Five Steps to Constant Motivation – Day 234 of 365 Days to a Better You

You often hear sportscasters talk about a team getting “Big Mo” on their side. In that context, they’re referring to momentum. I’m talking about the other “Big Mo” – motivation. If you have the latter, I can practically guarantee you’ll have the the former.

What is Motivation?

It’s an internalized drive that pulls your powers of heart, mind, and body in a purposeful direction. It pushes you toward action and achievement and away from stagnation and procrastination. It’s something within that lights your fire, drives ambition, gives you a zest for life, and provides a reason for getting up in the morning.

Where Does It Come From?

Inspiration. Many use motivation and inspiration interchangeably. They’re similar concepts, but their source is different. While motivation is the internal fire, inspiration is the external spark that lights it. Ate you looking for motivation? The good news is its inspiration can come from a million places – a movie, a book, an experience, a sudden insight, a conversation with a friend. There’s no end to the constant sparks around you ready, as soon as you’re willing, to light that fire inside.

How to Make Motivation Work for You

Great! Now you know what motivation is and where you can dip your candle to get the flame going. How do you use it and keep it burning?

  1. Purpose – undirected motivation is a fire that soon flickers out. You must have a compelling goal that keeps feeding the fire.
  2. Action – stationary motivation quickly fizzles. Once you have a purpose, start moving toward it. Don’t wait. Procrastination is water on your fire.
  3. Goals – your purpose is a big, all encompassing target. Have small, achievable goals along the way towards it. Nothing feeds the fire like success.
  4. Celebrate – celebrate those little successes along the way. This adds incentive to keep acting in the direction of your goals and purpose.
  5. Dream – dream big, colorful dreams that employ as many of your senses as possible. The more senses that are involved the more real the dream. While goals are the intellectual objectives, dreaming is the emotional engine that keeps the whole train moving down the track. It sucks in the inspiration from all around you and keeps pushing you to act.

If you do these five things, rinse, and repeat, you’ll never be unmotivated in your life again.

Have a beautiful and MOTIVATED day!

Ray

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10 Reasons for Optimism Today – Day 207 of 365 Days to a Better You

Good Tuesday, my friends. When you think about it, there’s always reasons close by for optimism.

  1. You woke up this morning. You can’t start better than that.
  2. You have freedom of choice. Your life is built of your choices. You are free to change yours, if you want a change in your life.
  3. People facing your exact challenges or worse have succeeded and thrived anyway.
  4. You’re a day wiser than you were yesterday.
  5. When you really stop and look, there are tiny miracles going on everywhere around you. Make it a point to notice.
  6. There is inspiration for the life you want everywhere. Drink it in.
  7. Love. Despite all the ugliness in the world, love still wins.
  8. You’re you and that’s damn sure more than enough.
  9. Forgiving and receiving forgiveness are still options.
  10. You have a big dream. You have all you need within you to achieve it. You have help from the universe coming from all directions.

Don’t allow the negatives and naysayers to steal your optimism. Don’t allow setbacks to steal your dreams. Don’t allow the end of one dream to be the end of dreaming. You’re made for BIG things. Keep your focus on the good and the good will multiply.

You’re one in a trillion. I’m glad to know you!

Ray

How to Write Affirmations That Change Your Life – Day 203 of 365 Days to a Better You

Thought for the Day:

Affirmations without action are just glorified wishful thinking. Affirmations are “mental armor” supporting empowered action, not a substitute for it.

Over the past several years, I’ve written many articles about affirmations -how affirmations work, types of affirmations, ways to use affirmations, etc., etc., etc. Some of those articles are linked to in this article.

However, I’ve never just written an article on how to write an effective affirmation. Today I had a request from a follower on Twitter to provide a “how to” and decided it was a good time to write that article. Let me begin by saying that there are many gurus out there with many ideas on how to correctly write affirmations. There are also some dogmas around the process. I’m not big on dogmas of any kind. So some of this might be unorthodox. Feel free to use what resonates for you.

Before we begin, let me make a few quick points. Affirmations are a tool to reshape and refocus your thoughts. By themselves, they don’t “make” anything happen. However, as you replace negative thoughts with negative vibrations with positive thoughts and positive vibrations, you do begin to attract better things into your life. Affirmations without action are just wishful thinking. The idea is that as you raise the vibration of your thoughts, you become more inspired to take action to manifest those thoughts as reality in the world. See the thought of the day at the top of the article.


I recommend reading my two part series on
Affirmations: Repetition and Belief along with using this list to create your affirmations. Following is  7-step process for creating your own affirmations. This is my way. It has worked for me over the past 20 years. Others might have another way that works for them.

  1. Start with a goal – you must have a goal in mind. The clearer the goal, the better the affirmation and the better chance for success. A cloudy goal leads to an unclear affirmation, and poor results.
  2. Affirm what you can believe – affirmations are not a tool for persuading you to believe something you don’t believe. They are a tool to help you create and multiply thoughts that support the action necessary to achieve the things you believe you can achieve. However, you can use what I call “aspirational affirmations” to help manifest a distant goal. You just need to be able to believe you can achieve that goal one day. (Read more Incremental Affirmations and Unrealistic Affirmations)
  3. Use clear language – the language of your affirmation should be clear and powerful for you. It’s OK to use phrases and terms that are very personal to you as long as the language resonates and feels empowering when you say it. Be as specific as possible.
  4. Present Tense – in most cases, it is more effective to use the present tense when writing, speaking, or listening to affirmations. In other words, state your affirmation as “I am…” rather than “I will..” or “I should”. The lone exception would be those discussed in the Incremental Affirmations article.
  5. First, second, and third person – most affirmation gurus will tell you to always put your affirmations in the first person, such as I am a magnificent dancer, rather than the second person you are a magnificent dancer. I agree that first person is the best if you are only going to choose one. Why stop with first person, though? An affirmation can be very powerful in the second person and using your name. I recommend using all three. I am a great writer. You are a great writer. Ray is a great writer. This holographic language creates a more powerful and holistic affirmation. (Read more Adding the Power of You to Your Affirmations)
  6. Use them, use them, use them – once you have written an empowering affirmation, use it. Like so many other motivational tools, affirmations are created and then cast aside after a day or two. Read them aloud, read them into the mirror, post them places where you can see them throughout your day, record them and listen to them passively (Listening Passively to Affirmations) or actively over and over until they infuse your mind. The goal for an affirmation is to have it replace the negative or disempowering thoughts and become thoroughly embedded in your thought process so that it becomes the automatic response  (How Do You Know Your Affirmations are Working?) to your negative thoughts.
  7. Take action – affirmations without action is just wishful thinking. You must think and then act, if you are to achieve.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.He’s spent the past 21 years in sales and sales training for major companies.

