365 Days to a Better You – Day 15

Stop comparing yourself to others.

hibiscus-426285_640We humans are comparison shoppers. It’s probably some kind of a survival mechanism that we’re always weighing, ranking, and judging ourselves and everything around us.

  • “She’s so much prettier than me.”
  • He’s so much more successful than me.”
  • “They’re so lucky.”
  • “I wish I had that life.”
  • “I hate rich people.”
  • “I’ll never be that smart.”

These are a few of the millions of ways we judge, compare, and become jealous of what other people have. There is nothing productive in any of this. The time we spend doing this is time better spent working on ourselves.

One of the sure keys to success and happiness, though, is to stop doing this and run your own race. Masters, gurus, and weekend motivational teachers galore have offered some version of the only person you need to be comparing yourself to is you yesterday.

Get in the habit of being so into doing you that you don’t have time to worry about what others were doing. You’re in a one-person race, but if you’re consciousness is in everyone else’s lane, you’ll never run your best.

Every flower is beautiful in it’s own way. So are we!

Aloha from Kauai!

Ray

Power hack: If you have trouble doing this, try “tick-marking.” Have a sheet of paper handy throughout the day. Each time you catch yourself comparing yourself to someone else, stop, make a tick mark on your sheet. Consciously stopping and awareness of how much you do this are great ways to reduce it.

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13 Opportunity Affirmations

Today’s Thought:

“Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.”
~Emily Dickinson

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focus on success magnifying glassIf there is one defining difference between positive thinkers and negative thinkers, successful people and unsuccessful people, happy people and unhappy people; it must be their responses to opportunity.

Those on the negative of scale see few opportunities. It’s not enough for opportunity to knock on their door. They expect opportunity to break their door down and plead with them to pursue it. They go through life with arms crossed, doubting everything and everyone, and hanging a big “NO” sign on their foreheads. They can see only the risk and not the reward. And life obliges by constantly appearing risky and saying “NO” to them.

Those on the successful side see opportunities everywhere and are always listening for the lightest knock of opportunity upon their doors. “Never knowing when the dawn will come,” as Dickinson says, these people position themselves to say “YES” to life because they know that is how life will say “YES” to them. They know that there is no reward without risk, but they are able to focus on the rewards. And life obliges by bringing both opportunity and reward their way.

Which are you? When someone comes to you with an idea, do you try to see the vision or do you look for the nearest escape hatch? Do you dream and follow your dreams or consider them a meaningless waste of time? You see, life is watching and it is constantly manifesting precisely what you expect from it.

Here are 13 opportunity affirmations written to help you commit to seizing opportunities and running with them. Dream on!

  1. Today is MY day! The winds of opportunity are blowing my way!
  2. Every day is blank and I am eager to fill it up with new possibilities!
  3. I see opportunities! I seize opportunities! I capitalize on opportunities!
  4. The more opportunities I listen to, the more opportunities I find!
  5. When I am ready to try, I am ready to fly!
  6. When I open the door for opportunity, I open the door for my dreams!
  7. When opportunity knocks, I am the first one to the door!
  8. As long as there is breath, there is opportunity!
  9. Opportunity is everywhere for me! My personal economy is booming!
  10. My missed opportunities are really my new opportunities!
  11. I say YES to life and life says YES to me!
  12. Defeat is my opportunity! Victory is my opportunity! Every circumstance is my opportunity!
  13. The Universe showers me with opportunities and today I make the most of them!

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray
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Affirmations from The Affirmation Spot for Thursday May 3, 2012

Thursday greetings, my friends. Here are today’s affirmations. Have a fantastic day!

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  1. Success Affirmation: I mobilize success! I multiply success! I magnify success!
  2. Wealth Affirmation: I am the heir to an abundant Universe and today I claim my inheritance!
  3. Health Affirmation: Breathing in, I feel healthy. Breathing out, I am healthy!
  4. Love Affirmation: I expect love! I experience love! I embrace love!
  5. Peace Affirmation: Today I am the epicenter for a pandemic of peace in my world.

Stay inspired! You are the engine of your dreams!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams. He is author of the ebook The Power to Be You and the forthcoming The Power to Be You 2: 1001 Power Thoughts for Daily Life.

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Success Affirmations

Today’s Quote:

“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”
~ Michael Jordan

The dictionary defines success as “the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors. The attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.”

That may be the technical definition. And in our culture, calling someone a success often does imply some kind of financial attainment. Yet, I cling to the idea that “being a success” is a very individual thing.

Mahatma Gandhi did not attain financial heights and yet he was certainly a success. Jesus, Buddha, Martin Luther King; the world is full of figures who made tremendous contributions to the advancement of humanity and must be called a successes.

There are probably as many definitions of success as there are people. Your definition does not have to fit what the world says success is. You are free to create your own definition and I encourage you to do just that. I also encourage you to assertively move in the direction of what you call success and experience the enormous sense of accomplishment and fulfillment that is found my claiming yours!

Here are some success affirmations to help you along the way.

