Twice Victimized

Today’s Thought

We are called to be architects of the future, not its victims.
~Buckminster Fuller

wrists_ropes_brokenGood morning, my friends. I want to talk about victimization today. Sadly, we live in a world where many, many people have been victims of horrific events in their lives. Victimization comes in many forms – physical, psychological, spiritual, sexual, violent. The way humanity currently operates – selfishly, greedily, thoughtlessly – this is too common.When these things occur in our lives, they can temporarily knock us off course or, for some people, it can be a life-destroying situation. It’s natural and healthy to take some time to assess and heal. The amount of time necessary is different for each person. Yet, heal we must or we risk being victimized a second time and a third and fourth by our own victimhood.

Our popular culture has elevated victimhood to a badge of honor. Something that empowers you. Any careful assessment of that philosophy will quickly show you that’s faulty logic that will only keep you locked in a downward spiral.

I have some good news, but some of you will find it hard to hear. You may even become angry in defense of your victimhood. That’s OK. It tells you it’s your good friend, but it’s not. It’s that destructive kind of friend who promises to protect you from being hurt again. In reality, it only protects you from living your life. Please know I am coming from a good place in sharing this with you. You see, I lived it for a number of years in my life.

There is a way out and up for you. It requires you to do something challenging and difficult, but necessary, to get your life back on course. It’s time to release and forgive your victimizer. More often that not, your nemesis is an unhealed victim themselves. That doesn’t excuse their actions, it does help us to see them again as a human being, just like us, dealing with demons.

Secondly, and even more importantly, it’s time for you to release the guilt or other negative feelings you hold on to…the ones that are causing you to remain a victim instead of the sovereign champion of your life.

Over my years, running The Affirmation Spot (@affirmationspot), I’ve had so many people reach out to me suffering from this victim state. I posted a number of original quotes for them to post in their daily lives to remind them that being a victim is something that happened to them. It IS NOT who they permanently are and it IS NOT who you permanently are either.

I hope they help you claim your courage and your determination to shift course and have the life you deserve.

  • Every time you start to play the victim today stop yourself and remind yourself WHO really you are.
  • Whenever I play the victim role, I have given my power to someone else to decide who I am. Today I refuse to do it!
  • To understand your thinking creates your circumstances, is not blaming the victim. It’s empowering you not to be a victim anymore.
  • Victimhood becomes a comfort zone. You remain a victim as long as you play a victim. Stop it! You’re better than that!
  • As long as you play the victim, you’ll be the victim. Your hero is waiting for you in the mirror.
  • No one can victimize you as completely, as your perpetual belief that you are a victim.
  • You are the director if your life. The only way you keep playing the victim is to keep casting yourself in the role.
  • Today I choose to be the beneficiary of my positive thinking rather than the victim of my negative thinking.
  • You are a victim of your conditioning, until you become master of your thinking.
  • Every time you play the victim, you give your power away.If your bliss is playing the victim, who are your dreams to stand in the way?If you believe you’re a victim, you are. If you believe you’re unstoppable, you are.

Don’t let your victimizer win by taking the life you might have had from you. Free yourself to be who you want to be!

Stay inspired!

Ray

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Stephen Hawking Passes at 76

Today’s Thought

Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change.
~Stephen Hawking

hawking_brief_historyI first became aware of Stephen Hawking in a bookstore back in 1988. While searching for the latest Star Trek: The Next Generation novel, I came across an interesting looking book titled A Brief History of Time. I was reading everything I could get my hands on about popular physics at the time and Hawking’s book was among the best I’d read. He was among the first to try to describe what being inside a black hole would be like and, of course, he believed he’d found a mathematical equation for the beginning of the universe that required no care-taker God.

A couple years later he appeared on my favorite TV show – Star Trek: The Next Generation – in a holodeck scene with Data, an actor playing Albert Einstein and an actor playing Isaac Newton. The scene was a humorous one with Data playing poker with his idols. Hawking made the scene by dissing on Einstein, something he did in the real world quite a bit as well.

His intellect was known the world over, as was his famous electronic voice made necessary by his Lou Gehrig’s Disease (ALS). It certainly is a triumph of the human spirit to achieve all he achieved while battling such a devastating disease.

