Seven Ways to Lose the Drama in Your Life – Day 219 of 365 Days to a Better You

Drama is awesome in a movie, but taxing in our lives. How do you minimize the drama in your life? Based on feedback from readers, TinyBuddha.com compiled a list of seven things you can do to reduce the drama.

  1. Recognize when you’re the source of the drama. If you want to go on a drama diet, start with you. You’re the person you have the most control over. You might find, when considered beyond the heat of the moment, that you started or contributed to your last dramatic episode.
  2. Change your perspective. Is the situation going to matter in a year or even 10 minutes from now? Avoid making mountains out of molehills.
  3. Don’t feed into other people’s drama. So, you didn’t cause the drama, but did your pour oil on their fire of drama? Let them have their moment and move on.
  4. Reconsider unhealthy relationships. Are there people who bring nothing but drama to you? Harsh as it might sound, you may have to cut ties to cut the drama. This is, of course, a balance. If a person brings real value in your life but lots of drama too, you may try having a dispassionate conversation with them to see if you can come to an agreement to reduce drama.
  5. Be clear with other people. Sometimes drama is just miscommunication. Both people are reacting rather than responding to the situation. Go to your calm place and take the emotion out of it to get to clear communication.
  6. Be slow to label it drama. Sometimes it’s just a lack of patience or insight that causes us to call something drama. The other person might just really need you right now. Seen and understood in a different light the “drama” might just be a need for compassion.
  7. Learn from drama. This might be the most important one. Are you having the same drama over and over? Maybe the other person and you aren’t learning from past dramas. Get conscious. If you know something sets them off, do you really need to go there? Conversely, if you know your buttons are being pushed, get conscious and choose a different reaction or take some space.

Your life doesn’t have to be a constant soap opera, if you’ll take these steps to lose the drama.

You’re amazing! I just wanted to tell you that in case no one else reminds you today.

Ray

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Going Beyond Five Senses – Day 218 of 365 Days to a Better You

Reality is merely and illusion, albeit a very persistent one.
~Albert Einstein

Have you ever had that moment of epiphany where an idea, a comment, or someone else’s way of doing something suddenly makes sense to you? You realize that you were bound by a limitation in your thinking or you didn’t have a certain piece of information that allowed it to make sense to you. Without that expanded awareness we could never have become aware of this expanded reality.

Two things are true of our five senses. We rely heavily upon them to understand and navigate the world around us. We have no context to truly evaluate how accurate or inaccurate they are in understanding reality. 

Looking to the animal world, we see that our senses are not as acute as other animals. A cat can see far better than we can. A dog can smell far better. Being clever as we are, we’ve developed tools to help us detect some things beyond the realm of our sensory perception.

When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world with completely fresh eyes.
~Barbara Sher

Our prevalent means of understanding the world – science – places a hard boundary between reality and unreality where our senses and even our clever tools cease to register information. Yet, we must acknowledge this is an arbitrary boundary superimposed on a scale whose scope we have no way of knowing. Over time our tools get better and inch their way into that darkness of unreality.

Is our awareness pushing the true boundaries of reality or is it barely a blip in a vast universe of awareness and intelligence not reachable by our five senses and the tools they produce? By limiting ourselves to the confines of that world view, are we condemning ourselves to a permanent and profound sense of misunderstanding reality?

When we fall asleep, we withdraw our awareness from its hypnotic fascination with physical sensation, thereby enabling us to listen with our now awakening sixth sense.
~Henry Reed

After all, we’re born with our five senses. We’re encouraged to use them and sharpen them from a very young age. Over our lifetimes, we become very biased towards them. Is this analogous to being marooned on and island and searching for food only on the land, ignoring the possibility that the sea around our island may be more abundant?

What other options are available to us? Well, we have our sixth sense. Various cultures have defined this in different ways. Some view mind as the sixth sense. Others refer to an intuitive sense that transcends the five senses and, when listened to, provides a richer picture of reality than just our five senses. Some people use phrases like “listening to their heart” or “listening to their gut.”

A poet, you see, is a light thing, and winged and holy, and cannot compose before he gets inspiration and loses control of his senses and his reason has deserted him.
~Plato

These conceptions seem very mushy to a rational brain that is the great defender of the tyranny of our five senses. It prefers the materialistic version of the world our five senses project into our minds. It’s physical and measurable and visible.

Our sixth sense is far more ephemeral, open, and uncertain or at least it feels that way to the brain conditioned by a steady diet of rational materialism. Yet, it opens us up, if we’ll go with it and allow it, to a whole other level of perception and reality that seems to reach out to meet us from the vast depths of unawareness and invisibility.

Am I saying we give up our five senses and the rational world they have produced? No. I am suggesting that we do have a means, living within each and every one of us, to enhance and expand their capabilities and shine a light on realities they could never reach alone. 

Knowing that, why would we choose to remain stuck with one very powerful sense tied behind our backs?

Stop keeping it so “real” and expand your consciousness. I love you all!

Ray

Five Ways to Open Your Mind – Day 215 of 365 Days to a Better You

People always tell you, “Have an open mind.” Rarely, do they suggest how. Here are five very practical ways to open your mind.

