You ARE Worthy of Love – Day 45 of 365 Days to a Better You

Love someone and find someone to love.

Let’s take a break today from 10 Empowering Ideas. We’ll come back to that tomorrow. Today is the day of romantic love – St. Valentine’s Day.

Let’s just start here. If you’re reading this and you’re still breathing, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. PERIOD!

Finding someone to love and who loves you back is one of the most sacred and gut-wrenching endeavors of our lives. Like so many things in our society, we’ve turned it into a kind of transaction. I’ll trade you my beauty for your wealth and success or I’ll agree to ignore your flaws if you’ll ignore mine. Will you please, please, please love me because I need someone to.

My wife, April, has been a big fan of the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise for many years. Time and again, you see smart, beautiful, talented people leave that show, muttering through their tears something to the effect of, “Why won’t anyone ever love me?”

You can see the pain on their faces and the deep-seated concern that, despite all they obviously bring to the table, no one could or will ever love them.

I feel that every time because I spent quite a few years in my teens and 20’s feeling that exact way. During the early part of that period I was painfully shy and lacked the confidence to even ask someone out. In the later part of that period, I had a number of relationships where I was putting the love and effort in, but there was no love or effort coming back to me. I had a number of Bachelor moments wondering, sadly, if I was just cursed by love or unlovable.

I went through some counseling to deal with the self-esteem and the “I’m not lovable” aspects. I also decided I was not cursed. I just needed to find someone who appreciated what I brought to the table and stop focusing my time pining away for those who didn’t. In my early 30s, yes my 30s, I made it a key focus of my life to find love.

You know, there’s an ancient Greek myth that is the source of our concept of soulmate. The gods feared that human beings would one day ascend Mt. Olympus and threaten the rule of the gods. The story goes, that humans were exactly twice as big in those days and included both a masculine and feminine side. The gods devised a devious plan to keep humans occupied and their rule safe. They split humans into two – the male and the female – and condemned humans to spending their lives trying to find their other half. Thus preoccupied, they had no time or energy to battle the gods. Damn those gods!

It’s an interesting story and when you’re looking for love, it can sure feel like “the gods” are working against you. Don’t give up! Don’t give in! Keep looking! I GUARANTEE you there is someone out there who will be thrilled to love you and that you will be thrilled to love.

If you think you know who that someone is, get in the game now! Take action. Be bold. When is a better time than Valentine’s Day to just go for it?

Here’s a clue. If he or she is alone, they’re probably looking too. Trust me, they’re not as perfect and “above you” as you think. Send the card, the flowers, or the chocolates. Put yourself out there. It’s a risk, but a WORTHY and WORTH IT risk.

For those of you who have found that special someone, cherish it. Nourish it. There’s nothing better than having that partner, friend, and lover to go through this life with. Finally, when I was 35, I met April. We’ve now enjoyed an amazing 20 years together. Every year has been an adventure. We challenge each other in good and, sometimes, challenging ways. We have a built-in best friend. There’s nothing like it.

For all of us, finding someone to love in this world is a noble endeavor and a hard-fought accomplishment. Who are we to question who other people love? Two souls finding each other in this twisted maze of our world is an amazing thing and always worthy of being celebrated and respected.

Here are a few dozen affirmations (since I can’t send you roses) to help propel you wherever you are on your journey to love. Wishing you a beautiful Valentine’s Day with your cherished one. If you’re without this year, seriously, there’s NOTHING wrong with you. Your moment and your person is out there. If you’re still looking for him or her, he or she is still looking for you.

Love, peace, and happiness.



Rumi Poem: The Meaning of Love – The Affirmation Spot for Sunday February 14, 2010

Rumi was a 13th Century Persian poet and Sufi mystic. His poetry has attained iconic status in the modern world for its passion and insight into the human condition. Love was a common theme in his poems. This Valentine’s Day I am featuring one of his greatest love poems.

Lines from Rumi love poems are quoted in the newly released movie Valentine’s Day.