In recent years, he used his platform to warn about the perils of our modern society, including climate change, artificial intelligence, and the dangers posed to humanity by contact with advanced extraterrestrial civilizations. While I may not have always agreed with his conclusions, the fact that he was saying it always required one to stop and think.

The world has lost a one-of-a-kind. I hope he finds peace back in the place that precedes his quantum singularity.

Ray Davis
for 6 Sense Media

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Happy Birthday, Grandma

Juanita R. DavisToday would have been my grandmother Davis’s 113th birthday. Juanita R. Davis – my paternal grandmother – was born Juanita Wood on December 18, 1904 in southern Illinois. Despite debilitating conditions that began very early in life, she lived life with an undeniable vigor and spunk. Because she fought through her challenges, many of us are here today.

Ever the consummate storyteller, Grandma Davis regaled me a number of times with her story of seeing Halley’s Comet in 1910. They went out into the country in wagons to see the spectacle. She was of that amazing generation that saw wagons become lunar landers and human beings walking on the moon.

Later in life she became a prolific writer and poet. She was published in numerous newspapers and regional magazines. She used to babysit my next youngest brother and I and she often hosted her Circle meetings. These were meetings of all women sharing community and their writing.

We lost her 29 years ago this October. Before she left this world she inspired me in ways she knew and in ways neither she nor I can understand. Certainly, I write because of her. All these years later, she remains one of the steady influences on my life.

As we prepare to dig in for Winter 2018, I decided to share one grandma’s many poems. It fully displays her ironic sense of humor and describes the unpredictability of the weather even in our day of weather satellites and big data.

She titled it “We Take It As It Comes”.

“We Take It As It Comes”

There’s no accumulation
Was what forecasters said
There’s no accumulation
So had naught to dread.

I crawled beneath the covers
And went right off to sleep
The “no accumulation”
Is now six inches deep.

Today I made a pathway
Almost a sidewalk wide
With “no accumulation”
Piled high on either side.

Be peaceful Be positive Be prosperous!

Ray

Ray Davis is the author of Anunnaki Awakening, founder of The Affirmation Spot, and co-founder of 6 Sense Media.

anunnaki_cover_full_color is an advocate for the potential of the human race. He’s life-long history buff and holds a B.S. in History Education. He’s always been fascinated by alternative views of history. His current latest novel is Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation s turning heads and opening minds. Order your signed copy today at AATrilogy.com.

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Mind, Body, Spirit Beautiful Affirmation

Mind, Body, Spirit Beautiful Affirmation

This affirmation calls forth the beauty that lives within your mind, body, and spirit. It is repeated in the first and second person for maximum effect.

I am beautiful in mind, beautiful in body, beautiful in spirit.

You are beautiful in mind, beautiful in body, beautiful in spirit.
Listen the the audio version of this affirmation on SoundCloud.

Ray

Ray Davis is the author of Anunnaki Awakening, founder of The Affirmation Spot, and co-founder of 6 Sense Media.

anunnaki_cover_full_color is an advocate for the potential of the human race. He’s life-long history buff and holds a B.S. in History Education. He’s always been fascinated by alternative views of history. His current latest novel is Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation s turning heads and opening minds. Order your signed copy today at AATrilogy.com.

 

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The Why Me Syndrome

hagar_why_me

Back in the day, I used to enjoy reading the newspaper cartoons. One I often read was Hagar the Horrible. Above is one of the most memorable cartoons I ever read. For many years, I kept this posted in various places to remind me that there was nothing special or unique about my challenges.

It happens to all of us; that moment when it’s not just raining it’s pouring. We think we can’t handle one more upset, one more hurdle, one more person cutting us off in traffic. Literally or figuratively, we look to the sky and shout, “Why me?”

It’s unlikely we’ll get the immediate and direct response Hagar receives in the cartoon. Instead, many people begin to see this as a frustrating pattern in their lives. “Why do I always meet the wrong guys?” “Why do people always cut me off in traffic?” “Why can’t I just get a break?”

The next time you’re thinking these thoughts or feeling these feelings I’d encourage you to consider something. You’re not uniquely oppressed by the universe. There’s no massive force with the sole and conscious goal to make your life miserable. And, you’re not alone.

These situations are part of our human experience and they happen to everyone of us. Why does it seem it’s always you? Because you’re always, every single time, present when it happens to you. You’re not there most of the time when it’s happening to others.

