RayQuotes #4

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Big, Crazy, Ideas – Day 221 of 365 Days to a Better You

Count me a fool for big, crazy ideas and a dolt for big flipping dreams. Forgive me for not realizing I should have given up my idealism because I have a certain number of candles on my birthday cake. Pardon me for not accepting the belief that being “an adult” means capitulation to small thinking.

There’s been a definite theme in my world this week. I’ve been in a number of personal and online conversations this week where people have conveyed to me that I should cease aiming for the stars for our country and our world and get some realism. I should accept that what is is and it will never change.

No, that’s not what these good people thought they were conveying. They thought they were being logical, practical, and real. They thought they were talking me back from the edge of what we all know can’t be.

To that, I say thank you but no thank you. When I look around, I see a world stuck for the lack of big thinking. I see people sad because they “grew up” and stopped pushing for their dreams and their ideals. They packed it in, put on the armor of hardened dogma and “status quoism” and called it good.

Well, as long as I draw breath, that will never be me! I’ll never cease believing that the richest nation in the history of the world can figure out an enlightened approach to ensuring access to healthcare for all its citizens. I refuse to buy into the idea that we must fix every pothole on Earth before we can reach for the stars. I will never surrender to the idea that hatred and perpetual war is a natural, normal state for the human race. I will always believe we can create a just society where every single person lives in dignity and genuine abundance of mind, body, and spirit.

If I have to die on these “crazy” hills, I’m in. If you ask me to apologize for seeing a better humanity and a better world, I decline. I’d rather be labeled a crazy dreamer than succumb to the death of small thinking.

WHO’S WITH ME?

I love you all. Be crazy for your BIG dreams today.

Ray

The Power of L.O.S.S. – Day 220 of 365 Days to a Better You

Today’s Affirmation:
I accept my losses and learn from them! Defeat is simply opportunity disguised as setback.

Many people see losing or a loss as a very negative thing. Like anything else, losing is all in how you look at it. A well-studied loss can be every bit as valuable in our journey as a victory. I’m not saying that losing is more fun than winning or that winning isn’t valuable. Clearly, we all want to win.

The truth is that most winners had to experience losing before they ever succeeded. So what if you chose to look at your losses in a slightly different light? A loss might be seen as Lessons and Obstacles on your way to Stunning Successes.

  • L – Lessons: Losing nearly always provides some lessons and some clues on how to improve. If you pay attention to the things that contributed to the loss, you can apply those lessons to future situations. Given time, you find the winning combination.
  • O – Obstacles – Losses are clearly obstacles. After all, your goal was to win or succeed. However, an obstacle might challenge you to improve or increase your determination to succeed. Used as mental and emotional leverage, a good obstacle can propel you to future victories.
  • S – Stunning – Losing can get you down and make you feel unworthy. In that dark moment of loss, remember to see what a stunning miracle you are. You are a diamond in the rough slowly being polished into something very special.
  • S – Successes – Success is that moment of break through when the journey of loss has been transformed into victory. The lessons, obstacles, and seeing how stunning you are kept you on track to enjoy the sweet taste of success.

So you see a loss is never loss. It’s an opportunity, an invitation to a journey of self-discovery, stretching yourself, and new achievement.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Seven Ways to Lose the Drama in Your Life – Day 219 of 365 Days to a Better You

Drama is awesome in a movie, but taxing in our lives. How do you minimize the drama in your life? Based on feedback from readers, TinyBuddha.com compiled a list of seven things you can do to reduce the drama.

