The 10 Promises

friendsThere comes a time to make certain commitments to yourself. That time is now. Here are 10 promises to make to yourself to begin getting the results you want in life.

Why is now the time? Because! Because you know that your dreams are right here, right now for you. You know that by following them, you will benefit you, benefit your family, benefit your friends, and benefit the planet. You came here to make a difference and today you do!

No judgment! Some days you will live up to these and some days you won’t, but if you seek to EVERY day, amazing things are on the way for you.

1) Today I am ready to believe and I am ready to achieve!
2) Today I seek solutions and results rather than problems and excuses!
3) Today I take massive action on my dreams!
4) Today I refuse to put off until tomorrow what will benefit me today!
5) Today I refuse to put off until tomorrow what will benefit my family today!
6) Today I refuse to put off until tomorrow what will benefit my friends today!
7) Today I invest in me to get the best in me!
8) Today I believe that setbacks are shortcuts to something better than I had planned!
9) I came to the planet to make my difference and today I do!
10) My dreams refuse to quit on me and I refuse to quit on my dreams!

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

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Your To Be List – The Affirmation Spot for Thursday October 20, 2011

Today’s Affirmation:

“I absorb knowledge like a sponge and retain it for use at the appropriate time.”
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to_be_listOur society is built on getting things done. Productive action is an important ingredient to our success. The “To-Do List” is a staple of our productivity society.

We make these lists to remind us of the tasks we need to complete in a day, a week, or some other time period. Some people use them as a guide, while others meticulously check off each task as it is completed.

The super-organized among us are probably already creating their 2012 To-Do Lists. Nearly all of us are thinking about the things we “have to get done” in the next year.

Numerous motivational speakers and spiritual teachers have commented that we are human “beings” not human “doings”. This is commentary on our propensity to focus on the doing at the expense of the being.

Their goal is to remind us that we are here as surely TO BE as we are to do. They are suggesting an imbalance in our lives between doing and being. With our fast-paced, modern, rush, rush, rush society; who can argue?

The extreme answer to reducing your “doingness” is to sell your possessions and go live as a monk on a mountain top somewhere. You could then spend your entire life just being. That’s not a realistic or even appealing option for most of us.

So, how do you find a beingness/doingness balance in your life? How do you keep yourself reminded to “just be” or to become who you want TO BE?

Create a To-Be List. I know, I know, I see the paradox in suggesting a doing to improve your ability to be. Life is full of paradoxes.

Your To-Be List has two aspects:

  1. Planned Beingness – these times can go right on your calendar along with your to-dos. They are planned times in your day or week where you plan to just be. Just being can mean meditating, sitting quietly, or brainstorming…you get to define what it means for you. There are just two rules. This time must be time away from your To-Do List activites. You’re not doing any of them or thinking about them. PLANNED BEINGNESS IS YOU TIME. Place this in your daily To-Do List or on your calendar. Plan your beingness.
  2. Visionary Beingness– answers the question, “Who do I want TO BE a year from now?” A To-Do List enumerates the tasks you want to get done in the next year. Your To-Be List can enumerate the characteristics you want TO BE in the next year. These can be self-development goals, career goals, or personal characteristics. This is your list of things TO BE in the coming year. It’s an organized way to spell out who you want TO BE the same way you list what you need to do. Examples include the following.
    • By ______, I will BE less judgmental than I am now.
    • By ______, I will BE more courageous in following my dreams than I am now.
    • By ______, I will BE in a managerial role.
    • By ______, I will BE more at peace than I am today.
    • By ______, I will BE a more accomplished writer.
    • By ______, I will BE a more effective business owner.

Tips for Success:

  • Make your To-Be List as important as your To-Do List.
  • Use existing tools like your current electronic calendar or hard copy planner to create your To-Be List right along side your To-Do List.
  • Make it part of your routine.
  • Spend time each day reviewing your To-Be List just as you do your To-Do List.

By making time TO BE, you will experience greater peace and contentment. By envisioning who you want TO BE, you are focusing your mind and your efforts to create the circumstances, opportunities, and intention to make it so. Create an expectation that you will complete your T0-Be List the same way you complete your To-Do List and you will!

