Waiting for Samadhi Isn’t a Life Strategy – Day 156 of 365 Days to a Better You

Today’s Affirmation:

I find my bliss in the chaos. I find my stillness in the dance.

When I was younger, I used to spend my time waiting for this perfect moment I imagined would come to take action. The right moment, I assumed, would arrive for me to ask out that girl. The sun would shine upon me, as in a movie, to tell me I was making the right choices. The Universe would suddenly sing in unison to show me the way.

Now, I’ve been lucky enough to have a few of those moments in my life and perhaps you have too. However, they’re not reliable enough base your life strategy around.

The great mythologist Joseph Campbell pointed out there were two spheres of thought in ancient Buddhism – Indian and Chinese. The former has this concept of Samadhi, while the latter is based more on the idea of the Tao.

Samadhi is a moment where the great enlightened being stills the world around him or her to a state of perfected bliss and union. Meanwhile, the Tao summons the idea that life is a chaotic balance always in movement around the great being and that enlightenment is found not in stilling the chaos, but in becoming one with the ebb and flow.

That younger me was constantly waiting for moments of Samadhi. Now I’m certain such a state is reachable by the most enlightened among us and for all of us in certain moments. It’s also reachable if you want to leave the world, as Buddha did, and spend your life on a mountain or in a forest in complete contemplation. For most of us ordinary human beings with a job and mortgage, though, we must be content with finding our bliss amid the chaos of a life that never stops and is always presenting new challenges.

That younger me thought life would stop and wait for me at some point; that I”d suddenly “get it” and all would fall beautifully into place. This older wiser me understands that the beauty and sometimes the terror is found in the constant chaos that is our lives. The beauty is not just in that magical stillness, but in the flow of the river that never ceases.

Power Hack: Stop waiting. There’s no perfect moment except this one. Your goals, your dreams, and your destiny are found on the run. Samadhi does exist and I’d welcome you to seek it, but it’s not the mechanism that will drive most of your happiness or success. For that, you must lose yourself in this moment of action and find your bliss amid the chaos.

Ask him out. Apply to Harvard. Write the book. Change the world. Do it now.

You are all amazing! Never forget it no matter what anyone says. Thank you so much for spending a few more minutes with me on the blog today.


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What Do You Know About Failure, Loss, and Defeat?

father and son on the sea on sunsetWhen most people look at a sunset, they see an ending. When I look at a sunset, I see a thousand beginnings.

What do you know about failure? Many see failure as something to be avoided. It certainly is not enjoyable. Still, most winners and successful people experienced failure along the way. There seems to be something cathartic in failure, a kind of right of passage. Following are a few aphorisms and original quotes I’ve come up with over the years to remind myself that flowers are made of compost and victories of failures.

  1. Every failure contains the blueprints for success.
  2. Setbacks are shortcuts to something better than I had planned.
  3. Failure does not create success, but it sure has helped many people achieve it.
  4. Failure is not an antidote for a determined mind.
  5. Today’s failures fertilize tomorrow’s successes.
  6. One well-studied defeat is worth a dozen mindless victories.
  7. Failure is impossible while you are still trying.
  8. Failure is not about losing. Everyone loses sometimes. Failure is about giving up.
  9. Failure is not an ending. Failure is a crossroads that separate dreamers from achievers.
  10. Failure is only final when you quit. Until then you are a success in progress.
  11. How cool is that? We live in a world where defeat is never final and possibility is everywhere.
  12. I thrive on victory. I learn from defeat. I win either way.
  13. Life often disguises the opening window of opportunity as the closing door of defeat.
  14. Losers respond to defeat by saying, “I give up.” Winners respond to defeat by saying, “I’ll give more.”
  15. Losing is just winning with bigger lessons.
  16. Successful people are not undefeated. They are undaunted by defeat.
  17. A fear of failure is the shortest route to it.
  18. The fear of failure defeats people not by preventing success, but by convincing people not to begin.
  19. The first step to victory is often a well-studied defeat.
  20. Most losses happen between the ears before they happen on the field of life.
  21. Winners learn both at the knee of defeat and in the embrace of victory.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.


Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

He is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series (2015). Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle. This trilogy takes Ancient Aliens out of the past and into the present. An interstellar, interdimensional journey ensues with humanity’s future hanging in the balance.