  1. Recognize when you’re the source of the drama. If you want to go on a drama diet, start with you. You’re the person you have the most control over. You might find, when considered beyond the heat of the moment, that you started or contributed to your last dramatic episode.
  2. Change your perspective. Is the situation going to matter in a year or even 10 minutes from now? Avoid making mountains out of molehills.
  3. Don’t feed into other people’s drama. So, you didn’t cause the drama, but did your pour oil on their fire of drama? Let them have their moment and move on.
  4. Reconsider unhealthy relationships. Are there people who bring nothing but drama to you? Harsh as it might sound, you may have to cut ties to cut the drama. This is, of course, a balance. If a person brings real value in your life but lots of drama too, you may try having a dispassionate conversation with them to see if you can come to an agreement to reduce drama.
  5. Be clear with other people. Sometimes drama is just miscommunication. Both people are reacting rather than responding to the situation. Go to your calm place and take the emotion out of it to get to clear communication.
  6. Be slow to label it drama. Sometimes it’s just a lack of patience or insight that causes us to call something drama. The other person might just really need you right now. Seen and understood in a different light the “drama” might just be a need for compassion.
  7. Learn from drama. This might be the most important one. Are you having the same drama over and over? Maybe the other person and you aren’t learning from past dramas. Get conscious. If you know something sets them off, do you really need to go there? Conversely, if you know your buttons are being pushed, get conscious and choose a different reaction or take some space.

Your life doesn’t have to be a constant soap opera, if you’ll take these steps to lose the drama.

You’re amazing! I just wanted to tell you that in case no one else reminds you today.

Ray

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Random Motivational Thoughts #4

Good morning, my friends. May these random motivational thoughts get your day off to an inspired start.

Ray

Going Beyond Five Senses – Day 218 of 365 Days to a Better You

Reality is merely and illusion, albeit a very persistent one.
~Albert Einstein

Have you ever had that moment of epiphany where an idea, a comment, or someone else’s way of doing something suddenly makes sense to you? You realize that you were bound by a limitation in your thinking or you didn’t have a certain piece of information that allowed it to make sense to you. Without that expanded awareness we could never have become aware of this expanded reality.

Two things are true of our five senses. We rely heavily upon them to understand and navigate the world around us. We have no context to truly evaluate how accurate or inaccurate they are in understanding reality. 

Looking to the animal world, we see that our senses are not as acute as other animals. A cat can see far better than we can. A dog can smell far better. Being clever as we are, we’ve developed tools to help us detect some things beyond the realm of our sensory perception.

When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world with completely fresh eyes.
~Barbara Sher

Our prevalent means of understanding the world – science – places a hard boundary between reality and unreality where our senses and even our clever tools cease to register information. Yet, we must acknowledge this is an arbitrary boundary superimposed on a scale whose scope we have no way of knowing. Over time our tools get better and inch their way into that darkness of unreality.

Is our awareness pushing the true boundaries of reality or is it barely a blip in a vast universe of awareness and intelligence not reachable by our five senses and the tools they produce? By limiting ourselves to the confines of that world view, are we condemning ourselves to a permanent and profound sense of misunderstanding reality?

When we fall asleep, we withdraw our awareness from its hypnotic fascination with physical sensation, thereby enabling us to listen with our now awakening sixth sense.
~Henry Reed

After all, we’re born with our five senses. We’re encouraged to use them and sharpen them from a very young age. Over our lifetimes, we become very biased towards them. Is this analogous to being marooned on and island and searching for food only on the land, ignoring the possibility that the sea around our island may be more abundant?

What other options are available to us? Well, we have our sixth sense. Various cultures have defined this in different ways. Some view mind as the sixth sense. Others refer to an intuitive sense that transcends the five senses and, when listened to, provides a richer picture of reality than just our five senses. Some people use phrases like “listening to their heart” or “listening to their gut.”

A poet, you see, is a light thing, and winged and holy, and cannot compose before he gets inspiration and loses control of his senses and his reason has deserted him.
~Plato

These conceptions seem very mushy to a rational brain that is the great defender of the tyranny of our five senses. It prefers the materialistic version of the world our five senses project into our minds. It’s physical and measurable and visible.

Our sixth sense is far more ephemeral, open, and uncertain or at least it feels that way to the brain conditioned by a steady diet of rational materialism. Yet, it opens us up, if we’ll go with it and allow it, to a whole other level of perception and reality that seems to reach out to meet us from the vast depths of unawareness and invisibility.

Am I saying we give up our five senses and the rational world they have produced? No. I am suggesting that we do have a means, living within each and every one of us, to enhance and expand their capabilities and shine a light on realities they could never reach alone. 

Knowing that, why would we choose to remain stuck with one very powerful sense tied behind our backs?

Stop keeping it so “real” and expand your consciousness. I love you all!

Ray