The “I” Problem

Today’s Thought:
The tribe says, “Pick a side.” The wise say, “Been there. Done that.”

We awaken each day with a default setting that we are the center of the universe. That mindset is represented by the word “I”. “I want this” and “I want that”. “I think this” and “I think that”. “I believe this” and “I believe that”.

Generally, the thought “I” (or we) immediately creates a thought “they”. We differentiate “them” from me/we based on a myriad of superficial appearances and differences of opinion – religious classifications, political classifications, ethnic classifications, status classifications, physical characteristics, and gender differences.

We create whole mental frameworks around these differences, always with the base assumption that me/we are correct and “they” are incorrect. Why do you support a certain sports team? More than likely, it’s because you were born in a certain city or your family has ties to that city. There is nothing inherently better about the Yankees or the Red Sox. What creates that distinction is “I”. You, your mindsets, your filters are the only difference between the two.

From this mental framework, we create a moral code that says me/we is good and “they” are bad. Our belief system is not only correct, it is the only correct belief system. That makes your belief system wrong. Show me one Muslim who thinks Christians are have it right and Muslims have it wrong. Show me one Republican who thinks Democrats have it right and Republicans have it wrong. Show me one Chinese citizen who thinks the disputed islands with Japan really belong to Japan or vice versa.

What makes the Yankees better than the Red Sox, Islam better than Christianity, Republicans better than Democrats, China more entitled to some islands than Japan? With rare exception, it has to do with who you are, who your family is, where you were born. Your “I” became indoctrinated by Hinduism, Red Sox fan, Japanese, or Democrat by the people around you.

Your tribe passed those mindsets on to you and you consciously or unconsciously adopted them. They all became part of your “I”. And where did the tribe get them? Well, they received them through the same process. Generation after generation believing something “because we always have”.

This all kicks in automatically each morning with our first thought….”I”. This unconscious acceptance of “my/our way” over “your way” has been the human norm for thousands of years. Teachers have periodically come along and taught bigger, broader ideas about who we are in the world, but the tribe generally persecutes and eventually does away with such heretics.

The only way to improve ourselves in this regard is to become conscious of the process. We must carefully and consciously choose our “I” and allow others the freedom to choose theirs too. It’s inevitable that we will not all agree. ” But, you know what? It’s amazing how much evil disappears from our world when we stop counting those who simply disagree with us as evil.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.
Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

He is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series (2015). Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle. This trilogy takes Ancient Aliens out of the past and into the present. An interstellar, interdimensional journey ensues with humanity’s future hanging in the balance.

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THE Self-Empowerment Affirmation

woman_eyes_closed_looking_at_sunThis was my personal annual affirmation back in 2008. After sharing it with a few people back then, I was encouraged that it would benefit other people.

I came across it again last night and decided it was time to share it again. May it add positive energy to your day, your year, and your life!

THE Self-Empowerment Affirmation

“Who I am is not for sale at any price! I am brilliant and beautiful and a best friend to everyone who knows me. I am peaceful and happy and more successful than ever before. I am relaxed and confident and trading in my old fears on new hopes.” This is a wonderful time in your life; a time of breakthrough, options, and opportunities for new paths to follow. Be excited and ready for the challenges and the triumphs that lie ahead. “No, my self-worth, my happiness, my freedom, my unbounded optimism about what is ahead is not for sale at any price!”

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation, Ray’s first novel,  is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous.

White House Correspondent Maria Love is on to the story of her life and with the help of an Anunnaki leader seeks to unravel and reveal history’s biggest conspiracy. The Awakening has begun!
Is it fact or is it fiction? You decide!

21 Self-Esteem Affirmations – The Affirmation Spot for Tuesday July 13, 2010

Few things in life are as important as feeling good about yourself. In fact, it could be argued that it is the very foundation of happiness and success. Today I am sharing some of the self-esteem affirmations I’ve written for people over time.

Have an awesome day and stay inspired!

