Selfish You – Day 269 of 365 Days to a Better You

It’s not always selfish to put yourself first, nor selfless to put others first. Wisdom is knowing when to do which.

From selfless in the last post to selfish today. Not to worry. It’s the good kind of selfish. Here’s my question for you. Are you selfish enough with your time to pursue your goals and dreams?

This is a hard one for many people. Life is demanding. Most of us have to work. We have to sleep, eat, commute, and run errands. We have family, friend, and community commitments. We’re programmed to say yes to things and there’s noting wrong with that except…except when a big dream you have is constantly the 10th down in your to-do list. That’s a deal-breaker.

When you find this happening consistently, you have to get selfish or say goodbye to your dreams. You have to say a word many of us have been conditioned not to say. That word is no. You have to do it even when people you care about don’t understand.

Here’s the thing. Having dreams doesn’t make you unique. Almost everyone has dreams. What makes you rare is that you have a determination to see yours to fruition. Most people sideline their dreams, allowing life to swallow them whole.

It takes strength to stay on course against that tide constantly trying to pull you away from your shore. It takes determination to keep going when everyone around you oozes, “What’s the point?”

I’m not telling you to ice out your friends and family or shirk life’s responsibilities. I am telling you that you that, if you allow it, your dreams will never naturally rise to the top. There’s no perfect moment when this and this and that is done. There’s no time when you’re obligations are going to green light the time you need to pursue your dreams.

You have to take the time, take the heat, and miss some things everyone else is doing. If your dream matters enough, though, it’s the price to be paid for them.

If that price seems too high, you’re not pursuing the right dream. Find your balance and you’ll find your mountaintop.

I wish you nothing but the best until we meet again!

Ray

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If You Keep On Doing What You’re Doing – Day 265 of 365 Days to a Better You

Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.
~Robert H. Schuller

You know the rest of the aphorism, “You’ll keep on getting what you’re getting.” I’m here to tell you today that’s not always true. This quote is often used to inspire people who are not acting on their dreams to make a change and take some action.

You, though? You’ve been working your plan, doing all the right things, and you just haven’t caught your lightening in a bottle yet. You stopped doing what you were doing a long time ago and you’re wondering, “When will I see my results?”

Good for you! Good for you that you had the courage to try something different and keep at it! If you’re doing all the right things, then keep on doing what you’re doing!

All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.
~Walt Disney

Here are a few quick ways to make sure that doing what you’re doing, will eventually get you what you want.

  1. Test your results – you had a plan at the beginning. Is it working? Do you need to tweak it? If so, what do you need to stop doing, do more of, or do less of?
  2. Time – you may be doing all the right things, but you’re not investing the needed time to get the results as quickly as you’d like. Re-evaluate your time commitment.
  3. Learning – to be really good at anything, you have to keep learning. Are you continuing to build your knowledge in your area of focus? When you “burst onto the scene” in your business or niche or reach your personal objective, all the knowledge you’ve accumulated will be worth and useful.
  4. Investment – are you trying to do the whole thing yourself? With a small investment, could you automate or get some expert advice that will speed up the process and allow you to focus on the most important things.
  5. Distractions – we all have distractions in life. What can you do to minimize yours so that they’re not holding you back.
  6. Mindset – maybe the most important thing you can do is master your mindset. The only person committed to making your dream a reality is you. You may be the only person who really believes in this dream until it makes a splash in the world. You’re the only fan and the only detractor at this point. Which one you choose to be will decide how fast your reach your goals.

Yes! I see you. I see striving. I see you working late into the night or early in the morning around your day job. I see you wanting this SO bad. You just keep on doing what you’re doing and just wait and see what you get!

Love you all. Stay true to your vision of you!

Ray

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Listen to People Who Have Succeeded #1 – Day 80 of 365 Days to a Better You

Listen to people who have succeeded #1

People who achieve massive success in their own right don’t have it handed to them. They face many of the same doubts and challenges you face. It’s why we can find courage and inspiration in their stories.

Take this young boy growing up in a war-decimated Austria after World War II. He aspired to be a world-champion bodybuilder, a leading man in the movies, and an American citizen. The people around him told him he was crazy. Someone like him could never achieve things like that. That little boy’s name was Arnold Schwarzenegger and all of those dreams – and more – came true for him.

What was his road to success? He outlines his five rules for success in this video. They’re rules that we can all easily apply to what we’re trying to achieve.

  1. Find your vision
  2. Never ever think small
  3. Ignore the naysayers
  4. Work your ass off
  5. Don’t just take, give back

Let’s all commit to be our best and do our best!

