Let Love, Compassion, and Peace Decide You

Something will decide you. Let it be love, compassion, and peace.

If you allow the anger and the vitriol to win, you eventually become filled with it.

If you allow “Us” vs. “Them” to triumph, we’ll wind up with an unhappy cinder of a world.

Be open to change. Be open to new ideas. It’s the way of our Universe. Nothing, nothing, stays the same forever. Stopping change is impossible. We can only hope to mold it into something more productive and that helps more people.

A really famous guy counseled to walk a mile in the other person’s shoes today. If you do, I promise, you’ll find a sympathetic figure wanting most of the same things you want. If one mile doesn’t get tou there, walk two. If you’re still angry at the person, you haven’t walked far enough.

The sky is a big place for a narrow mind and a closed heart. Let yours be opened from horizon to horizon. See with new eyes.

Yes, something will decide you. Let it be love, compassion, and peace.

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you’re awesome!

Ray

Love Thy Neighbor – Day 274 of 365 Days to a Better You

There’s a giant compassion gap in the very heart of our culture. You see it manifest on social media or when listening to talk radio. It may even lead to heated words at a family gathering.

What’s the problem? Millions of “woke” or”morally upstanding” people literally despise whole categories of people and believe they’re completely ethically justified in doing so. Names and labels flow from the mouth and the keyboard, in utter denial of the other person’s humanity or point of view.

It’s gotten so bad that some people band-aid a workaround strategy. They’ve stopped even communicating with people in certain groups. This passes for sanity in an increasingly dysfunctional social arena.

If I’m describing a struggle you’re having, I’m not here to point the finger at you. I am here to tell you it’s not healthy. You can’t really be woke or morally upstanding and despise whole swaths of your neighbors. You probably know that. Yet two words are longing to come out of your mouth, “But they…”

Two of history’s greatest spiritual teachers – Jesus of Nazareth and Siddhartha Gautama – had very clear words for us on this topic. I’ll paraphrase.

Jesus was asked what is the greatest commandment. He replied, “Love the Lord God with all thy heart and love thy neighbor as ye love thyself.”

In another circumstance, Jesus said, “Judge not that you be not judged.”

Buddha was equally clear and on the same page. He’s recorded as saying. “He abused me, he hurt me, he robbed me. Those who harbor such thoughts know not peace. He abused me, he hurt me, he robbed me. Those who harbor not such thoughts shall find peace…for some do not know that soon we all die. Those who realize this cease their quarrels immediately.”

It can’t be much clearer. There’s no fine print. Jesus and Buddha didn’t have their lawyers review their teachings and tag on exclusionary language. They meant love everyone. No exceptions.

If you judge, you’ll be similarly judged. If you hold grudges and fight with other people, you’re on the very long road to enlightenment.

For those reading this who don’t care and are perfectly happy being in righteous conflict with your neighbors because they’re a special kind of evil, I can only say you’re stealing your own peace by failing to make peace. The vitriol that you put out into the world has to flow through you first and it’s toxic.

In a moment of enlightenment, it ceases to be about how wrong you think they are and becomes about how healthy you wish to be.

For those who know this is a problem for them and is stealing your joy, let me appeal to your better angels. If you could stand in the other person’s shoes for a few seconds, you’d see they are frustrated and baffled by you as you are by them.

You’d see that you both have common basic human needs and that you’re both attempting to get them met. You’d see that, like you, their perspective is not arbitrary. It has reasons, logic, and justification behind it just as yours does.

I can’t allow you to exit 2019 or I hope even this post without seriously reconsidering your tendency to group and judge whole groups of people. Yes. There are some beyond the pale that only someone better than you or I could love. That’s discovered, though, at the individual level not at the level of whole groups.

Let it go. Don’t contribute to this negative energy. You’ll be better for it and so will our culture. Hold fast to your views, but never lose your love for ALL your neighbors.

You’re all amazing. Have an awesome weekend. April and I are in the road to a family event. Safe travel to you wherever tomorrow take you.

Ray

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Love Absolutely Everybody – Day 100 of 365 Days to a Better You

Love absolutely everybody! It’s Simpler.

As a planet, a nation, and as individuals we’ve created a society with too-low-a-bar for hatred and too-high-a-bar for love. There is a simple solution – love everybody. I’m sure a chorus of objections just rose up in your mind, but hear me out.

First some well-known sayings on the point.

Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” There was no fine print, exclusions, or exemptions.

Wayne Dyer used to say, “How other people treat you is their karma. How you respond is yours.”

Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

There’s a wise Native American saying that goes, “Every time you point a finger in scorn—there are three remaining fingers pointing right back at you.”

 

This post isn’t about judgment. We’ve all fallen short on this point. We’ve all participated in the divisiveness and tribalism that possesses social media and permeates our society. This post simply to say, “Hey, notice it in your life and choose to do better.”

The excuses for hating are many and ego-driven. The reason for love is singular and pure. Loving everyone changes the world in a way that betters it for you, me, and everyone else.

Many years ago I had the good fortune to see Neale Donald Walsch live. This was at the height of his Conversations With God series popularity. He closed that night with a stirring story of God coming to all the little sparks of God (us) and asking for a volunteer to come to earth and be a horrific human being. God promised that through this person’s actions very positive things would happen, but that this spark would be required to do unthinkable things.

Finally, one little spark in the back volunteered on one condition. “When I am doing my worst down there, causing havoc and suffering to produce a higher good, someone remind me who I REALLY AM.

This what is really comes down to. When we forget who all of us really are, we’re just very temporary masks cursing at other very temporary masks. When we remember who we all really are, love is the natural response.

Peace & Love,

Ray

P.S. – It’s Day 3 of the 10-Day Soda Detox and I’m holding strong. Would love a Dr. Pepper right now, but not until next Thursday!

Five Love of My Life Affirmations

Here are five affirmations to attract and appreciate that special someone in your life.

1) I AM attracting the love of my life right now!
2) I am loved! I AM loved! I AM LOVED!
3) Nothing will ever, ever stand between me and you!
4) We ARE the real deal. We ARE forever!
5) We ARE the definition of two becoming one.

Rayquotes #2 – Love Quotes

On this day dedicated to love, here are some of the best love-related motivational quotes I coined over the years. May love fill our day, our hearts, and our world.

  1. A thousand Universes from now love will still be all that matters.
  2. Unconditional love is a redundant phrase. All real love is unconditional.
  3. Fear encourages inhumanity, but love restores humanity.
  4. When love is the answer, the question becomes irrelevant.
  5. Our challenge each day is to love more and fear less.
  6. Love and truth never shout. They have no need.
  7. When we wipe away all of our prejudices, dogmas, and paradigms; love remains.
  8. I’ve seen the end. Love wins!
  9. Love emancipates. Fear enslaves.
  10. Fear-based philosophies drag humanity into its nightmares. Love-based philosophies propel us to our dreams.