Ray

  1. My beauty flows from inside to out. As I recognize my inner beauty, my outer beauty blossoms!
  2. I am a being of immense power and majesty!
  3. To see the beauty I want to see in the world, I must first see it in me. Today I see it clearly!
  4. Those-told me I was unworthy were wrong. I AM worthy. More sure of it today than ever before.
  5. I unconditionally love and respect myself in every way.
  6. I am the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am glad to be who I am!
  7. Today I make a bold statement. The world deserves the real me and today it gets me.
  8. Being who I am is a blessing and a rush. There’s no one else I’d rather be!
  9. I am a unique and worthy person. I require no more justification than that to be exactly who I am.
  10. I was taught to be less than. Today I claim my power!
  11. I am beautiful in mind. I am beautiful in body. I am beautiful in spirit.
  12. I refuse to settle for less than I deserve in my relationships. I deserve the best!
  13. The more I love and appreciate myself, the more beautiful I become.
  14. Being me is a sacred honor and today I treat it that way!
  15. Today I am freeing myself from the opinions of others and empowering me to me!
  16. Today I am just me; no masks and no excuses. Simply me!
  17. As sure as the river runs to the sea, I am becoming the ideal me!
  18. Awesome things happen for me when I keep my promises to myself and today I do!
  19. I may not be perfect, but I have ALWAYS been awesome!
  20. I was taught I can’t, but today I KNOW I CAN!
  21. Today and every day, I am a miracle in motion!

Dreaded WWOPT Disease Paralyzes – The Affirmation Spot for Friday July 18, 2008

 

We hear a lot about diabetes, cancer, high blood pressure, and even hypothetical epidemics like bird flu. Because of their impact and ubiquity, these conditions deserve the attention they receive.

However, there is a condition that afflicts more people than all of these diseases combined.  In fact, it’s very likely you will be impacted by this condition, or its side effects, several times today. It can stop your life cold.

Symptoms include sweaty palms, a racing heart, self-consciousness, stress, headaches, and life paralysis. This condition affects poor and rich, famous and obscure, young and old. No one is immune.

It has prevented more great thoughts, limited more potential, destroyed more possibilities than anything on the planet. The condition is “What Will Other People Think (WWOPT)?”

Perhaps because our society is so enamored with popularity and status, many of us are deathly afraid to do anything that might be seen as being “out there”. We prefer to stay safely in the herd. Thinking the herd’s thoughts. Following the herd’s lead. Parroting the herd’s conventional (and usually disempowering) wisdom.

This is one of those instances of a positive attribute being turned against you. Humans are social creatures. Most of us have a strong need to be part of a group. These instincts help us cooperate and collaborate to get things done.

That attribute must be balanced, though, by empowered selfhood that can break from the group and create something unique and special – something all your own. That’s one of the main reasons you are here – to contribute your uniqueness to the universe.

When that process is short-circuited by WWOPT we become paralyzed in our lives.

  • “That dress is a little crazy and I like it, but WWOPT?”
  • “I don’t agree with the politcal mainstream, but I can’t express it because WWOPT?”
  • “I want to wear a bathing suit at the beach, but my body’s not perfect and WWOPT?”
  • “I want to be a romance author, but WWOPT?”
  • “I’m not happy in my spiritual life, but I can’t change because WWOPT?”
  • “My wife and I want to sell our possessions, buy a mobile home, and travel America, but WWOPT?”

The mass media uses this instinct against you to create a kind of subconscious servitude to what’s trendy, acceptable, and popular. It really is a form of not-so-subtle mind control. It establishes boudaries of what is acceptable and what is not (at least in your mind). It’s very powerful and gets more so every time you fail to establish a powerful selfhood as a counterbalance.

It seems OK because almost everyone you know is also stuck in WWOPT. We often provide negative encouragement by using WWOPT to convince our friends to stay where they are (where we are) – comfortable and uninspired.

Here’s what you can do to treat WWOPT. Sometime today – I can almost guarantee it – you’re going to have a thought or an idea that brings you momentary satisfaction at the thought of pursuing it.

If you’re afflicted with WWOPT, your self-talk is going to shoot down your idea. It’s going to tell you all the reasons that would never work and it’s going to employ WWOPT as its closing argument in squashing your dream. Or, maybe the idea survives your self-talk long enough to be shared with a friend who dismisses it as “crazy talk”.

You could feel stupid for even thinking such a thing. You know the drill because you’ve done it a hundred, a thousand times before. You chastise yourself. You feel your happiness drain away as your dream dies…the victim of WWOPT.

Or instead, as soon as this happens, and every time it does from now on, you can choose a different path. You can shout (not literally unless you want to because you’re no longer worried by WWOPT), “I have a right to be me and to think for myself! I am choosing to pursue my dreams!” Say it to yourself two or three times, if that’s what it takes.

Put your internal and external naysayers on notice that you are not going to be stopped by WWOPT anymore. Once you break through that fearful barrier, you will see it was nothing but smoke and mirrors.

You’re going to explore what it means to be you, to think like you, and to act like you. That’s what you’re here to do, my friend. Success comes not to those who wait with the herd, but to those who step out on their own and create something different.

Oddly enough, the herd really loves to follow someone like that. :o)

Stay inspired!

Ray


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