Let me take this opportunity to say thank you for reading this blog. I know your time is valuable and I am really working to bring you the best blog possible – one that adds real value to your life each day. Your readership makes it all worth it.

Please let me know what I can do to make it more empowering, thought-provoking, or meaningful for you. I do read every comment and email. If this blog is adding value to your life, please tell at least one friend about it! Thank you for your support.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

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Random Thoughts #13 – The Affirmation Spot for Monday January 25, 2010

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Sharing a few random thoughts and affirmations going through my mind this Monday.

  • Failure is only final when you quit. Until that moment, you are a success in progress!
  • The end of a dream is the end of one dream; not the end of dreaming.
  • Monday is one-seventh of your life. Never write it off!
  • Learning Affirmation: Today I pledge to learn from what I don’t understand rather than fearing it!
  • Bliss Affirmation: As I follow my bliss, I find that my bliss starts chasing me!
  • Let doubt run wild in your life! Doubt your fears. Doubt your limitations. Doubt your doubts. Just never doubt yourself!

Stay inspired!

Ray

2010 Affirmation

“2010 is MY year! This is the year I break free! This is the year I break through! This is the year I break out!”

Broken Dreams

Today’s Thought:

The opening window of victory often comes disguised as the closing door of defeat.

ombre d'un hommeDuring last week’s BCS National Championship game between Alabama and Texas, a dream was broken in a very public way. We all experience broken dreams in our lives. Sometimes they happen in lonely, desperate moments and sometimes they happen on a very public stage.

For Texas senior quarterback Colt McCoy, his dream was broken on a national stage. By all accounts, McCoy passed on the guaranteed millions of last year’s NFL draft because of his desire to lead his Texas Longhorns to a national championship.

Through the course of a long season, McCoy had positioned his team on the doorstep of his dream – a berth in the national championship game. Then the dream shattered. On the fifth play from scrimmage, McCoy took a hit from Alabama’s Marcel Dareus. The All-American quarterback and two-time Heisman Trophy finalist was down for the count.

The media later reported about his failed attempts to revitalize the dream by trying to prove to team doctors he could play with his numb arm. However, a locker room attempt to play catch with his father only demonstrated his injury left him unable to control his throws.

Most of the focus went to the injury’s impact on the outcome of the big game, but a bigger question for all of us is how do we cope with the big dream going wrong?

Despite all of our confidence, determination, and positive thoughts, life does not always go our way. How do we deal when that happens? Do we give up and quit? Do we pick ourselves up and go for it again?

Here is one way to handle these situations. It should be noted that depending on the situation and the person, these phases may last varying lengths of time.

  1. Feel your feelings – absolutely avoid trying to hide, mask, or pretend that you’re not down about the situation. You’re a human being and human beings feel hurt when  they lose something important. It’s normal and natural so let yourself feel it.
  2. Accept – accept what is. As important as feeling your feelings, is accepting the reality of the loss or defeat. Acceptance forms the foundation that allows you to transform the situation into something positive.
  3. Regroup and evaluate – after you’ve felt your feeling and accepted the situation, you are ready to think about how to move forward. Is the goal or dream something that is repeatable? Can you make another attempt? If so, is it worth the effort for you to do so? Are there other dreams that this situation makes possible because you have more time or energy to put into them? Especially, a big setback is the perfect opportunity to take stock of where you are and make some decisions about where you want to go.
  4. First steps forward – to this point in the process, you’ve been trying to hold your ground in the face of the situation. Now it’s time to begin moving forward again and pushing towards your new dreams and priorities. Now you begin to have perspective and you see how what seemed like a setback was really a stepping stone to things you never thought of or anticipated.
  5. Belief – as you begin to move forward, your confidence rebuilds and you begin to believe again. You become passionate about your new possibilities and eager to pursue them.
  6. New achievement – the final stage is when your hard work, determination, and belief place you in position for a new achievement. You’ve grown from your past defeats and you’re now more ready than ever to shine and to show what you’ve got. Think about it. How many sports teams jump from obscurity to champion in one year? Not very many. Most teams will make the playoffs once or twice with varying success. They take what they learn from their losses and begin again towards the dream. Then one year a champion is suddenly born.

