Ask Bigger, Better Questions – Day 324 of 365 Days to a Better You

You may remember earlier in our journey we discussed how there are no dumb questions. Today I want to expand on that and encourage you to ask bigger and better questions.

If we want bigger answers in our lives, for our species, and for the planet, we must ask BIGGER questions. If we want better answers, we must ask better questions.

Lives and civilizations thrive or fail based on the size and the quality of the questions they ask. If you want to profoundly shift your life, you’ve got to be willing to put everything on the table in your evaluation of it. The questions you asked or never asked, that created your current life are not big enough or smart enough to create the next better version of you,

“OK. Makes sense,” you might say, “but how do I ask bigger, better questions?”

  1. Go deeper – to ask the questions that really matter and can really change things, you have to understand who you are and what you want at a fundamental level.
  2. Be authentic- once you understand who you are and what you want, be authentic. Don’t run away from it no matter how scary or paradigm-shattering it may seem.
  3. Getting from here to there – just like you look at a map before getting in your car to drive someplace new, you have to map what getting from who you are to who you want to be looks like.
  4. Formulate your questions – who or what do you need to challenge or change? What ideas and paradigms have to shift? Ask more WHY and WHAT IF questions. These questions get to what matters and challenge paradigms.

By doing this, you’ll find that the questions you ask as you move through life each day will shift from:

  • What do I want to eat?
  • What do I want to watch on TV?
  • Where do I want to go on vacation this year?
  • What do people think of me?

To:

  • Does this job still fulfill me? If not, what career would serve me better at this point in my life?
  • Why do I want to be a screenwriter and how can I make that happen?
  • What would my life look like if I chose to be authentically me instead who I was pushed to be?
  • What if money and time were not an object? Who would I be then?
  • Why am I just getting by instead of living my dreams?
  • How can I make the biggest difference?
  • How could we have a next-level relationship?
  • What if war isn’t inevitable and peace impossible?

The bigger and better your questions, the bigger and better the universe’s answers. Unasked questions rarely receive answers. The very act of asking opens doors, gets your mind working on the how, and inspires your why to make it happen.

Just in case no one else reminds you today, you are AWESOME!

Ray

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What Kind of Year Will 2020 Be? – Day 319 of 365 Days to a Better You

We did it! After much fanfare, we’ve entered a new year and a new decade. The natural question is what kind of year will 2020 be? We don’t need a crystal ball or big data to predict the coming year.

It’s predictable because of age-old measures that will determine where you and we will be one year from tonight. This year, like every other year, will be decided by your thinking, and your acting. It will be decided by stories you tell yourself about who you are and how the world is.

It will also be decided by the collective thoughts an actions of all humanity. Will we choose bright, unlimited horizons or will we choose to relive times of darkness and repression?

No one can stand against your determination to change your personal destiny. No power can stand against our universal aspirations, if only we remain determined and committed to making them our reality.

Yes! 2020 is not up to fate. It’s up to us. Let’s get started!

Just in case no one has reminded you today, you’re awesome!

Ray

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Eliminate Limiting Self-Talk – Day 313 of 365 Days to a Better You

They say you are what you eat and it’s true. Equally, true is you are what you think. What you think constantly – your Self-talk – is who you become. How many times a day are you thinking and even saying these limiting words and allowing them to take root in your consciousness? The first step is to notice them. The second is to eliminate or at least reduce them.

  1. I can’t…
  2. I’ll never…
  3. I’m too…
  4. I’m powerless to…
  5. I’m not as good as…
  6. I’m no good at…
  7. I’m a victim of…
  8. It’s just the way I am.
  9. I always (negative thought)…
  10. (Some outside force…often God or government) will do it for me.
  11. I’m not meant to be happy, successful, etc.

You may may hear these in your head or you may have some of your own. Reverse your limiting thoughts and turn them into your affirmations. Use the affirmations until you have banished the limiting thoughts.

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you ARE awesome!

Ray

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Light Conquers Darkness – Day 312 of 365 Days to a Better You

Today’s Affirmation

I embody the triumph of light over darkness.

Do you believe good defeats evil, right vanquishes wring, light conquers darkness? There’s no missing the metaphor this time each year. As we approach Winter Solstice n the northern hemisphere, we are also experiencing the longest, darkest nights of the entire year. Then, just when it seems darkness will prevail, the cycle reverses. The days slowly begin to get longer and light is victorious.

Whether you celebrate Christmas, Yule, Hanukkah, the Solstice, or are just a casual observer, you’ll note this time of year is celebrated as a “season of light” in celebration of this victory; whether you see it as literal or metaphorical.

It begs the question. What’s your life philosophy when it comes to the great battle between light and darkness that wages constantly in our hearts, our minds, and our world? Do you believe in the eventual triumph of light in the human spirit or have you bought into the long night of humanity’s past and given up hope?

Your answer informs your worldview to a large degree. It affects your thinking, your words, your actions, and how you interpret the world around you. All of those create your life experience and the collective belief of a critical mass of people literally creates our world.