That guy who cut you off in traffic is going through it too. In fact, he might have cut you off, not because he wanted to make your life miserable, but because he’s distracted by worries about a layoff or a sick family member. He’s probably also thinking, “Why does this always happen to me?”

If we can gain perspective and get above these situations, we may even develop the ability to laugh at them and move on with our lives unscarred.

 
Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Ray Davis is an author, founder of The Affirmation Spot, and co-founder of 6 Sense Media.

His current latest novel is Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation – order your signed copy today at AATrilogy.com – founder of The Affirmation Spot and an advocate for the potential of the human race. He’s life-long history buff and holds a B.S. in History Education. He’s always been fascinated by alternative views of history.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous. 

 

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Judging Others

A friend of mine on Facebook posed a question about whether the concern about judging others, a relatively recent human ethic, had any value or whether judging could even be avoided. Here was my reply.

Practically speaking, it’s impossible not to judge things. I used to tick mark the number of times each day I did it and it was many. That process did make me more aware and reflective about it. Our minds seem hard-wired to judge, evaluate, and compare. It’s the way this tendency is so easily manipulated and the ready access to a place to “shout” those judgments that has made us a coarser society.

That said, this is an area we could all work on. I think there is a valuable ethic to be had here. The genesis of that ethic is the dilemma eloquently posed by Jesus. “Let be who is without sin cast the first stone.”

What I’ve noted over time is that hypocrisy and a lack of compassion are often huge components of judgment. That’s what Jesus was saying. Who among you has moral standing to judge someone else?

Tolstoy wrote, “Everyone thinks about changing the world, but no one thinks about changing himself.”

Judgement, especially overt judgment, is often about deflection and dereliction of the one duty we have in this life….to better the mind and the heart we occupy.

Not judging at all may be beyond us. Judging less harshly, with compassion, and an understanding of the places we have fallen short may be the goal to aspire to.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Ray Davis is an author, founder of The Affirmation Spot, and co-founder of 6 Sense Media.

His current latest novel is Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation – order your signed copy today at AATrilogy.com – founder of The Affirmation Spot and an advocate for the potential of the human race. He’s life-long history buff and holds a B.S. in History Education. He’s always been fascinated by alternative views of history.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous. 

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The Parable of Five Crosswalks

crosswalkWill is a kind young man. He goes out of his way to be kind to other people, to look them in the eye, and to smile. He seeks to treat everyone as he would want to be treated.

On this Tuesday afternoon, Will was headed to work at the local bookstore. The store was at the end of long, modern strip mall. Every day, as was his custom, Will came in at the opposite end of the mall. He has to cross five cross walks to reach the store.

At the first crosswalk, Will encountered a mother with two small children. He smiled and waved them across.

At the second crosswalk, Will waited patiently as an elderly man with a walker slowly made his way across. He smiled at Will and mouthed, “Thank you.”

The third crosswalk presented a young woman loaded down with bags. He looked at the clock on his phone, now concerned he might be late for work. The young woman smiled appreciatively as he waved her across.

As he approached the fourth crosswalk, he noticed a car that had patiently allowed several cars to turn in front of him. He stopped and let the car go, as the clock turned to 3:00. He was now officially late.

He approached the fifth crosswalk, now feeling some stress. As he approached, he saw man exiting the store and heading toward the crosswalk. It was one of those 50/50 calls. You’ve had them. Should you beat the pedestrian or wait?

Will accelerated slightly through the crosswalk. The man ran out and kicked the back of his car. He shouted that Will was a selfish a$sh*le. Then he yelled something about how selfish people Will’s age are.

You’re probably thinking what a jerk. How judgmental. You’re right.

Let’s be honest, though. How often in life are we the person at that fifth crosswalk?

Someone cuts us off in traffic. Someone holds a different political view than us. We don’t have any context. For all we know, that person could have just proverbially let four other people cross and he might be late for work. We judge that person, quickly and finally, based on one thing.

If you’re like me, you’re complicated. Far too complicated to be summed up by one action, one belief, or one word. Why don’t we give others the benefit of that doubt? Why do t we think a little more before we oversimplify other human beings and judge them based on practically nothing.

Maybe the next time you’re ready for swift summary judgment, you’ll stop and wonder about the other four crosswalks.

Be the person you came to the planet to be.

Ray

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot and the author of the author of Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation, the first in a alternative history trilogy.

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