Love Thy Neighbor – Day 274 of 365 Days to a Better You

There’s a giant compassion gap in the very heart of our culture. You see it manifest on social media or when listening to talk radio. It may even lead to heated words at a family gathering.

What’s the problem? Millions of “woke” or”morally upstanding” people literally despise whole categories of people and believe they’re completely ethically justified in doing so. Names and labels flow from the mouth and the keyboard, in utter denial of the other person’s humanity or point of view.

It’s gotten so bad that some people band-aid a workaround strategy. They’ve stopped even communicating with people in certain groups. This passes for sanity in an increasingly dysfunctional social arena.

If I’m describing a struggle you’re having, I’m not here to point the finger at you. I am here to tell you it’s not healthy. You can’t really be woke or morally upstanding and despise whole swaths of your neighbors. You probably know that. Yet two words are longing to come out of your mouth, “But they…”

Two of history’s greatest spiritual teachers – Jesus of Nazareth and Siddhartha Gautama – had very clear words for us on this topic. I’ll paraphrase.

Jesus was asked what is the greatest commandment. He replied, “Love the Lord God with all thy heart and love thy neighbor as ye love thyself.”

In another circumstance, Jesus said, “Judge not that you be not judged.”

Buddha was equally clear and on the same page. He’s recorded as saying. “He abused me, he hurt me, he robbed me. Those who harbor such thoughts know not peace. He abused me, he hurt me, he robbed me. Those who harbor not such thoughts shall find peace…for some do not know that soon we all die. Those who realize this cease their quarrels immediately.”

It can’t be much clearer. There’s no fine print. Jesus and Buddha didn’t have their lawyers review their teachings and tag on exclusionary language. They meant love everyone. No exceptions.

If you judge, you’ll be similarly judged. If you hold grudges and fight with other people, you’re on the very long road to enlightenment.

For those reading this who don’t care and are perfectly happy being in righteous conflict with your neighbors because they’re a special kind of evil, I can only say you’re stealing your own peace by failing to make peace. The vitriol that you put out into the world has to flow through you first and it’s toxic.

In a moment of enlightenment, it ceases to be about how wrong you think they are and becomes about how healthy you wish to be.

For those who know this is a problem for them and is stealing your joy, let me appeal to your better angels. If you could stand in the other person’s shoes for a few seconds, you’d see they are frustrated and baffled by you as you are by them.

You’d see that you both have common basic human needs and that you’re both attempting to get them met. You’d see that, like you, their perspective is not arbitrary. It has reasons, logic, and justification behind it just as yours does.

I can’t allow you to exit 2019 or I hope even this post without seriously reconsidering your tendency to group and judge whole groups of people. Yes. There are some beyond the pale that only someone better than you or I could love. That’s discovered, though, at the individual level not at the level of whole groups.

Let it go. Don’t contribute to this negative energy. You’ll be better for it and so will our culture. Hold fast to your views, but never lose your love for ALL your neighbors.

You’re all amazing. Have an awesome weekend. April and I are in the road to a family event. Safe travel to you wherever tomorrow take you.

Ray

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Love Absolutely Everybody – Day 100 of 365 Days to a Better You

Love absolutely everybody! It’s Simpler.

As a planet, a nation, and as individuals we’ve created a society with too-low-a-bar for hatred and too-high-a-bar for love. There is a simple solution – love everybody. I’m sure a chorus of objections just rose up in your mind, but hear me out.

First some well-known sayings on the point.

Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” There was no fine print, exclusions, or exemptions.

Wayne Dyer used to say, “How other people treat you is their karma. How you respond is yours.”

Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

There’s a wise Native American saying that goes, “Every time you point a finger in scorn—there are three remaining fingers pointing right back at you.”

 

This post isn’t about judgment. We’ve all fallen short on this point. We’ve all participated in the divisiveness and tribalism that possesses social media and permeates our society. This post simply to say, “Hey, notice it in your life and choose to do better.”

The excuses for hating are many and ego-driven. The reason for love is singular and pure. Loving everyone changes the world in a way that betters it for you, me, and everyone else.

Many years ago I had the good fortune to see Neale Donald Walsch live. This was at the height of his Conversations With God series popularity. He closed that night with a stirring story of God coming to all the little sparks of God (us) and asking for a volunteer to come to earth and be a horrific human being. God promised that through this person’s actions very positive things would happen, but that this spark would be required to do unthinkable things.

Finally, one little spark in the back volunteered on one condition. “When I am doing my worst down there, causing havoc and suffering to produce a higher good, someone remind me who I REALLY AM.

This what is really comes down to. When we forget who all of us really are, we’re just very temporary masks cursing at other very temporary masks. When we remember who we all really are, love is the natural response.

Peace & Love,

Ray

P.S. – It’s Day 3 of the 10-Day Soda Detox and I’m holding strong. Would love a Dr. Pepper right now, but not until next Thursday!

Five Love of My Life Affirmations

Here are five affirmations to attract and appreciate that special someone in your life.

