10 Ways to Choose Happiness

Good evening, my friends. There was a fantastic book released back in the early 1990s titled Happiness Is A Choice by Barry Neil Kaufmann.

Since reading that book, it’s always stuck in my mind that this is a fundamental truth of life.

Some angrily rail against this idea, claiming that it’s a form blaming the victim. That’s only true if you plan to remain forever a victim in your life.

The idea that we can choose the feeling or the attitude is an absolute freedom we have over our circumstances.

In his seminal work, “Man’s Search for Meaning,” Viktor Frankl wrote:

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

Being a Holocaust survivor, Frankl realized the power to choose your attitude despite life’s harshest and most unjust experiences.

Neither he nor I deny that we are sometimes victimized by life’s vicissitudes. Rather that is was one of our true superpowers that we need not cede our right to be happy the circumstances around us.

Here are 10 ways to choose happiness every day.

  1. Allow fewer people and fewer things to piss you off.
  2. Know that negative situations are temporary and good times are on the way back.
  3. Find joy in the little things.
  4. Feel good about the success of others between your successes.
  5. Have complete confidence that everything, everything that happens to you is a doorway to something great.
  6. Remember who you really, truly are beyond the masks and the roles of this momentary situation.
  7. Remember who other people really, truly are beyond the masks and roles of this momentary situation.
  8. Put tough days behind you and start with the premise that today will be amazing.
  9. Notice the million miracles happening all around you in every moment.
  10. Know for certain, wherever life has taken you, it’s never too late to turn it all around and be the person you came here to be.

Live by these principles and I guarantee you, you’ll be able to choose happiness over and over again.

Wherever you are on your journey, remember you are awesome!

Ray

Follow the Rules or Follow Your Heart?


They told you to follow all the rules and you’d be happy and successful.

You gave it your best only to find yourself far down the road and not as fulfilled as you’d hoped.

What gives? Nowhere in following all those outside rules and prescriptions for your life did they tell you that what fulfills comes from within and flows outwards not the other way around.

Thankfully, you have an internal compass that knows where your bliss lives.

Follow your heart. It knows the way.

Wherever you are on your journey today, remember you are awesome!

Ray

Limitless Beings Trapped in Limited Mindsets

We so often think we are powerless when we are anything but.

True, our forms have limits, but that only reminds us we are here to work together.

Our minds, when rightly focused and purposely freed from conditioning, are connected to the consciousness that beats hearts and spins galaxies.

Our mission, should we choose to accept it, is to stop seeing ourselves as this form that lives a few decades, eventually gets sick, and dies; and start identifying our consciousness with the consciousness that underlies all that was, is, and ever will be.

Wherever you are in your journey today, know that you are awesome!

Ray

Are Affirmations Enough?

Are affirmations enough?

Nope. Not if they’re just rote words you say or read or listen to.

There are two ways affirmations do their work. There is power in “subconscious” affirmations delivered subliminally or listened while you sleep. This approach requires intense repetition, but given time, it can be very effective.

For some, that conscious skeptic or cynic can interfere with affirmation acceptance and belief. Going around that negative inner voice is great way to undermine that voice at its subconscious roots.

For affirmations recited or read or listened to consciously, they will be utterly ineffective if they’re mere words to you.

They must be words that carry the fire of belief and a deep commitment to see them achieved. They must stoke emotion and determination.

The key is to figure out which strategy is most effective for you – flooding your subconscious with better thoughts or consciously “practicing” with affirmations each day.

I’ve had success with both over the years, but others succeed with one or the other.

So, what’s the answer? Are affirmations enough? Affirmations are one tool in your mindset and spiritual development toolkit. Used correctly and appropriately for you, they are a workhorse for shifting your thinking, your perspective, and your life.

Wherever you are on your journey today, you are awesome!

Ray

Remembering Who We Truly Are is the Cure

People say our divides are too wide and our differences too much.

Sorry, but I have to call BS on that. If we focus the surface – the masks, roles, and containers – then those people are right.

When we go a layer deeper and remember these forms that seem to separate us are all made of star dust, we begin to see the commonality and unity.

When we go one more step – beyond the material – to the level of consciousness, we smack our foreheads and say, “What was I thinking? Now I remember.”

We remember that we are conscious beings all and call connected to the cosmic consciousness that is our true root system. We remember that we are here playing these games in time and space for the growth, the experience, and the fun.

But, some might counter, “That’s nice but how does it solve inequality, injustice, and suffering?”

To that I reply, no one who has truly understood the truth about who we all are – every one of us – will ever permit any of those ills to be visited upon themselves or anyone else.

Forgetting, separation and the fear they cause are the real problem. Remembering, unification and the love they evoke are the solution.

Ray