He is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series (2015). Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle.

Gratitude for Things We Take for Granted – Day 155 of 365 Days to a Better You

There are million little things we take for granted every day that make our lives work. We’re not, nor could we be, constantly cognizant of them all.

  • You take for granted the sun comes up each morning.
  • You take for granted all the systems in your car are functioning as they need to be to allow you to safely drive down the highway at 70 miles per hour.
  • You take for granted that the cook at the restaurant is taking health precautions in preparing your food.

There are just so many. Perhaps the most vital thing we take for granted is the next breath. We take over 17,000 breaths a day. We’ve been doing it all day every day for years or decades. It’s easy to take it for granted.

Unless you do certain kinds of meditation practice, you probably only notice your breath when you are out of breath or having trouble breathing.

For instance, April and I were on a late flight from Chicago to Boston the other night. I didn’t know it until yesterday, but I had bronchitis developing. As some of you know, the pressurized cabin in a plane exacerbates symptoms like that.

I was having a terrible time breathing on the flight. For two hours, I was practically having to consciously force breaths in and out. April was AWESOME, as she always is, helping me. It was quite frightening. It took all the Zen I could muster to stay focused and make it back to Boston.

It reminded me how something I don’t notice most of the time can become so important.

Power Hack: These forgotten things you take for granted fill in the gaps and make your life work. As I said above, it’s humanly impossible and not even productive to pay attention them all. However, you can develop a strong sense of gratitude for these little miracles that lay the foundation on which you can build your big dreams. Without the sun, the next breath, or those systems in your car, where would you be?

Stay in gratitude, my friends, and thanks for reading today.

Ray

 

Define Your Own Happiness – Day 97 of 365 Days to a Better You

Can you define happiness for you?

What makes you happy? Do you know?

The vast majority of people say they want to be happy in life. For a topic so important, many go through life without ever really defining what it means for them.

The Declaration of Independence enshrines happiness in the American consciousness.

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

You probably are among those pursuing happiness, but have you ever really taken the time to determine what makes you happy? Some of the all-time greats have tried to define happiness. Their definitions may guide you on the path, but you are the only one who can truly decide what makes you happy.

Here are a few of my favorite definitions of happiness and descriptions of the pursuit of happiness. Give them a look and really think about this question. What would truly make you happy?

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
~Mahatma Gandhi

The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.
~Socrates

The myriad things are complete in us. There is no greater joy than to reflect on ourselves and become sincere.
~Mencius

Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.
~Henry David Thoreau

Happiness depends on ourselves.
~Aristotle

There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path.
~Buddha

What can you glean from these quotes? Happiness, it would seem, is something that is aligned with being your true self, aligning with your true path, basically being authentically you.

How are you doing that right now? How are you not doing that right now? How could you do more of it?

Happiness may be that elusive butterfly, but you, my friend, are born to attract it.

Ray

Just a reminder. Tomorrow begins our 10-Day Detox. I’ve had a couple people share what they are giving up. Beginning at midnight tonight, no soda (especially by beloved Dr. Pepper) will touch my lips for 10 days.

This, by the way, falls very much in line with John Stuart Mill’s quote about happiness.

“I have learned to seek my happiness by limiting my desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy them.”

 

 

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others – Day 15 of 365 Days to a Better You

Stop comparing yourself to others.

We humans are comparison shoppers. It’s probably some kind of a survival mechanism that we’re always weighing, ranking, and judging ourselves and everything around us.

  • “She’s so much prettier than me.”
  • He’s so much more successful than me.”
  • “They’re so lucky.”
  • “I wish I had that life.”
  • “I hate rich people.”
  • “I’ll never be that smart.”

These are a few of the millions of ways we judge, compare, and become jealous of what other people have. There is nothing productive in any of this. The time we spend doing this is time better spent working on ourselves.

One of the sure keys to success and happiness, though, is to stop doing this and run your own race. Masters, gurus, and weekend motivational teachers galore have offered some version of the only person you need to be comparing yourself to is you yesterday.

Get in the habit of being so into doing you that you don’t have time to worry about what others were doing. You’re in a one-person race, but if you’re consciousness is in everyone else’s lane, you’ll never run your best.

Every flower is beautiful in it’s own way. So are we!

Aloha from Kauai!

Ray

Power hack: If you have trouble doing this, try “tick-marking.” Have a sheet of paper handy throughout the day. Each time you catch yourself comparing yourself to someone else, stop, make a tick mark on your sheet. Consciously stopping and awareness of how much you do this are great ways to reduce it.

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Down Time on the Beach

Loving decompression time at the beach this week. Hope you are enjoying some down time as a part of your holidays. I sometimes think we were meant to just live on a beach and watch the ocean weave it’s tale. Then there’s that return to reality or what we call “reality,” Ah, but not yet!