1) I AM attracting the love of my life right now!
2) I am loved! I AM loved! I AM LOVED!
3) Nothing will ever, ever stand between me and you!
4) We ARE the real deal. We ARE forever!
5) We ARE the definition of two becoming one.

Rayquotes #2 – Love Quotes

On this day dedicated to love, here are some of the best love-related motivational quotes I coined over the years. May love fill our day, our hearts, and our world.

  1. A thousand Universes from now love will still be all that matters.
  2. Unconditional love is a redundant phrase. All real love is unconditional.
  3. Fear encourages inhumanity, but love restores humanity.
  4. When love is the answer, the question becomes irrelevant.
  5. Our challenge each day is to love more and fear less.
  6. Love and truth never shout. They have no need.
  7. When we wipe away all of our prejudices, dogmas, and paradigms; love remains.
  8. I’ve seen the end. Love wins!
  9. Love emancipates. Fear enslaves.
  10. Fear-based philosophies drag humanity into its nightmares. Love-based philosophies propel us to our dreams.

You ARE Worthy of Love – Day 45 of 365 Days to a Better You

Love someone and find someone to love.

Let’s take a break today from 10 Empowering Ideas. We’ll come back to that tomorrow. Today is the day of romantic love – St. Valentine’s Day.

Let’s just start here. If you’re reading this and you’re still breathing, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. PERIOD!

Finding someone to love and who loves you back is one of the most sacred and gut-wrenching endeavors of our lives. Like so many things in our society, we’ve turned it into a kind of transaction. I’ll trade you my beauty for your wealth and success or I’ll agree to ignore your flaws if you’ll ignore mine. Will you please, please, please love me because I need someone to.

My wife, April, has been a big fan of the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise for many years. Time and again, you see smart, beautiful, talented people leave that show, muttering through their tears something to the effect of, “Why won’t anyone ever love me?”

You can see the pain on their faces and the deep-seated concern that, despite all they obviously bring to the table, no one could or will ever love them.

I feel that every time because I spent quite a few years in my teens and 20’s feeling that exact way. During the early part of that period I was painfully shy and lacked the confidence to even ask someone out. In the later part of that period, I had a number of relationships where I was putting the love and effort in, but there was no love or effort coming back to me. I had a number of Bachelor moments wondering, sadly, if I was just cursed by love or unlovable.

I went through some counseling to deal with the self-esteem and the “I’m not lovable” aspects. I also decided I was not cursed. I just needed to find someone who appreciated what I brought to the table and stop focusing my time pining away for those who didn’t. In my early 30s, yes my 30s, I made it a key focus of my life to find love.

You know, there’s an ancient Greek myth that is the source of our concept of soulmate. The gods feared that human beings would one day ascend Mt. Olympus and threaten the rule of the gods. The story goes, that humans were exactly twice as big in those days and included both a masculine and feminine side. The gods devised a devious plan to keep humans occupied and their rule safe. They split humans into two – the male and the female – and condemned humans to spending their lives trying to find their other half. Thus preoccupied, they had no time or energy to battle the gods. Damn those gods!

It’s an interesting story and when you’re looking for love, it can sure feel like “the gods” are working against you. Don’t give up! Don’t give in! Keep looking! I GUARANTEE you there is someone out there who will be thrilled to love you and that you will be thrilled to love.

If you think you know who that someone is, get in the game now! Take action. Be bold. When is a better time than Valentine’s Day to just go for it?

Here’s a clue. If he or she is alone, they’re probably looking too. Trust me, they’re not as perfect and “above you” as you think. Send the card, the flowers, or the chocolates. Put yourself out there. It’s a risk, but a WORTHY and WORTH IT risk.

For those of you who have found that special someone, cherish it. Nourish it. There’s nothing better than having that partner, friend, and lover to go through this life with. Finally, when I was 35, I met April. We’ve now enjoyed an amazing 20 years together. Every year has been an adventure. We challenge each other in good and, sometimes, challenging ways. We have a built-in best friend. There’s nothing like it.

For all of us, finding someone to love in this world is a noble endeavor and a hard-fought accomplishment. Who are we to question who other people love? Two souls finding each other in this twisted maze of our world is an amazing thing and always worthy of being celebrated and respected.

Here are a few dozen affirmations (since I can’t send you roses) to help propel you wherever you are on your journey to love. Wishing you a beautiful Valentine’s Day with your cherished one. If you’re without this year, seriously, there’s NOTHING wrong with you. Your moment and your person is out there. If you’re still looking for him or her, he or she is still looking for you.

Love, peace, and happiness.

Ray

 

Let Love Win – Day 33 of 365 Days to a Better You

Let love win!

It sounds cliche and new-agey to say that love is greater than fear and anger. Many in our world today don’t believe that or, at least, they don’t live like they believe it. However it’s sound and profound truth.

Anais Nin famously wrote, “We see the world not as it is, but as we are.” There’s a definite battle going on to control how you see the world. For whatever reason, there’s a desire in high places to see fear and anger win. If it wins in you, according to Nin’s formula, you will begin to see the world through eyes of anger and fear.