  1. Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. We wake up every morning and have to work our compassion and love around this big “I” stuck in the middle of our minds. Choose to consciously stand in someone else’s perspective, without judgement, for a while. You will open yourself to whole new ways of thinking.
  2. Do things with your off hand for a day. Nothing closes our minds to new possibilities like mindless habit. Doing things with your opposite hand requires focus and forces you see your daily activities in a new way.
  3. Play What If. What if just for today you accepted a premise that’s completely out of your comfort zone. You don’t have to buy in 100 percent. Just give it a chance for one day and see where it takes you.
  4. Phone a friend. Have a challenge? Ask three of the most different people you know how they’d handle the situation. The diversity of views might just help you triangulate the best approach.
  5. Get out of your comfort zone. That’s such common advice, I know, that’s it’s practically useless. Here’s a practical way to do it by changing your priorities. When given the choice between “The Adventure” and your security, choose “The Adventure” more often. The security in staying where you are is just the illusion of familiarity. You’re not more secure by staying put than by keep in moving. So, choose to keep in moving.

Follow these five tips often and I guarantee you you’ll have a productively more open mind in six months then you do today.

Stay the course, my friends! One new thought can open a whole new world and you never know when it might happen.

Ray

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Your Vibrational Balance Sheet – Day 214 of 365 Days to a Better You

It’s a nice thought and a worthy aspiration to be filled with light and love 365/24/7. In realty, unless you have attained a high state of enlightenment, you slip and fall. You release negative vibrations out into the world. It’s OK. It happens. You’re human.

Here’s a way to think about your vibrational contribution without beating yourself up each time you crash to Earth.

In business, there’s a financial statement known as a balance sheet. It’s purpose is to state a company’s assets and liabilities. If the company has more assets than liabilities, it’s solvent. If not, it’s in financial trouble and may go out of business.

The human collective has a vibrational balance sheet consisting of positive vibrations (assets) and negative vibrations (liabilities) that we are all putting out into the world all day every day.

To keep your personal vibrational balance sheet strong and contribute positively to the collective balance sheet, follow this simple rule of thumb.

For every negative you put out into the world, put at least two positives out there. This ensures a strong balance sheet that allows humanity to continue to thrive and evolve on this planet.

You are amazing, My friends. Thanks for stopping by. If today’s post inspired you, please share it with a friend.

Ray

Daily Video Affirmation #33 – Heir to An Abundant Universe

Daily Video Affirmation #31 – Mass Shooting Affirmation

This weekend’s shootings are again a wake up call that we have a lot of work to do bring about the society we want. They’re a reminder that mindsets and beliefs do matter and when a person convinces themselves they have a right to harm others because of their mindsets, it crosses a line that we will not tolerate as a society.

Horrific events like this are not just about the shooters and the victims, though. They quickly become about all of us and the kind people we are and the kind of society we want to be.

Hatred and anger are as easy as falling off a log. Any person can get mad, get angry, and add to the destruction. It takes wisdom, courage, and enlightenment to vibe higher in circumstances like these. Some say it’s weak or pointless. They claim we must get angry and get even. I disagree. That’s what’s been driving humanity for the past 10,000 years. That’s the energy that has created this world and mindsets that allow someone to walk into place with other human beings and start shooting them. If we want change, we must be the ones – you and me – to say no more! We must be the ones to change the vibration in our lives, in our communities, online, and around the world.

Today’s affirmation is about encouraging you maintain a higher vibration in the face of these events. No words can bring back the dead or comfort those who lost loved ones. The best way to honor them is to create world where such actions are unthinkable.

It’s another opportunity to be the change you want to see in the world!

Ray

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10 Ways to Get More Joy from Life TODAY – Day 206 of 365 Days to a Better You

Are you looking for more joy? Here are 10 simple things you can do right now to add more joy to your life today.

  1. Connect to the breath of life – several times today literally stop what you’re doing and breathe in and out consciously.
  2. Connect to the cycle of nature – watch the sun rise, watch the sun set, or better yet both.
  3. Connect with the people around you – make it a point to make eye contact with and smile at the people you interact with today.
  4. Dream a little dream – take five minutes today to literally daydream about your biggest dream. Let it flood your consciousness. See yourself with your dream as a complete reality. Plan or take a next step to move you toward its realization.
  5. Laugh out loud – find something that lineally makes you laugh out loud and fully enjoy that moment.
  6. Release a negative – forgive someone, let go of some mental baggage, debunk a negative thought. If it helps make it more real, write what you’re releasing on a piece of paper and burn it.
  7. Stop and smell the flowers – literally stop and smell a flower or some other way to connect with the nature around you.
  8. Put others first – there are a hundred chances a day to let someone else go ahead of you. Make a point to do it at least five times – traffic, line at the store, etc. spread a little kindness. It feels good and makes the world a little better.
  9. Get perspective – there are horrible things going on in the world. Take time to notice there are a thousand wonderful things happening around you for every negative.
  10. Reflect – when your day is through, focus on all the good that you put into the world today and all of the good you received.

The world is filled with joy for the taking every day. Be sure to claim your share.

Ray