Happy Valentine’s to all the lovers out there.

The Meaning of Love

By Rumi

Both light and shadow
are the dance of Love.
Love has no cause;
it is the astrolabe of God’s secrets.
Lover and Loving are inseparable
and timeless.

Although I may try to describe Love
when I experience it I am speechless.
Although I may try to write about Love
I am rendered helpless;
my pen breaks and the paper slips away
at the ineffable place
where Lover, Loving and Loved are one.

Every moment is made glorious
by the light of Love.

Stay inspired and stay in love!


2010 Affirmation

“2010 is MY year! This is the year I break free! This is the year I break through! This is the year I break out!”

Poem: The Hug – The Affirmation Spot for Saturday February 13, 2010


By Ray Davis
Copyright 1997

Tender moments spent in her embrace
No Mozart concerto, no gentle April day,
whatever charms they may possess,
can make me feel alive that way.

Two souls profoundly engaged.
Two hearts feeling love’s gentle tug.
A rapturous intermingling,
while enjoying a simple hug.

Stay inspired!


2010 Affirmation

“2010 is MY year! This is the year I break free! This is the year I break through! This is the year I break out!”

60 Valentine’s Day Affirmations

pair-418697_640Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. It’s a day when we celebrate the concept of romantic love. For those of you fortunate enough to have that special someone in your life, congratulations. Enjoy and cherish that opportunity to spend your life with someone who means the world to you. What an amazing gift to find that best friend, partner, and lover for life.

For those still searching, take heart. Use this Valentine’s Day to celebrate your love for yourself. It’s a lot better than spending the day unhappy and depressed. When was the last time you did something really nice for yourself? Do it Sunday!

I spent a lot of Valentine’s Days wishing I could find that special person to make that special connection. It was when I began affirming and consciously attracting that person rather than wishing that things changed for me.

I was 34 years old when I met April. There is nothing in this world like finding that right someone to spend your life with. Whatever your situation, affirm where you are now and affirm where you want your current relationship or a perspective relationship to be.

When you do amazing things begin to happen. Your someone is out there too!

So, this Valentine’s Day, whether you’re in love or in looking, here are some affirmations to celebrate, attract, and appreciate love into your life.

In Love

  1. I am a great wife/girlfriend. I’ve mastered the art of when to give my husband/boyfriend love and support and when to give him his space.
  2. I am a great husband/boyfriend. I always remember to do the little things that makes my wife’s /girlfriend’s life happy.
  3. It’s not perfection, but connection I seek in my relationship and today I find it!
  4. Today and every day, love is the foundation of my relationship and joy is the result!
  5. I am perfectly attuned to my soulmate. We are two beings working together towards common goals.
  6. Today and every day, my world is a better place because [insert name] is a part of my life!
  7. My relationship is rooted in the fertile soil of love. Stormy moments only push the roots deeper.
  8. My relationship is becoming more loving and more open each and every day.
  9. My soul mate and I are two parts of one whole. Nothing can keep us apart!
  10. Today I remember there is more to my relationship than always getting what I want!
  11. I care about and contribute to my partner’s happiness, but I am not responsible for it.
  12. My [significant other] and I are a team. We are defining and achieving our dreams together.
  13. Today I am committed to my relationship. I want it to work and it is!
  14. Day in and day out, my relationship embraces me with feelings of connection and love.
  15. I am enjoying a relationship that brings the love and understanding I deserve in my life.
  16. Today and every day, my relationship thrives on love and acceptance.
  17. Today I nourish my most important relationship so that it can flourish far into the future.
  18. My relationship is what I make of it and I CHOOSE to create a relationship that nourishes my spirit!