Ray

Dream Building Builds Dreams – Day 38 of 365 Days to a Better You

Dream building builds dreams.

Let’s continue talking about your dreams and how to manifest them more easily.

We talked about living as if you already have your dreams. One of the specific things you can do is go “dream building.”

Go out on the home tour to see and experience the house you dream of living in. Go down to the car dealership and test drive the vehicle you want to own. Taste your dream – smell it, hear it, touch it, see it. The more senses you have involved the more real it is to you.

Plant a vision firmly in the soil of your subconscious mind that one day you will have the object of your desire. You will experience the experience you seek. You will feel the love you want.

Many years ago my wife and I experienced this related to a house. We were renting a tiny house in our small town. We used to walk around the town lake where sat the nicest subdivision in town. I remember one night in particular we were looking at the beautiful houses and saying aloud, “Some day we will live here.”

At that moment, there was no logical reason to believe that we’d be able to afford a house at The Lake. Still, we planted the seed deep in the soil of our minds. We watered it and nourished by driving through the neighborhood occasionally.

We kept getting up each day and doing our thing. We advanced in our jobs and kept on dreaming. About five years later, we decided to buy a house in town. We had no idea we could afford a house at The Lake. We cautiously set up an appointment to go see a house there. It was love at first sight.

We were qualified for the loan, but, in all honesty, the payment was still a stretch for us. No matter, we bought the house and fulfilled our dream to live at The Lake. We loved that house and lived there for 11 years until we moved to Boston four years ago.

Some people might claim that there was no link between that night we dreamed of living there and the day we actually did. I’ve experienced too many similar experiences to dismiss this idea. There’s no doubt that the seed planted eventually became the three of the life dreamed.

Consider:

A dream fed is dream sped.

Feed a dream. Starve a doubt.

You feel like you’re treading water, treading water, treading water, and then one day you realize you’ve slipped right into living your dream. There’s a kind of unconsciousness about the last step that allows you to ease right into a life you only, well, “dreamed” about.

Today, no matter what physical or psychological weather you face in your life; keep treading, keep dreaming, and stay focused. Your dreams can be yours.

Not every dream is attained by strenuous, focused action. Some dreams grow organically in the background as you keep moving one more step forward. As Napoleon Hill wrote decades ago, “Whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve.”

The mind’s eye is a powerful lens through which to conceive, believe, and achieve your dreams.

Ray

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Live As If Your Dreams Are Already True- Day 37 of 365 Days to a Better You

Live as if your dreams are already true

In yesterday’s post, I talked about articulating your goals and dreams. Today we explore the concept of putting your intentions to achieve your goals and dreams out into the universe and living as if they are already true.

Dictionary.com defines intention as 1) an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result. 2) the end or object intended; purpose.

Intentionality is about thinking, speaking, and acting as though your goal is already accomplished. There is a certain assumptiveness to it. You don’t question your ability to reach the goal. You begin to embody its accomplishment. It’s about “living as if” your dream is already true.

If your dream is to be a great painter, you begin doing the things that great painters do. You devote time to your art. You begin mingling with other artists. You start living the life you want today and let your art follow you to the dream.

Be practical and responsible. If your goal is to become a millionaire, don’t go out and spend yourself into debt on the assumption you are about to become a millionaire. Rather begin making decisions about your life like a millionaire. Begin envisioning yourself in that position. Begin taking actions to get you there.

Intentionality is about putting a stake in the ground and committing your mind, body, and soul to reaching your dream. That requires a decision. The moment of decision is like the splash of a rock being dropped into a pond. The intentionality is like the ripples that stem from that splash. A decision to act displaces the configuration of the universe as surely as a rock hitting the pond displaces water. It creates movement in the world.

The strength of the ripples (your intentionality) is determined by the size of the rock (size of your decision). The bigger your decision and the more determination there is behind it, the more powerful the ripples will be in the world. You can augment your intentionality by continually dropping rocks (renewing and recommitting to your decision).

There are six things you can do to solidify your intention to achieve a goal or a dream. Each is important in creating the ripples and the movement towards accomplishment.

