Start Thriving Affirmation

Good morning, everyone. Here’s this morning’s #affirmation.

Today I STOP surviving and START thriving!

The WHAT and WHY of Feelings

WHAT you’re feeling is important. Ignoring our feelings can be quite destructive.

However, WHY you’re feeling what you’re feeling is FAR more important.
WHAT you’re feeling is a momentary response to stimuli. WHY you’re feeling what you’re feeling has more to do with the systematic way you process data from the world around you.

WHAT you feel changes with the next person, event, or piece of data you’re exposed to. WHY you’re feeling what you’re feeling is where you can make change. It lives behind a million conditioned responses, assumptions, and unresolved conflicts.

WHAT you’re feeling will always be a prisoner to these unconscious drivers until you make them conscious.

We unconsciously become our past until we consciously choose a different future.

So choose…

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you ARE AWESOME!
Ray

Make the Radical Choice to Be Happy No Matter What

Make the radical choice to be happy no matter what.

Happiness is right here right now always, if we choose it. I promise!

You and I place too many terms and conditions on our happiness. We say:

  • I’ll be happy if…
  • I’ll be happy when…

Yet we achieve those conditions and they may bring momentary happiness. Then we’re right back into dissatisfaction.

It’s not surprising. Our mainstream culture is a skilled merchant in unhappiness, fear, and dystopia. They sell it in bulk on the regular. We are easily swept into these eddies of dissatisfaction. If we’re not careful, they become our home.

I’m preaching at me as much as you this morning. I do it too. I place small print terms and conditions on my happiness. I waste days waiting and working for my conditions to materialize.

Buddha said, “The worst things in the world are desiring something and getting it.” I believe he was talking about this very cycle. We’re stuck in desiring rather than enjoying life. Then we get what we want and it loses its charms and appeal.

It IS a radical choice to be happy no matter what in such an environment. So, how do we achieve it?

Powerhack:

  1. Choose happiness over and over moment after moment. There’s no shortcut. Every moment presents us with a choice to be happy or be stuck in wanting and waiting.
  2. Be here now. This was the famous advice of Ram Dass. Most of our unhappiness, if you pay attention, exists in the past and the projected future. This moment is wonderful, if you choose to see it.
  3. Spend more time with roses and jasmine. This was the solution proposed by Rumi to his poetic question, “When you go to a garden do you look at thorns or flowers?” See the positive around you now.
  4. Be still and know. God or the universe, however you term it, has your back. Good things are coming. Be happy about them before they even arrive.
  5. Drop your terms and conditions and just be happy.

You are all awesome! Thanks for reading today’s post.

Ray

#RayQuote – Freedom and Happiness

Happiness and freedom are never attained by running away from something. They are possible only when you run whole-heartedly towards your dreams. They are not a change in place, but rather a change in heart.

Today you know you can find happiness and freedom. There is no secret. You already have the answers. Look to your heart, listen closely to its words and wisdom, and then run straight towards what it’s telling you.

Have a great day everyone. Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you ARE awesome!

Ray

Challenge YOUR Status Quo

Challenge YOUR Status Quo

It’s funny what a difference a word or two can make in meaning. Most of you have heard the quote, “practice makes perfect.” It’s a Vince Lombardi quote, but the popular version isn’t the whole quote. The actual quote is, “perfect practice makes perfect.”

Small word change, but a huge difference in meaning. The first version tells me that if I practice my flawed golf swing, over and over and over, I’ll magically have a better golf swing. The latter coaches that I need to get my golf swing to a good place and then practice the right way over and over to achieve excellence.

It’s a pithy piece of advice to tell someone to “challenge THE status quo.” I’ve written a number of articles over the years on that topic myself.

It sounds very rebellious. Many people are willing to try it. There’s little to no risk in it. Here’s why.

Challenging THE status quo is a nebulous endeavor. What does it even mean? Is it driving a practical car when all, your friends drive sports cars? Does it mean growing your hair longer or wearing out-of-style clothes? Does it mean saying yes when society as a whole says no or vice versa?

These type of behaviors aren’t challenging anything meaningful. They’re non-conformity for non-conformity’s sake. What is that but a new kind of conformity?

No, you must challenge YOUR status quo. You must put your most cherished beliefs to the test once in a while. Take them out to the woodshed and kick the crap out of them. Poke holes in them like a prosecutor would. Evaluate your beliefs the way you would your ideological opponent’s.

Until you do that, what are they but someone else’s theories and talking points adopted by you?

Do they stand up to that kind of scrutiny? Yes. Wonderful, you’ve got principles that are keepers. No or not sure? Maybe these are things you should reconsider or at least be more flexible and less dogmatic about.

Just like perfect practice makes perfect. Challenging YOUR status quo is the only way separate the wheat from the chaff in your belief system.

Have an amazing 4th!

Ray