Personal Development Not Personal Punishment – Day 288 of 365 Days to a Better You

Tomorrow marks the midway point of #NoSodaNovember. No soda has passed my lips for 15 days. To celebrate, I’m going to have a single Dr. Pepper tomorrow before jumping back in the wagon for the rest of the month.

Honestly, I’m not particularly craving the Dr. Pepper. I’m simply doing it as a reward for succeeding for 15 days and as encouragement to go 15 more.

Personal development must not become personal punishment. The goal, whatever the current personal development mission, is to do better not instantly become perfect.

You see people turn personal development goals into forms of extreme denial that almost invariably boomerang around into new excess. Someone goes from eating two Big Macs, a large fry, and a super size coke one day to swearing they’re only going to eat rice cakes for the rest of their lives the next.

Conscious, purposeful denial is useful in trying to change a behavior, but don’t become dogmatic or tyrannical about it. Consider the following when taking this approach.

  1. Abrupt changes in direction are usually challenging to maintain. Consider making gradual shifts. That allows you to build habit and commitment to the change rather than a sense of loss or a desire to rebel.
  2. Reward yourself along the way. Don’t undo all you’ve accomplished, but as long as it doesn’t risk your well-being or spark addiction, indulge yourself a little. The goal is balance and betterment not perfection.
  3. Don’t make it a struggle of extremes from binging to austerity and back. Slow and smooth wins the race.
  4. Give yourself credit for progress rather than beating yourself up for setbacks.
  5. Do what feels good and what maintains the integrity of your goal.
  6. If you do have a small setback, don’t allow it to become a breakout of regression. Accept, forgive, and get back on track.
  7. Your goal is worthy, but don’t make getting there a thankless, miserable existence. What goal is worth that?

So, I’m going to thoroughly enjoy my Dr. Pepper tomorrow. I’ve earned it. Drinking one is not giving in and it’s not a fault in integrity. Then I’m going to finish the month strong.

Whatever your current goal, remember to enjoy yourself along the way. You would never work for a boss who wouldn’t let you have a break or fun and you won’t work for yourself that way either.

In case no one else has told you today, YOU are awesome!

Ray

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Start Your Day with a Thank You Shower – Day 287 of 365 Days to a Better You

We’re a little behind to finish this series by the end of the year. I’m going to double up some days, but if we spill over into 2020 so be it.

The great Wayne Dyer used to have a practice of saying, “Thank you, thank you, thank you,” as soon as he awoke each morning. He said it put him in a place of gratitude to start his day.

I’ve taken his idea and modified it into what I call the “Thank You” shower. The word shower is a double entendres in this case. I often actually do this in the shower, but it’s also about showering the world around you with gratitude to start the day.

You can make your own list for your Thank You shower. Here’s some ideas to get you started.

  1. Thank you for a new 24 hours.
  2. Thank you for another chance to get better.
  3. Thank you for my (significant other).
  4. Thank you for my family.
  5. Thank you for my friends.
  6. Thank you for the gift of my life.
  7. Thank you for my talents that I have to share with the world.
  8. Thank you for the food I need to survive.
  9. Thank you for a warm/cool place to call home.
  10. Thank you for this beautiful planet,
  11. Thank you for this amazing universe.

You can direct your thanks however you’d like – toward God, toward the universe, toward the object of your thanks. You can say them out loud or to yourself. As you start your day with all those people and things you have to be grateful for, let that gratitude infuse your consciousness and inform your day.

In case no one else has told you today, you ARE awesome! Thank my amazing readers for spending a few minutes of their valuable time reading this blog each day.

 Ray

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17-Minute Money Flows to Me Mantra

Money, as we’ve discussed many times on this blog, is not meant to rule us. It’s meant to be a tool for us. It’s a form of energy and exchange in our world. This 17-minute meditative mantra is meant to help you attract more money and abundance into your life.

It’s recorded in first and second-person and each repeats nearly 100 times. For best results use headphones and listen to the recording regularly for about three weeks.

 Ray

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Stop Missing Profound Truths – Day 286 of 365 Days to a Better You

Sir Winston Churchill once observed, “Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing had happened.”

The universe is constantly placing truths before you; flashing like the bright lights of Las Vegas.  They’re impossible to miss unless you’re caught up in this “rat race” mindset. At “rat race” speed, your mind is clouded with marching orders, burdens, and you’re always in a hurry. When you’re in that mode, profound truths could bite you on the nose and you’d miss them completely.