In an article on my Anunnaki Awakening blog a couple years ago, I described by own journey from political awakening after 9/11 to anger back to love and my firm conviction that we must be purveyors of love and that vibration if we are ever to have the world we seek.

Anger is a natural human reaction and even healthy in propelling you to a point. The problem is when you buy the house in the anger neighborhood and make your life there for so long you forget that love is the real and permanent answer.

Fear, too, is an organic response to certain situations. Again, living in the fear vibe permanently is destructive and disempowering. As I mentioned in that article, this realization was one of the driving forces behind me creating The Affirmation Spot.

So much of our culture is built on creating and maintaining fear-based mindsets. About 10 years ago, I wrote a two-part Series on this blog titled Collective Mental Empowerment Part I (The Problem) and Collective Mental Empowerment Part II (The Solution). In these articles, I explored the way our media, political, religious, and other institutions are merchants of fear. Fear is a controlling energy.

Power hack: Whenever someone, anyone, is trying to evoke and perpetuate a state of fear in your mind, they are manipulative and trying to control you.

If you’re not conscious, you’ll bathe in these societal baths of fear and anger to the point you lose yourself, lose your sanity, and lose your ability live your life through the power of your conscious thoughts. It’s a blatant attempt to reprogram you and the loving being you were born to be toward nefarious ends.

Power hack: You must put yourself back in the One Seat in your life. You must become a conscious consumer of energy and only allow the energy that serves you to lead you.

The day after I wrote that first article I wrote another titled 20 More Truths About Love. There I proposed the following 20 statements about love. I read these constantly to inoculate myself against the fear and anger and to remind myself that love is a choice – my choice and yours in every moment.

  1. Love defies limits.
  2. Love never hires fear to sell it.
  3. Love is a force of nature like gravity and magnetism.
  4. Love transforms, inspires, and enlightens!
  5. Love flows freely in this universe like water in a mountain stream.
  6. Love is your teacher.
  7. Love expands you.
  8. Love and judgment cannot coexist in the same mind.
  9. Love is your core!
  10. When love is the answer the question becomes irrelevant.
  11. Love sees possibilities not flaws.
  12. Love lends you the courage to be great.
  13. The love you put out into the world returns many times over.
  14. Love listens before it speaks.
  15. Love is the light, freedom the path, empowerment the goal.
  16. Love is what happens when the real you shines through!
  17. Love is a boundless resource that flows perpetually through your entire being.
  18. Love is the ultimate affirmation.
  19. Love is you in your purest state.
  20. Purely and simply love wins.

Buy into these truths. Choose them over the fear and anger alive in our popular culture. I promise you love will begin to win in your life.

Wishing you a day filled with peace and joy!

Ray

20 More Truths About Love

Today’s Thought:

Love your neighbor as you love yourself. There was no fine print.

World povertyLove, not fear, is your is your natural state of being. All the great teachers have implored us to see this from time immemorial. And yet, fear casts a long shadow on our planet and in our hearts.

Yesterday’s post about replacing a fear-based world with a love-based world generated quite a bit of discussion on my Anunnaki Awakening Facebook Page. Some pointed out the challenges we have in bringing it about.

Those challenges are undeniable, but they’re not weaknesses of a love-based paradigm. They’re the result of our unwillingness to push the envelope on creating such a world. Remember, we’re not talking about the superficial meanings of love and fear in common their common uses. We’re talking about love and fear as foundational forces in the universe and foundational ways of being.

For whatever reason (this is a whole other discussion), love has been muffled here on planet Earth. Fear has been sold as the only “realistic” vision of life. Look at the conditioning in our popular culture. It’s all about being afraid. Be afraid of your neighbor. Be afraid of being “uncool”. Be afraid of being outside the norm. Most of all, be afraid to ask BIG questions. Especially those questions that are like elephants sitting in humanity’s proverbial living room – it’s past, present, and destiny.

As promised, here are 20 more truths about love to take with you today. Post these. Use them as affirmations. Begin to create the love-based world from the inside out. It starts with each of us.

  1. Love defies limits.
  2. Love never hires fear to sell it.
  3. Love is a force of nature like gravity and magnetism.
  4. Love transforms, inspires, and enlightens!
  5. Love flows freely in this universe like water in a mountain stream.
  6. Love is your teacher.
  7. Love expands you.
  8. Love and judgment cannot coexist in the same mind.
  9. Love is your core!
  10. When love is the answer the question becomes irrelevant.
  11. Love sees possibilities not flaws.
  12. Love lends you the courage to be great.
  13. The love you put out into the world returns many times over.
  14. Love listens before it speaks.
  15. Love is the light, freedom the path, empowerment the goal.
  16. Love is what happens when the real you shines through!
  17. Love is a boundless resource that flows perpetually through your entire being.
  18. Love is the ultimate affirmation.
  19. Love is you in your purest state.
  20. Purely and simply love wins.

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorHe is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series. Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle. Can one woman really change the world? Can she expose a lie told for millennia? Can she make the future possible for two worlds?