What’s next for Colt McCoy? Well, probably the NFL millions he passed on last season. The dream of a college national championship is one he’ll have to give up in pursuit of new dreams.

Setback is part of the human condition. The key is that whether your setback is private or very public like Colt McCoy’s you can come back. You can go even further the next time.

After all, roadblocks are only shortcuts to something better than you had planned!

Stay inspired!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

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Be the Driver in Your Life – The Affirmation Spot for Wednesday December 16, 2009

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Today’s Affirmation:

“A new day dawns…I am a new person today; a better person, a healthier person, a happier person.”

captains_wheelIf your strategy is to let life happen to you; it will. It’s time to put you back in the driver’s seat in your life in 2010. Ask yourself, honestly, “Am I the driver or the passenger in my life?” Yes, I know we can’t control everything that happens to us. I also understand the wisdom of just being and going with the flow.

Neither is a reason to not be the driver in your own life. Things out of your control are going to happen whether you are the driver or the passenger in your life. That’s no reason not to be steering the things you can control. There is wisdom in “just being”, but it is so much more beneficial when done as a conscious choice to enhance your life rather than as the result of sitting in a rudderless boat.

Wayne Dyer talks about being not only the actor in your life, but also the director and producer. Actors are just given scripts that they then play out. They have no say in how the story line progresses. Directors make conscious choices about how the story is going to be told. Producers select the ideas that become the storylines created by directors and actors.

CHOOSE your storyline in 2010. It’s not enough to just tell or act someone else’s vision of your life. Put yourself in the driver’s seat.

Here are a few tips for putting you in the driver’s seat.

  1. Be the driver – stop seeing yourself as the passenger in a life where things “just happen” to you. You have a say and you have a lot of control over what happens in your life and how you react and adapt to it.
  2. Make the decisions – if you have become a passenger in your life, you have probably given control to someone else. Take it back. Be ready to accept advice from others (many heads are better than one), but make your own decisions.
  3. Take credit and responsibility – give yourself the credit for your achievements and take responsibility for your failures. Others play a role in successes and failures, but you are ultimately responsible for the results and choices in your life.
  4. Get back up – getting knocked down or facing a setback is an event not a way of life for people driving their lives. Life is full of bumps and bruises. Adapt and move on.
  5. Empower your thinking – practice empowered thinking. Here are the three aspects of empowered thinking.
    • Thought aspect – you have to think positively. Belief and commitment are important in any endeavor. Show me two people of equal talent – one who believes in his or her ability and one who does not – and I can tell you with high accuracy who will succeed. Positive thinking is imperative to maximize success potential in any endeavor. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t; you’re are right.” Positive thinking is the basis for empowered thinking, but empowered thinking is more than just positive thinking. It incorporates two more elements.
    • Knowledge aspect – you have to be informed. In achievement pursuits, know what you are trying to achieve and be informed on what is going to be involved in succeeding. Knowing that ahead of time can help you prepare mentally for it. When empowering your thinking to critically evaluate information you need to know as many of the facts as possible. Positive thinking without information does not allow you to take powerful action. When you combine positive thinking with information you lay the groundwork for powerful action in your life.
    • Action aspect – empowered thinking is more than just thinking and knowing. Empowered thinking includes action. If you have incorporated the first two elements, your actions can be motivated and informed. Until there is action, informed positive thinking is just wishful thinking. Your world is supported by intentions, but it is built by actions.
  6. Take action – the driver’s seat is a place of action. The passenger’s seat is a place of passivity, paralysis, and fear of moving forward and making change. Take action. Some actions don’t work out, but you cannot allow that fear to stop you from being the driver in your life.

If you’ve been the passenger for too long, make 2010 your year to shift back over into the driver’s seat. Take the wheel and start steering! If you’re already the driver in your life, keep the momentum going into the new year!

