Getting Past Fear to Action – Day 285 of 365 Days to a Better You

There’s an old German proverb that says, “Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.”

You want to build your side business, change jobs, or go back and get that degree, but something is stopping you. Sure, time, money, the ease of staying put are often the easy culprits. Are they really the reasons you haven’t taken action or is there a conscious or unconscious fear anchoring you in place?

Change is a wolf and our fears about it do make it look bigger than it is. Are you feeling a little fear about the change? It doesn’t mean you’re coward or weak, it just means your human and you’ve allowed the wolf of fear to swallow your dream.

Want to know a secret? Most of the time, that wolf is a shadow puppet on the walls of your mind. It’s only as big as you make it.

Powerhack: Here are some things you can do turn stagnant fear into action when you’re stuck.

  1. Just jump – do you remember, as a kid, the first time you jumped off a diving board? You had that same lump in your throat you have about this. You stared at the water, you counted, and you heard your self-talk talking you out of it. Finally, one of your friends yelled, “Just jump!” That was the solution. You shut down your mind and just acted. Before you knew it, you were hitting the refreshing water and rising back to the surface in joy. That worked out and so will this.
  2. Dream bigger – yeah, this one gets a bad rap because everyone says it, but it’s applicable here. Maybe you don’t have a dream big enough to overcome your fear of acting. Have you ever REALLY wanted something? I mean REALLY? You let nothing stand in your way. If this dream doesn’t have you that passionate, dream a bigger dream.
  3. Find examples – maybe you’re thinking, “Someone my age can’t do that” or “Someone in my situation can’t do that.” Wrong! I simply guarantee you’re wrong. There is someone out there who overcame none than you to get what you want. Find them and let their story inspire you.
  4. Past is prologue– you’ve done this before. At some point in your life, you faced a challenge, thought you couldn’t, but did anyway. Remember those examples and be inspired that you’ve done it before and you can do it again.

See, that wolf isn’t as big as he seems. In the face of your determination, he turns into a lovable pup.

Just in case no one else had reminded you today, you’re AWESOME!

Ray

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14 Beliefs That Keep You Broke and Helpless – Day 253 of 365 Days to a Better You

Your thinking is a huge factor in how healthy, wealthy, and happy you are in life. There are several belief systems or mindsets that I encounter regularly that will keep you broke and helpless. The significance of this was brought to my attention again recently when a friend of mine said, “I don’t have any dreams. I’ve just never been that kind of person.”

Often these self-destructive mindsets are passed from generation to generation. Parents consciously or unconsciously pass them to children who pass them to their children. Soon, there is a whole momentum for failure, defeat, and a loss of hope.

When these thoughts become the persistent and dominant lens through which you see your world, then they become self-defeating. You received these mindsets from someone influential in your life who was conditioned into these thought patterns and passed them along to you as part of your “mental DNA”.

Stop thinking these thoughts and replace them with something more positive and productive that moves you forward, empowers you, and enriches your life physically, financially, and spiritually.

  1. Believing in myself, my greatness, or my potential is conceited, selfish, or unholy.
  2. There is something wrong with receiving compensation for my talents outside the confines of a job.
  3. God will do it for me. (Believe in God or the Universe but don’t expect him do it for you.)
  4. Government will do it for me.
  5. Successful people are just lucky.
  6. Things never go my way. I’m just meant to fail. I don’t have what it takes to succeed.
  7. That’s just the way things are. They always have been and they always will be.
  8. I don’t need to change, adapt, or improve. I will keep doing things the way I have always done them.
  9. Let me just watch my TV shows one more week and then I will spend time on my dreams.
  10. My circumstances are someone else’s fault. My life is built on chances not choices.
  11. Playing the victim in any way, shape, or form. Every time you play the victim you victimize yourself again.
  12. Waiting for the “perfect” moment to take action.
  13. Expecting storybook endings that magically occur.
  14. The belief that you must have everything right now, even if it means becoming a high-interest debt slave.

Reduce or eliminate these mindsets and you are well on the road to being less helpless and more financially successfully.

I love you all and wish you only the best this week. Let’s maintain better mindsets and change our lives!

Ray

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Monday Monday: Make Monday Count – Day 233 of 365 Days to a Better You

The Mamas and The Papas had a major hit song in the 60s by this title. One of the lyrics reads, “Monday Monday, can’t trust that day.”

Many people in the world feel Monday physically, mentally, and spiritually. Hung over from the relative freedom of the weekend, Monday represents a return the grind of the modern work week. That alone makes it depressing for many. This is compounded by the fact many people are doing something they just stomach for the paycheck.

Here’s the thing. If you can get past all that drama, you can put yourself ahead of the pack. People’s distaste for Monday causes them to write it off or cruise through it. This means many salespeople, writers, business people, and others start their week behind the curve. By pushing on Monday, can give you a bigger advantage over the competition than in any other day because the competition, unless they love what they do, is falling behind all day Monday.

Monday, as we’ve discussed before, is one-seventh of out lives. If you can make it yours, it can become your secret weapon rather than a scourge.

Lean for the tape today, my friends!

Ray

Be FOR Something

Life is about being FOR something not merely against something. Living a life in the AGAINST space is a trap that makes you feel like you’re accomplishing something, but really just sucks your energy and winds up catching you in an endless mental whirlpool.

Being against something is a natural first reaction to encountering actions and ideas we oppose in the world, but it should be a transition stage only to positive action in the FOR direction.

as the Star Trek Borg said, “Resistance is futile.” We must heed Gandhi’s famous aphorism to be the change we want to see. Find something to say YES to.

Keep your eyes and your hearts open!

Ray

The Why Me Syndrome

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Back in the day, I used to enjoy reading the newspaper cartoons. One I often read was Hagar the Horrible. Above is one of the most memorable cartoons I ever read. For many years, I kept this posted in various places to remind me that there was nothing special or unique about my challenges.

It happens to all of us; that moment when it’s not just raining it’s pouring. We think we can’t handle one more upset, one more hurdle, one more person cutting us off in traffic. Literally or figuratively, we look to the sky and shout, “Why me?”

It’s unlikely we’ll get the immediate and direct response Hagar receives in the cartoon. Instead, many people begin to see this as a frustrating pattern in their lives. “Why do I always meet the wrong guys?” “Why do people always cut me off in traffic?” “Why can’t I just get a break?”

The next time you’re thinking these thoughts or feeling these feelings I’d encourage you to consider something. You’re not uniquely oppressed by the universe. There’s no massive force with the sole and conscious goal to make your life miserable. And, you’re not alone.

These situations are part of our human experience and they happen to everyone of us. Why does it seem it’s always you? Because you’re always, every single time, present when it happens to you. You’re not there most of the time when it’s happening to others.

That guy who cut you off in traffic is going through it too. In fact, he might have cut you off, not because he wanted to make your life miserable, but because he’s distracted by worries about a layoff or a sick family member. He’s probably also thinking, “Why does this always happen to me?”

If we can gain perspective and get above these situations, we may even develop the ability to laugh at them and move on with our lives unscarred.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s been studying and practicing personal development for 30 years. He’s also studied many of the world’s spiritual traditions and mythologies.

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