  1. Think about your dreams – don’t let the day-to-day struggle of life prevent you from focusing on your dreams. Keep them “top of mind”. Write them down and keep them in front of you.
  2. Share your dreams with others – there is additional power created when we share our dreams with another person. Sometimes others can support you creating a synergy of action that you cannot achieve alone. This also involves articulating your dreams – another important step in bringing them into action and reality.
  3. Pray or meditate on your dreams – ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened. In your quiet times ask, seek, and knock on the door of your dreams. Your quiet time is the time where you solidfy your intentions and handle the obstacles you encounter. You get recharged, re-energized, and refocused.
  4. Believe in your dreams – most great people go through a period on the way to their dreams when they are the only one who believes. You may face that and you need to be prepared to push forward.
  5. Act on your dreams – thoughts and words are the foundations of achievement, but action is the engine of it. If your thoughts and words are never translated into action, you will never achieve.
  6. Begin living as if the dream is already accomplished – be the person you want to be and live the life you want to have and let the reality follow the actions.

If you do these six things, you will create a powerful intention to see your dreams and goals become a reality.

Now go out there and make a big splash! Create your ripples and get on to achieving your heart’s desire.

Be positive Be peaceful Be prosperous!

Ray

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Note: This article is based on an article that first appeared on this blog in 2008.

 

Articulate Your Goals and Dreams – Day 36 of 365 Days to a Better You

Articulate your goals and dreams

Can you articulate your goals and dreams? Are you making your goals and dreams concrete enough to bring them to fruition? Are you putting your intention for their realization out into the universe? This week we are going to look at some ways to bring your goals and dreams closer to reality.

Articulating Your Goals and Dreams

Words matter. In fact, practically every creation story from our ancient texts speaks of God speaking the world into existence. So, words don’t just matter. They become matter…they become things.

From the beginning, words have been the source of creation. They are the first step in manifesting thoughts in our head out in the world. They are also the bridge between thoughts/ideas and actions.

It’s nearly impossible for your goals and dreams to become a reality, if you are unable to articulate them. The ability to clearly articulate your goals and dreams is the first step in clearly envisioning them.

You often hear successful people talk about their mission statements. These statements are nothing more than a formalized articulation of who they are as a person and an affirmation of their dreams and goals.

Articulating your goals or dreams need not be that formal. It can be as simple as a phrase that succinctly describes your goal. To begin, use some simple questions to get your thought process going.

  1. What is your dream?
  2. What do you want to be doing in five years?
  3. If you could be doing anything with your life what would it be?

You’re not worried about “the how” at this point, only “the what”. “The how” takes care of itself once you clearly envision “the what”.

Here’s a simple 7-step process to begin articulating your dreams and goals.

  1. Ask yourself the preceding questions or similar questions you devise.
  2. Brainstorm answers by writing down everything that comes to your mind when you ask these questions. Listen carefully to really capture your true heart’s desires.
  3. When you’re happy with your list prioritize your answers.
  4. Select 1-3 key goals or dreams (that’s all most people can really focus on at any given time). These are the ones that really speak to you right now. Keep the rest for future use.
  5. Write a brief statement describing the goal or dream and your desire to achieve it. Add a timeframe to your statement. Spice it up with extra detail to motivate action.
  6. Memorize your statement.
  7. Articulate the statement regularly – out loud and to yourself. When someone asks you what you want to be doing answer with your statement. Use the statement as an affirmation for yourself. Share it with friends, relatives, and colleagues.

Following are a few examples to get you started:

Instead of saying:

“I want to be a published author.”

Say something like:

“In five years, I AM sitting on a beach writing novels full time.”

Instead of saying:

“I want to be a college football coach.”

Say something like:

“In five years, I AM a successful college football coach at a Division I school.”

Instead of saying:

“I want to a better mom.”

Say something like:

“In the next six months, I AM creating more time with my kids and I AM devising ways to be more engaged in their learning.”

The next post will discuss putting your intention for achieving your goal out into the universe.

Be peaceful Be positive Be prosperous!

Ray

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Big 2019 Goals – Need Your Help

Hey, my friends

ray_april_florida_2018Some of you have been following this blog for years. For that, I want to express my deep gratitude. I built up a great reservoir of inspiring content, but I have left in on autopilot too much the past few years.

Two of my goals in 2019 revolve around this blog and my YouTube channel.

My commitment to you is that I am going to be providing far more frequent content here in 2019. I want to make The Affirmation Spot one of your “go-to” platforms for motivation and inspiration.

One of my other big goals in the coming year is to grow my YouTube Channel. Right now I have 315 subscribers, not bad, but I want to reach 1000 in 2019. If you happen to frequent YouTube, I’d be honored if you’d subscribe. While I focus mainly on written content here, I will be doing both recorded and live motivational content there.

Would you please click over there right now and subscribe. Be sure to click the red bell so you’ll be alerted when I post new videos.

Looking forward to an amazing 2019 where we all reach our goals together!

Thanks for your support!

Ray