Don’t Give Up!

Happy Wednesday, my friends. There are those moments when setbacks pile up and despair closes in when you feel like maybe you should give up or at least scale back the vision for your life.

Millions of people have. They’ve sold their dreams for the comforts of relative certainty. They’ve convinced themselves that it was foolish to have ever entertained such dangerous nonsense.

If you’re thinking you might join them, here’s my message to you. Don’t give up. Don’t you dare!

Sure life is short and challenging and sometimes downright unfair. Yet, it’s all those things whether you follow your dreams and pursue your highest purpose or not. So, you might as well go for it. You might as well make your proverbial dent in the universe, even if you get bumped and bruised along day.

Don’t be rocking away in your chair at 90 saying, “I wish I would have.”

Wherever you are on your journey today, remember that you are awesome and you can do it!

Ray

Countering It Is What It Is

It is what it is. We’ve all heard it. Many of us have said it. They are words of resignation and words of giving up. Here are some thoughts on how we counter it.

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you are awesome!

Ray

Bigger, Bolder, Stronger – Day 332 of 365 Days to a Better You

Today’s Affirmation

I bigger than my doubt! I am bolder than my fears! I am stronger than my obstacles!

Life is unpredictable. Challenges come your way that you never saw coming. Sometimes you can “light and love” your way to all the  success and joy you can handle. Other times, it’s a real slog. In those moments, it is an unquestioning belief in yourself that must prevail in your heart and in your mind.

There’s no faking this one until you make it. As the affirmation above says, you have to be bigger than your doubt, bolder your fears, and stronger than your obstacles. For that doubt, those fears, and those obstacles are coming to shut down your dreams, if you’ll allow it. They can only do that if you give up or if you yield.

Know this! You wouldn’t have this goal or this dream unless its achievement or the journey to chase was critical to your being and your well-being.

Every dream any dreamer ever had, at some moment in the process, came down to the strength of dreamer’s determination to win a victory over those internal and external forces that would snuff it out.

You ARE bigger than your doubts. You ARE bolder your fears. You ARE stronger than your obstacles. You ARE destined for great things!

In case no one else has reminded you today, you are AWESOME!

Ray

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Keep On Running – Day 284 of 365 Days to a Better You

A diiferent form of this post originally appeared on this blog in March 2009.

Saturday was beautiful Spring-like day in the Kansas City area. I took my beautiful black lab Mia for a walk. We live next door the elementary school here and between the school and us is a baseball field.

There was a kickball game going on as we passed by. I paused to watch for a few minutes. It was a mix of adults, little kids, and littler kids – probably a family get-together of some kind.

As Mia and I stood there, one of the smallest kids stepped up the plate. The pitcher rolled the ball and the little boy kicked with all his might. The ball dribbled slowly toward tbe third base. The little boy was chugging down the to first base for all he was worth.

The third baseman fielded the ball and tried to hit the little boy with it to get him out. The ball missed and rolled behind first base.

At this point, chaos broke out. The little boy stopped at first momentarily and then people started yelling, “Run, run, run.” He took off for second. As he neared second, people started yelling, “Stop, stop, stop.”

Another fielder threw the ball trying to get the little boy out at second, but missed again. The ball rolled away from the fielder. Now people were yelling a mix of, “Run, run, run” and ”Stop, stop, stop.”

The comedy of fielding errors continued and the little boy, no longer listening to the mixed shouts coming from the crowd, forced the issue by rounding third and heading for home.

The ball arrived to the catcher too late and the little boy dove into home plate head first and scored.

I took this as a metaphor. The little boy, through all the chaos and the advice from the divided experts, just kept on running. He wasn’t really paying attention to what the fielders were doing with the ball. He seemed to be locked in on one idea – scoring that run. He kept on running!

How often, as you try to achieve your goals in life, do you have people telling you, “Do this” or “Don’t do that?” Do you let it stop you and knock you off course or do you keep on running? It’s easy to get stalled listening to the experts or worrying what “the fielders are doing with the ball.”

Take it from this little boy. Ignore the chaos and stay focused! Keep moving toward your dreams. I’m not saying experts can’t be helpful and I’m not saying ignore other aspects of your life. I am saying that when you have a goal or a dream your job is to keep on running.

If you do, you’ll be sliding into home plate with a big score as well!

In case no one else reminded you today, you’re AWESOME!

Ray

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Balancing Acceptance and Not Giving Up – Day 240 of 365 Days to a Better You

The caterpillar must be a caterpillar, while never ignoring he is becoming a butterfly. You and I must accept our caterpillar-ness in this moment without conceding our butterfly-ness for a single moment.

I’ve found that deep breathing and affirmations work well together. So, I often incorporate breathing right into the affirmation.

Today’s affirmation is: Breathing in, I completely accept that what is is. Breathing out, I am absolutely determined Ed to change it!

I’ve been using a version of this affirmation for years. It hepls me balsnce two very important, but seemingly contradictory, principles. Those are acceptance and a strong desire for change.

Acceptance of what is is a critical foundation for any change. I can’t thin’ of an instance where denial of a present reality is useful or healthy. However, that reality might be something you’re absolutely determined to change.

  • You accept your current state of health as your real starting place, but you want to inspire change to live healthier. You can modify this very flexible affirmation to something like the following. Breathing in I accept that I am out of shape. Breathing out I am exercising every day to change it!
  • You accept the current state of conflict in the world. You can modify this affirmation to something like: Breathing in, I accept that peace is not our current reality. Breathing out, I am working like hell to change it!

You can apply this affirmation to virtually any current and desired state of affairs.

Using the affirmation regularly grounds you. It commits your mind to both acceptance and a determination never to give up on what you know can be. I recommend using your affirmation with with more aspirational affirmations to tilt the balance in favor of the desired state.

Examples:

  1. Breathing in, I accept that I have a C in chemistry. Breathing out, I am working my butt of to make that an A.
  2. I am a great student!
  3. I own chemistry!
  4. I am acing my final chemistry exam!
  5. I deserve to make straight A’s!

Give this a try. I think you’ll find it an effective way to deal with the now, while continuing to work for your goals.

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Ray

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