We cannot afford to cede victory to the darkness, while claiming to seek a better us and a better world. Hard as it is some days, you’ve got to believe that light is winning and will win in the end.

When you’re firm on that, the cynicism drops away, your mission clarifies, and you become an active participant in ensuring that’s the outcome we’ll experience.

Wishing each of you a light-filled day. Just in case no one has reminded you today, you are awesome!

Ray

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We Are All Unforgetting The Past – Day 308 of 365 Days to a Better You

We are in the process of unforgetting our past and THAT will change our future!

Every human being drawing a breath on this planet readily acknowledges he or she has a stake in the future. What many never consider is that they have just as big a stake in the past – in its transparency, its accuracy, and its meaning.

Most people you know probably hate history and find things that happened – even yesterday – meaningless. There’s a certain wisdom in not holding on to things, in releasing them. That’s different than thinking the past doesn’t matter.

Who we are, everything we think and believe, what our DNA says, how our solar system formed, and who brought us into being are all aspects of our reality that create an assumed, almost unnoticed, foundation for our reality. They make a HUGE difference.

We live in a time awash in information, yet still thirsty for knowledge. We live in a time of “truth movements” that only seem to further confuse the truth, not mention angering us and knocking us off our true game.

There are most assuredly answers out there, but the biggest answers lie within. We’re not really learning things as we look back in time, we’re remembering them. For, though we’ve crossed the River Styx and forgotten, we played a part in that past.

Maybe we’re here in this pivotal moment to remind ourselves and to remember. By remembering the past, we will forever change it. When we change the past, we change the present. Changing the present means we chart a new course for humanity into a brave new future.

Stay thirsty for the knowledge and keep remembering!

Ray

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When Nobody’s Watching – Day 299 of 365 Days to a Better You

Virtually every human being has two versions. Yes, I mean you and I mean me. There’s the public you and there’s the private you.

The public you, unless you’ve attained sainthood or enlightenment, tries to impress, to fit in, and to stand out. It tends to pretend you’ve got it all figured out and you’re damn near flawless. It’s the “Facebook self” you present to the world.

Don’t misunderstand me you’re every bit the one in a trillion miracle we’ve talked about previously. It’s just that you and I are still works in progress.

Then there’s the other you…the person you are when nobody’s watching. This is the person your public side tries desperately to hide. This person has imperfect thoughts and sometimes does imperfect things. It’s the person you’d be embarrassed to show the world…the person you wish you weren’t.

Take heart! You’re not alone! This is an ubiquitous human experience. Practically every person you meet is struggling with this same dichotomy.

Consider this. Don’t feel ashamed of that private self or beat yourself up over it. It’s an amazing blessing in disguise. It’s a great barometer for measuring who you honestly are compared to who you fervently aspire to be. That self makes it real in a way your Facebook self would never tolerate. Without such truth-telling, how can you ever hope to be your best self?

It’s the great work of your life to bring that real you into ever better alignment with your aspirational you.

Here are five easy (not simple) steps you can take to make it so.

  1. Take honest stock. Where are you really?
  2. Where do you want to be? Get as clear a vision as possible of who you want your private self to be.
  3. How will you bridge the gap between the two? What do you need to start doing? What do you need to stop doing? What do you need to do more of?
  4. See yourself and speak yourself and act yourself into a better you each day.
  5. Absolutely unquestionably know that you have an enlightened being living within you and ready to emerge if you’re willing to do the work.

I love each and every one of your private selves. If no one else has reminded you today, you are AWESOME!

Ray

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The World We Seek – Day 296 of 365 Days to a Better You

The world we are seeking is not a world of bare minimums for everyone, though that’s a start. It’s a world of universal abundance of mind, body, and spirit that lives in harmony with nature rather than in conflict with it.

To achieve that, requires us to ask questions we’ve never before asked, consider possibilities we’ve never before considered, and release old paradigms that no longer serve us.

The road to that world will not be easy. Many are simply unwilling to ask those questions, consider new options, or release old thinking that comforts them. For many, attachment to outmoded labels and, frankly, just the inertia of habit make the world that can be seemingly impossible.

For those of us who do see that world and its necessity, we must be willing to stand courageously against the tyranny of the status quo. We must be wiling to lay out the vision of what’s possible, even against naysaying we will encounter. We must hold firm to the principle that what is is, but that doesn’t mean it’s what has to be.

Why not a world where every human being has basic needs for shelter, sustenance, health, and education met simply for being born into the human family? Why not a world where every human being, their basic needs met, strives to become the best version of himself or herself and make the contribution to the world he or she was born to make?

Utopia? No. It’s simply an enlightened civilization where every human being is valued and his or her contribution welcomed. Too much to ask? Only for as long as we believe it is.

Star Trek has been talking about such a world for decades. Though it appears we need not wait for the 24th century technology to make it so. We’re on the precipice of technology that could make all this possible right now.

Science historian James Burke laid out this vision thirty years in the last few minutes ofthe final eposode of the seminal series The Day The Universe Changed.

Let us proceed with our hearts and minds set on a world like that. To those who say it’s impossible, just watch us!

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, YOU are awesome!

Ray

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