These truths are important. They could be telling you how to achieve your next goal or answering a question you asked the universe in frustration, but never waited for the answer.

What’s the solution?

  • Just be more.
  • Feel more.
  • Stop, look, and listen more.
  • Go within more.
  • Breathe consciously more.
  • Love more.
  • Give others the benefit of the doubt more.
  • Accept more.

Do these things and you’ll drop out of rat race mode and see the world more clearly. As you see the world more clearly, the truths trying to make themselves clear to you appear.

Those truths don’t respond to your hurry, worry, or your distraction. They only show up when you fully show up.

Just in case no one else has told you today, YOU ARE AWESOME!

Ray

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Getting Past Fear to Action – Day 285 of 365 Days to a Better You

There’s an old German proverb that says, “Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.”

You want to build your side business, change jobs, or go back and get that degree, but something is stopping you. Sure, time, money, the ease of staying put are often the easy culprits. Are they really the reasons you haven’t taken action or is there a conscious or unconscious fear anchoring you in place?

Change is a wolf and our fears about it do make it look bigger than it is. Are you feeling a little fear about the change? It doesn’t mean you’re coward or weak, it just means your human and you’ve allowed the wolf of fear to swallow your dream.

Want to know a secret? Most of the time, that wolf is a shadow puppet on the walls of your mind. It’s only as big as you make it.

Powerhack: Here are some things you can do turn stagnant fear into action when you’re stuck.

  1. Just jump – do you remember, as a kid, the first time you jumped off a diving board? You had that same lump in your throat you have about this. You stared at the water, you counted, and you heard your self-talk talking you out of it. Finally, one of your friends yelled, “Just jump!” That was the solution. You shut down your mind and just acted. Before you knew it, you were hitting the refreshing water and rising back to the surface in joy. That worked out and so will this.
  2. Dream bigger – yeah, this one gets a bad rap because everyone says it, but it’s applicable here. Maybe you don’t have a dream big enough to overcome your fear of acting. Have you ever REALLY wanted something? I mean REALLY? You let nothing stand in your way. If this dream doesn’t have you that passionate, dream a bigger dream.
  3. Find examples – maybe you’re thinking, “Someone my age can’t do that” or “Someone in my situation can’t do that.” Wrong! I simply guarantee you’re wrong. There is someone out there who overcame none than you to get what you want. Find them and let their story inspire you.
  4. Past is prologue– you’ve done this before. At some point in your life, you faced a challenge, thought you couldn’t, but did anyway. Remember those examples and be inspired that you’ve done it before and you can do it again.

See, that wolf isn’t as big as he seems. In the face of your determination, he turns into a lovable pup.

Just in case no one else had reminded you today, you’re AWESOME!

Ray

10 NOW Affirmations

Now is that instant between an eternal past and an eternal future. It is the crossroad of the multiverse. It is the only time where we can change our direction, make a difference, and build the of your choosing.

  1. Today is the day! Today is YOUR day!
  2. Now IS your moment!
  3. Right here, right now I make a stand for who I am!
  4. Today I harness the power of NOW to create all my tomorrows!
  5. I AM happy right here and right now!
  6. I am grateful right here and right now!
  7. I am peaceful right here and right now!
  8. I am empowered to be me right here and right now!
  9. I am loving and filled with love right here and right now!
  10. Beginning right now, amazing opportunities are showing up in my life!

Be your BEST you right now!

Ray

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7 Confidence Affirmations for Your Sunday

Merriam-Webster defines confidence as “a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances.” Dictionary.com describes it as, “belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance.”

To manifest success in your life, confidence is a characteristic you must develop and magnify. Here are seven affirmations to help.

  1. Confidence Affirmation: My future is coming together precisely as I script it and today I am scripting BIG!
  2. Today I AM the person I came to this planet to be!
  3. I came here to be a great and conscious being and so that is what I am.
  4. Today I AM confidence armored with the power of my beliefs and strength of my abilities.
  5. Life is about choices and today I am making all the right choices for me!
  6. I am always a great bet! Today I am making it happen!
  7. I am bigger than any doubt, bolder than any fear, and stronger any obstacle!

Have a fantastic day!

Ray

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