  1. Success is the natural outcome of me being truly me!
  2. I am a success magnifier! As my success grows, so does that of the people around me!
  3. Give me an inch of opportunity and I’ll convert it into a mile of success!
  4. Today I am sharing my talents with a world thirsty for what I have to offer. Success is mine!
  5. Today my talent and determination are a winning combination for success!
  6. As sure as the Sun comes up, my inner winner shows up and brings me to success!
  7. I’m at the top of my game and success is mine!
  8. As I learn to celebrate my successes, they come one after the other!
  9. I’m in this race to win! Today nothing stands between me and my finish line!
  10. Today my thoughts set the stage for success and my actions assure it!
  11. Today my excuses for failure are replaced by my reasons to succeed!
  12. Today I handle my doubt and fears and become the success I know I am!
  13. I create as much success as I am willing to believe in. Today I believe big!
  14. Today is my day. My successes are expanding and multiplying.
  15. My world is what I make of it and today I make it a successful place to be!
  16. I am pushing forward to new successes. Success is now part of my DNA!
  17. Right here and right now I am punching my ticket to the top!
  18. I am a thought leader in my field. I’m always innovating for success!
  19. I love the rush of success. I keep doing the things I need to do to experience success over and over in my life.
  20. Today I am bursting through barriers on my way to a successful day!
  21. Today I am ready, willing, and able to take my success to the next level!
  22. My life is an ocean of opportunity. I am riding the waves to unprecedented success!
  23. My success is my bliss and my bliss is my success!
  24. The winds of hope and determination fill my sails, as I set course for another success!
  25. I am determined! I am committed! I am successful!
  26. My goals, my dreams belong to me. I own them and today they are mine!
  27. I listen to and emulate successful people. As I do, my successes multiply.
  28. My empowered thoughts plus my determined actions equal my success.
  29. As I take the lead in my life and act with commitment and determination, success follows me everywhere.
  30. I enter every situation expecting to succeed and I do!
  31. My skills, my mindset, and my work ethic are setting me up for big successes!

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

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Beyond The Fear of Failure – The Affirmation Spot for Friday October 21, 2011

Today’s Thought

“The fear of failure is the shortest route to it.”
~ Ray Davis

Success writer John C. Maxwell, in his book Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success, says the following.

“Failure is an inside job. So is success. If you want to achieve, you have to win the war in your thinking first. You can’t let the failure outside you get inside you.”

I was recently reading an article where they were comparing Japanese and American students’ approaches to learning. The writer pointed out that it is not uncommon to see a Japanese student fail numerous times on his or her way to learning something successfully. In Japan, there is no stigma to failing along the road to success. It is an expected and accepted part of the learning process.

In the United States, we attach a tremendous amount of stigma to failing. So much so that American students are generally not willing to go through the process of failing to learn. American students tend to focus their attention on subjects where they can be successful and shy away from subjects where failure might be involved.

So instead of going through the failure to learn process we often hear our children say things like, “I hate math.” They don’t really mean that they have something personal against math. What they are saying is, “I would have to fail too many times to get math and I’m not willing to do it.”

I’m not here to say that one nation’s approach to learning is superior. However, this fear of failing extends beyond school and impacts our adult life as well. Many people have big dreams or goals they would like to accomplish, but, again, they are still not willing feel the sting of failure to get there. Instead, they learn to play it safe just as their children do with the math.

That’s where my little aphorism at the top comes in. When fear failure so much that we are unwilling to try, unwilling to risk learning new things and failing a little; we cannot achieve our goals and dreams. All because of the stigma of failure.

Recondition yourself to overcome your fear of failure. In an outstanding article, Olimpio Zapanta offers five steps for overcoming the fear of failure.

  1. Divorce failure from your self-esteem.
  2. Failure is not all bad. It can be a great teacher.
  3. Failure and success are intimately linked – failure is often a prerequisite for success.
  4. Successful people fail constantly. That’s how they succeed.
  5. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect before you go for it.

With these five great steps and determination, don’t let the fear of failure sidetrack you from your destiny! Remember that “A Success” is what we call someone who had the courage to persist through failures.

Success and failure are not the result of circumstances. They are not the result of intelligence or luck. All of these things can contribute, but the overwhelming predictor of success is the refusal to give up. Your dreams await. They may be eleven steps away. Don’t called it a failure on step 9.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams. He is author of the Anunnaki Awakening science fiction trilogy.

Challenging Yourself to Be Great – The Affirmation Spot for Monday October 17, 2011

green_leaves_sunlight.jpgToday’s Affirmation

“Your life is coming together in a complete and perfect way. You are doing all that is necessary, accepting all that is necessary, and releasing all that is necessary for your life to come forth and blossom. Give yourself credit for your accomplishments; cut yourself some slack for your mistakes. Know that all leads to your growth and healing. Be happy an enjoy life!”

When you accept that your life is coming together just as it should, you are free to challenge yourself to stretch beyond your limits.

