goals.

  1. Ask yourself the preceding questions or similar questions you devise.
  2. Brainstorm answers by writing down everything that comes to your mind when you ask these questions. Listen carefully to really capture your true heart’s desires.
  3. When you’re happy with your list prioritize your answers.
  4. Select 1-3 key goals or dreams (that’s all most people can really focus on at any given time). These are the ones that really speak to you right now. Keep the rest for future use.
  5. Write a brief statement describing the goal or dream and your desire to achieve it. Add a timeframe to your statement. Spice it up with extra detail to motivate action.
  6. Memorize your statement.
  7. Articulate the statement regularly – out loud and to yourself. When someone asks you what you want to be doing answer with your statement. Use the statement as an affirmation for yourself. Share it with friends, relatives, and colleagues.

Following are a few examples to get you started:

Instead of saying:

“I want to be a published author.”

Say something like:

“In five years, I AM sitting on a beach writing novels full time.”

Instead of saying:

“I want to be a college football coach.”

Say something like:

“In five years, I AM a successful college football coach at a Division I school.”

Instead of saying:

“I want to a better mom.”

Say something like:

“In the next six months, I AM creating more time with my kids and I AM devising ways to be more engaged in their learning.”

The next post will discuss putting your intention for achieving your goal out into the universe.

Be peaceful Be positive Be prosperous!

Ray

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Focus on Your Dreams Affirmation

Whew! That felt good! This is the first new affirmation I’ve recorded in more than three years. I’ve mentioned a couple of places that I’m in the process of revitalizing and expanding The Affirmation Spot platform. You’re going to be seeing new content in new venues. One of my areas of focus will be video affirmations.

The video that accompanies the affirmation has a powerful message in its own right. I’d love to hear your comments below.

I hope you will find this affirmation recording useful and empowering when you’re facing the voices and forces of negativity in your life. The affirmation is set to a spacey track that gains power as it progresses. That’s offset by relaxing theta waves. The affirmation is read in the first and second-person for maximum effect.

The Affirmation reads:

  • I am immune to the negative voices and forces in my environment. I stay focused on my dreams.
  • You are immune to the negative forces in your environment. You stay focused on your dreams.

 

If you’d like to download a copy of the MP3, you can do so here.

Stay inspired, my friends!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and co-founder of 6 Sense Media. He’s been writing, recording, and using affirmations for 30 years. He’s also the author of Anunnaki Awakening. He advocates for the potential of the human race. He’s life-long history buff and holds a B.S. in History Education.

Never Give Up on Your Dreams

Today’s Affirmation:

“Today I am ready to convert my perseverance into success.”

Quitting is the answer to your dilemma. You know you want to give up. So, do it. You have a dream, but it is just pie-in-the-sky nonsense. What are you thinking? Are you crazy?

Do you really believe you could be the next great children’s author. Are you really visualizing yourself sitting on Oprah’s couch discussing your latest best seller? YOU??? Come on! Get real. You’ve sent 20 manuscripts out and how many rejection letters? That’s right. 20.

And you, thinking you are the next great country music star. You’ve made five demo records and not one call back. You’ve been at this for three years now. When are you going to face reality?

Oh, and Mr. basketball, you have dreams of a major college scholarship and then the NBA? Yeah right! You play three minutes a game on your high school team. The coach barely knows your name. And you think you’re the next Michael Jordan? Face it, my friend, basketball is a dead end for you.

Do you ever have thoughts like these? Do you ever hear those around you say things like this because they “care about you”? There’s always someone around to shoot down your dreams, if you are not already doing it. In some cases, it’s even an expert – an editor, a coach, or record producer. I mean they know what they are talking about, right?

The next time you have these kinds of thoughts I want you remember the following.

His sophomore year in high school, Michael Jordan didn’t even know he was the next Michael Jordan.

Michael JordanHe was cut from his high school basketball team. I don’t know if that high school basketball team was unbelievably talented or the coach just wasn’t a very good judge of ability. Can you imagine arguably the greatest basketball player ever cut from his basketball team? The coach was presumedly an expert.

Michael could have taken the expert’s word and given up. He could have taken up the vilolin or given up on school activities all together. Instead, he worked harder; became more determined. Three years later he was starting for one of the top college programs in the country and on his way to a Hall of Fame NBA career and six NBA championships.

What if Michael Jordan had accepted the judgment of an expert and quit? The man revitalized a sport, gave a city with a reputation for losing the opportunity to be champions, inspired millions of young athletes, and gave every fan a highlight film that will run in their minds forever.

Back in the 1920s there was an unknown cartoonist from the midwest shopping his idea for an animated cartoon featuring a mouse. Walt Disney made two cartoons featuring Mickey Mouse that were rejected by distributors. Then timing and adaptability intervened.

disney.jpgDisney latched on to the new sound technology in Hollywood and created a third Mickey Mouse film with sound called Steamboat Willie which debuted in New York on November 18, 1928.

The mouse and Walt went on to do quite well for themselves. A major media empire and the world’s number one tourist destination bear the name Disney because he believed in his idea and he did not stop at “no”.

Had Disney quit generations would have been deprived of the eternal childhood represented by Disney message.

A retired motel and restaurant owner in his 70s spent two years driving the country pitching his secret recipe for fried chicken to restaurant owners. The story goes that Harland Sanders heard no over 1000 times before someone finally said, “yes”.

Today Kentucky Fried Chicken is served in more than 80 countries around the world. Everyone knows about “The Colonel’s secret recipe.”

What is the common element here? Belief? Yes. Commitment. Sure. The real common element here is perserverence converted into success. These people pushed through their own doubts and the opinions of others to achieve their goals.

They also didn’t listen to the experts who said it couldn’t be done. The experts thought the train, the automobile, the airplane, radio, television, and the Internet would never succeed. Experts are always learned people about “what is”. They are entrenched in “what is”. Experts are weak at seeing what “can be.”

That takes a visionary. Find a visionary who believes in you and what you are trying to accomplish. That restaurant owner who finally said yes to Colonel Sanders was a visionary.

The world would have been worse off if any of these men had given up. What will the world be missing out on if you quit on your dream?

So how about it? Are you up for that 21st manuscript submission? Are you ready to make another demo and make this cut the one that gets noticed? Are you ready to give a little extra at practice today and let the coach really see what you can do?

If you are inspired to keep going, continue visualizing Oprah. If you are motivated to take Nashville by storm, keep seeing yourself accepting your award as newcomer of the year in country music. If you are ready to take the court with a new purpose and determination, then keep dreaming of the NBA.

Others are going to call you crazy. “They” called Jordan, Disney, and Sanders crazy too. “They” called the Wright Brothers and Edison and Leonardo DaVinci crazy.

You might have another bout of you calling yourself crazy. That’s normal. Just don’t give up on your talent, don’t give up on your passion, don’t give up on the promise of your dreams.

Start right now by restating your dream to the universe and your commitment to achieving it. I’d be honored if you began by leaving a comment on this blog.

Quitting is an answer. It is just not the right answer when it comes to your dreams.

Be peaceful Be prosperous

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

He is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series (2015). Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle. This trilogy takes Ancient Aliens out of the past and into the present. An interstellar, interdimensional journey ensues with humanity’s future hanging in the balance.