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”

Overcoming the Fear of Failure – The Affirmation Spot for Monday October 12, 2009

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“The fear of failure is the shortest route to it.”

~ Ray Davis

Homer FailureI was recently reading an article where they were comparing Japanese and American students’ approaches to learning. The writer pointed out that it is not uncommon to see a Japanese student fail numerous times on his or her way to learning something successfully. In Japan, there is no stigma to failing along the road to success. It is an expected and accepted part of the learning process.

In the United States, we attach a tremendous amount of stigma to failing. So much so that American students are generally not willing to go through the process of failing to learn. American students tend to focus their attention on subjects where they can be successful and shy away from subjects where failure might be involved.

So instead of going through the failure to learn process we often hear our children say things like, “I hate math.” They don’t really mean that they have something personal against math. What they are saying is, “I would have to fail too many times to get math and I’m not willing to do it.”

I’m not here to say that one nation’s approach to learning is superior. However, this fear of failing extends beyond school and impacts our adult life as well. Many people have big dreams or goals they would like to accomplish, but, again, they are still not willing feel the sting of failure to get there. Instead, they learn to play it safe just as their children do with the math.

That’s where my little aphorism at the top comes in. When fear failure so much that we are unwilling to try, unwilling to risk learning new things and failing a little; we cannot achieve our goals and dreams. All because of the stigma of failure.

Recondition yourself to overcome your fear of failure. In an outstanding article, Olimpio Zapanta offers five steps for overcoming the fear of failure.

  1. Divorce failure from your self-esteem.
  2. Failure is not all bad. It can be a great teacher.
  3. Failure and success are intimately linked – failure is often a prerequisite for success.
  4. Successful people fail constantly. That’s how they succeed.
  5. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect before you go for it.

With these five great steps and determination, don’t let the fear of failure sidetrack you from your destiny! Remember that “A Success” is what we call someone who had the courage to persist through failures.

Stay Inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”

CALL Your Negative Thoughts – The Affirmation Spot for Friday September 18, 2009

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woman_eyes_closed_sun_rs“Speak of the Devil and he appears,” goes the old aphorism. Some people in the positive thought movement seem to think the same thing about negative thoughts. They are something to be avoided at all costs. You must stamp them out like burning embers of a campfire to prevent their spread.

Obviously, the goal of positive thinking and affirmations is to diminish negative thoughts and counter them with positive thoughts. This is a worthy and highly beneficial goal that enahances your life. Negative thoughts, however, are a natural part of being human. We all have them and we will always have them.

To panic and spend a lot of time concerning yourself with them, only causes them to blossom and grow. Recognizing them, accepting them, and letting them go steals their power and allows them to vanish back into the void from where they came. Having a negative thought is not the problem. Allowing them to become your habitual way of seeing things is what you want to avoid.

Actually, our negative thoughts provide a natural benefit. They spread light on the parts of us that need work and attention. If you always have negative thoughts about your job, maybe that part of your life needs some attention. If you have negative thoughts about certain people, those may be relationships that need work.

It’s rather entertaining sometimes to simply “thought watch”. Our minds are interesting things. When we relax, close your eyes, and watch your thoughts for a while you notice how impermanent thoughts are. They appear and create feelings. The disappear and the feelings disappear with them.

If your thoughts are very destructive and involve hurting yourself or others, get professonal help.
Here are four things you can do to handle and live more harmoniously with common negative thoughts. They form the word CALL.
  1. Counter – counter your negative thoughts with tools like affirmations. Persistent negative thoughts can be countered and changed by offering a positive alternatives.
  2. Accept – accept that you will have negative thoughts and it’s OK. You’re human afterall. No beating yourself up.
  3. Listen – listen to your negative thoughts. They may provide insight into where you need to focus your self-improvement efforts.
  4. Laugh – some of your negative thoughts really are pretty funny when you get enough perspective. Lighten up and see the humor in the way your mind works.

I’m not saying don’t try to transform your negative thoughts into something positive. I’m just saying that when they want to come out and play, CALL allows you to say, “Bring it on!”

Be peaceful Be positive Be prosperous!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”