On my journey this day, I follow in the footsteps of the immortals. The imprints they have left behind on the Earth are large and their strides are a stretch for me. Yet, if I dare not encounter them and measure myself by them, how shall I ever know the true immensity of my own being?

So, I step consciously into the light; walking the path they once walked. Leaving it, occasionally, and improvising. Adding to it qualities uniquely my own.

Breathing with the trees and conversing with the clouds, as once they did. Our collective wisdom grows until no distinction remains among the path, the immortals, and me.

Right now is the time to open yourself to the possibility of ignoring limitations and going beyond self-imposed boundaries. For the fear and anxiety you experience are nothing but the shadow of unfulfilled promise.

arms_stretched.jpgThe world is full of opportunity and peril and a little of each in the other. It is ever forming and reforming; manifesting in precise accordance with our expectations. For your world lives in your mind long before it becomes visible; shaping itself to your perception of what is possible.

What is set in stone today is the dust in tomorrow’s breeze. Remember you are creating tomorrow’s results with every thought, word, and action today. Change is the catalyst for your betterment and your imagination its only limitation. Make the most of this blessing given you to personify the fruition of the promise that dwells within.

Each moment is a gift providing you with a fresh start on which to build a life filled with things more precious to you than your problems.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams. He is author of the ebook The Power to Be You and the forthcoming The Power to Be You 2: 1001 Power Thoughts for Daily Life.

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Big Rocks First – A Retelling – The Affirmation Spot for Monday October 3, 2011

Today’s Thought:

“What is is, but that doesn’t mean it’s what must be.”
~ Ray Davis

big_rocks.jpgToday, perhaps, is not my most original post. However, there are certain ideas and concepts that we keep forgetting. An occasional reminder never hurts.

You may be familiar with the Big Rocks analogy. If not, let me briefly recount it. The story has countless derivations. Many authors credit Steven Covey for putting it in his book First Things First.

A college professor instructing a class full of high-powered, driven, MBA candidates decided to make a point to this group of overachievers. He announced to the class, “It’s time for a quiz.”

There was shuffling in the room as the students pulled out pen and paper and prepared themselves to expound on some esoteric principle of macroeconomics. To their surprise, the professor produced a large, wide-mouthed glass jar from behind his desk. As the class looked on, the professor placed a series of fist-sized rocks into the jar until the rocks reached the top of the jar.

“Is the jar full,” he queried the class?

One particularly eager student raised her hand, but could not even wait to be called on. She proclaimed, “Yes, professor, the jar is full.”

“Are you sure,” asked the professor, patiently?

He produced a jar filled with small pebbles and began to pour them into the first jar until they filled all the space between the larger rocks. When he’d finished he asked again, “Is the jar full?”

Skeptical, from being burned the first time, someone said, “Probably not.”

Smiling, the professor pulled out a jar of sand and poured it into the first jar. The sand seeped into the crevices between the pebbles and filled the space. As the sand reached the top, the professor had one of the students come to the front of the room and pat the sand down and smooth it so that it was even with the top of the jar.

“Now is the jar full?”

A few people were now ready to guess again that the jar was full. The professor pulled out a bottle of water and began pouring it into the jar. The water was absorbed by the sand. When he had poured as much water as the jar could hold, the professor asked one more time if the jar was full.

The class sat there, a bit unsure. Finally, the professor confirmed that the jar was now full.

“If we apply this example to our lives,” the professor asked, “what is the lesson?”

One student raised his hand and said, “That if we really, really try we can always fit one more thing into our lives?”

“No,” responded the professor satisfied that they had taken the bait, “The lesson is that if we don’t put the big rocks in first, there won’t be room for them.”

If all goes well, we get about 80 trips around the Sun (plus or minus 10) in this life. The water, the sand, and the pebbles are always going to be there knawing at us, stealing our time away. We have to put the Big Rocks into our 80-year jar first or we may never get to them. We must make sure our big rocks are FIRST on our calendars, FIRST in our minds, and FIRST in our hearts.

“We become what we think about most of the time.”
~ Earl Nightingale

Are your big rocks TOP of mind? Are they what you’re thinking about and becoming?

Kona Hawaii My wife and I took our fifth trip to Hawaii this past June. We absolutely love the place. We developed a mutually shared dream to live there one day.

We in the process of thinking the thoughts, taking the actions, and attracting the situations that will lead us there. We both are afflicted by the sights of the beautiful blue water every time we close our eyes.

Hawaii has become a Big Rock for us. Last year we purchased a time share there as a sign of our commitment to be there.

What are the Big Rocks in your life? Who are the people, which are the experiences, what are the achievements that bring or would bring you the most joy? Are they the FIRST things in your proverbial calendar or are they relegated to the bottom of the pile in the hope that you will get to them someday?

As we enter the final quarter of 2011, it’s a great time to reflect and take stock of your direction your life. Think about what your Big Rocks are and make sure they are the priority they deserve to be.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams. He is author of the ebook The Power to Be You and the forthcoming The Power to Be You 2: 1001 Power Thoughts for Daily Life.

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