Which Do You Feed – Your Dreams or Your Doubts?

There’s a wonderful story where a grandfather tells in his grandson about two wolves that live within him. One represents all our negative aspects and the other all the best within us.

The grandson ponders and thoughtfully asks, “which wolf wins?”

The grandfather smiles and replies, “The one you feed.”

Our dreams and our doubts work through very same way.

The one we feed controls us. It expands or limits our lives. It truly decides our outcome.

You see, doubt makes us give up without trying. Destroys our dreams in their cradle.

When our dreams are in control, anything is ossicle. We feel like we can leap tall buildings in a single bound.

Which will you feed?

Ray

In Three Words or Less…Your Big Dream Right Now?

Everyone needs a dream. As long as you’re here, there’s still the possibility of being the person you came to the planet to be.

Embrace BIG thinking. Some believe small thinking is safer because there’s less risk of disappointment.

In those moments when you want to believe that, think of 95 year old you. Will that future version of you be happy you played it completely safe or will they only wish they’d done something big when they had the chance?

At the end of the day, big thinking and small thinking achieve the same thing. They give you a life that matches the thinking.

What’s your BIG dream right now? Leave your message below.

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you are awesome!

Ray

The Placebo Effect – Words and Beliefs Are Powerful

Happy Wednesday, my friends.

You probably know that the first hurdle every prospective drug must jump is The Placebo Effect. Did you know, though, that it averages about 22 percent?

I’m not surprised is you didn’t. It’s not a number the pharmaceutical industry has a vested of interest in advertising. That means, on average, patients taking a pill, with no known curative affects, get better 22 percent of the time just because they believe they’re taking medicine that will help them.

That’s WITHOUT even trying. Imagine how powerful your mind can be when you focus on an outcome.

It’s not to say that we don’t need medicine or that our thinking alone can heal us. I think it’s powerful tool in your toolkit, though, and one you certainly want working with you and not against you.

Your beliefs and your words have so much power! They can help you be braver, stronger, and more resilient. Here are a few #Rayquotes to add to the magnificent manifester that is your mind.

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you ARE awesome!

Ray

Go Confidently in the Direction of Your Dreams – Day 331 of 365 Days to a Better You

Have you ever been on an absolute mission to get something done? You’re on a deadline at work or you’ve got errands that need to be done before you can play? It’s amazing how much faster you move, how much more focused you are when you’re on a mission, isn’t it?

Obstacles don’t seem like obstacles because you’re determined to push through to the end. Distractions fade into the background because all you see is the goal.

The great Henry David Thoreau wrote the following in his seminal work, Walden.

I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; new, universal, and more liberal laws will begin to establish themselves around and within him; or the old laws be expanded, and interpreted in his favor in a more liberal sense, and he will live with the license of a higher order of beings. In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness. If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.

He was describing this state, this zone you get into when you go confidently in the direction of your dreams.

Joseph Campbell summarized this idea, “Follow your bliss and doors will open where before there were only walls and where there would not be a door for anyone else.”

Thoreau promises, when you get into this zone, that you will meet with success “unexpected in common hours.”

To me, his reference to common hours here is a reference to ordinary consciousness or our ordinary thinking. He’s describing a state where you’re transcendent, on fire for your purpose.

When you’re in your normal thinking, all you can often see is the reasons WHY NOT about your goals in dreams. When you move into this uncommon state, your dreams appear right there for you. You experience that Saturday morning push to get the chores done, but sustained and in steroids. You’re on a mission and it shows.

One last word about this altered state for success. It’s not a stress-filled Type-A mindset. It’s the opposite. Thoreau discovered this state while living in solitude and simplicity. Stress is the ego talking. “Move out of the way,” it proclaims, “I’ll do it.”

You give up that need for control. You become a vessel for the process. This is the Tao that does nothing g, but leaves nothing undone. This is the message in the Bhagavad Gita to detach yourself from outcomes and just purely and simply act.

You’re not writing a book. There’s a book that wants to be written and it’s using your mind and your time to achieve its end. It’s a subtle but powerful shift in consciousness.

When you let the universe unfold in you in this way, you will go confidently in the direction of your dreams and achieve what you could never have imagined.

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you’re awesome!

Ray

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Ask Bigger, Better Questions – Day 324 of 365 Days to a Better You

You may remember earlier in our journey we discussed how there are no dumb questions. Today I want to expand on that and encourage you to ask bigger and better questions.

If we want bigger answers in our lives, for our species, and for the planet, we must ask BIGGER questions. If we want better answers, we must ask better questions.

Lives and civilizations thrive or fail based on the size and the quality of the questions they ask. If you want to profoundly shift your life, you’ve got to be willing to put everything on the table in your evaluation of it. The questions you asked or never asked, that created your current life are not big enough or smart enough to create the next better version of you,

“OK. Makes sense,” you might say, “but how do I ask bigger, better questions?”

  1. Go deeper – to ask the questions that really matter and can really change things, you have to understand who you are and what you want at a fundamental level.
  2. Be authentic- once you understand who you are and what you want, be authentic. Don’t run away from it no matter how scary or paradigm-shattering it may seem.
  3. Getting from here to there – just like you look at a map before getting in your car to drive someplace new, you have to map what getting from who you are to who you want to be looks like.
  4. Formulate your questions – who or what do you need to challenge or change? What ideas and paradigms have to shift? Ask more WHY and WHAT IF questions. These questions get to what matters and challenge paradigms.

By doing this, you’ll find that the questions you ask as you move through life each day will shift from:

  • What do I want to eat?
  • What do I want to watch on TV?
  • Where do I want to go on vacation this year?
  • What do people think of me?

To:

  • Does this job still fulfill me? If not, what career would serve me better at this point in my life?
  • Why do I want to be a screenwriter and how can I make that happen?
  • What would my life look like if I chose to be authentically me instead who I was pushed to be?
  • What if money and time were not an object? Who would I be then?
  • Why am I just getting by instead of living my dreams?
  • How can I make the biggest difference?
  • How could we have a next-level relationship?
  • What if war isn’t inevitable and peace impossible?

The bigger and better your questions, the bigger and better the universe’s answers. Unasked questions rarely receive answers. The very act of asking opens doors, gets your mind working on the how, and inspires your why to make it happen.

Just in case no one else reminds you today, you are AWESOME!

Ray

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