Attracting Love

  1. I deserve a great guy/girl in my life! He/she is coming my way right now!
  2. I am attracting a relationship that brings the love and understanding I deserve in my life.
  3. Opportunities for love are abundant in my life!
  4. Today I know that Mr./Ms. Right is coming my way now. I can just feel it!
  5. Today and every day, I am meeting interesting (guys/women) with soulmate potential!
  6. I am whole and complete with a relationship or without!
  7. My soulmate and I are on an unavoidable collision course. Today we are one step closer to finding each other.
  8. Today I am attracting only the most incredible men/women into my life!
  9. There is someone out there for me and today I am closer tha ever to finding him/her!
  10. The woman/man of my dreams is walking into my life right now!
  11. I attract only the relationships I deserve. Today I get the best because I deserve the best!
  12. Every relationship risks heartbreak, but there is a relationship out there for me that is worth every risk!
  13. Today I am making room in my life for the special relationship I seek. That relationship is coming to me now.

Distance Love

  1. The distance is a plus in my relationship right now. It forces communication and communication builds trust.
  2. Today and every day the distance between us is bridged by love.
  3. Miles can separate our bodies, but I refuse to let them separate our hearts!
  4. Today and every day, I send my heart to you at the velocity of love!

Remembering Love

  1. I experience this wave of pain today, but I deserve the best in my relationship and I will have it!
  2. Often I grieve for my loss, but today I am healed by the memory of our love.
  3. Today I am strong enough to face all my tomorrows because of all my yesterdays with you!
  4. True love never dies and today I am warmly embraced by our endless love.

Healing a Relationship

  1. My relationship is a cornerstone in my life. Today I seek solutions not blame!
  2. Our relationship is built on forgiveness. Today forgiveness is creating a new day for our relationship!
  3. I willingly give respect in my relationship and I demand the same in return!
  4. I am trusted to the degree I trust. Today we are building a relationship fueled by the trust I give!
  5. I willingly give respect in my relationship and I demand the same in return!
  6. As I become a stronger person, I become a better partner!
  7. I lovingly stand my ground in my relationship and demand the respect I deserve!
  8. Today I am rebuilding my relationship. I am absolutely committed to making it stronger than ever before.
  9. I am 100% committed to saving my relationship. Today I communicate it unequivocally on every level!
  10. I am a strong, independent person who is absolutely committed to making my relationship work.
  11. Today my relationship is built on the desire to be understood rather than the need to be right.

Self Love

  1. I AM beautiful! I AM worthy! I AM me and proud of it!
  2. My beauty flows from inside to out. As I recognize my inner beauty, my outer beauty blossoms.
  3. To see the beauty I want to see in the world, I must first see it in me. Today I see it clearly!
  4. I unconditionally love and respect myself in every way.
  5. Those who told me I was unworthy were wrong. I AM worthy! I’m more sure of it today than ever before!
  6. I am the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am glad to be who I am!
  7. As I feel more attractive, I AM more attractive. Today I am very attractive!
  8. Being who I am is a blessing and a rush. There’s no one else I’d rather be!
  9. I am a unique and worthy person. I require no more justification than that to be exactly who I am.
  10. I am beautiful in mind, beautiful in body, beautiful in spirit.

Stay committed to love in all things!


Thank you so much for reading this post. Make sure you’ll never miss a post by subscribing in the upper left menu. Also, check out the TAS website and TAS YouTube channel for tons more motivational content.

Ode To April

On this Valentine’s Day, I thought I’d share a poem I wrote to my lovely wife. My hope and my wish is that each of you are as lucky as me to find your perfect someone. Happy Valentine’s Day!

“Ode to April”

If Helen had a face
that launched a thousand ships
And men have long gone wild
over Mona Lisa’s lips.

Imagine how I must feel
to gaze into the eyes
Of an angel such as you
in whom true love resides.

I have yet to fully treasure
Your beauty or your subtlety;
a million little inklings of your
blessed radiant majesty.

And should I have petitioned
the mighty heavens up above
A maid so fair I’d not have found
nor one, for me, so full of love.

Yet you, my gift, arrived here
as if right on cosmic cue;
Healed the wounds from my past
and filled my heart with you.

Joy so overwhelming
had not been mine to know.
Now that I have found it
I shall never let you go.