Are You Choosing Your Paradigms – Day 230 of 365 Days to a Better You

Do you create your own paradigms or are you a tenant farmer for someone eles’s paradigms? What do I mean?

I’ve noted that there are three kinds of people when it comes to paradigms.

  1. Buyers – There are people who buy completely into their inherited cultural paradigms. Their country is the best. Their inherited religion is the best. Their inherited political party is the best, etc. They’ve never considered another point of view for a second or questioned their own assumptions.
  2. Rejectors – There are people who have thought a little more about it. Their solution is to completely reject every inherited paradigm and believe something as totally opposite as they can find.
  3. Seekers – There is a third group that has thought more deeply than either of the other two. It doesn’t mean they’re more correct than the other two. It simply means they’ve put their inherited paradigms to the test rather merely accepting them at face value. They’ve avoided or transcended the impulse to simply reject them. They’ve taken what works through testing and applied that to their life. They’ve staked out their own ground, their own paradigm.

I’m not judging any of the groups. Each can find their way in this world. Experience tells me these groups break down about 75 percent, 20 percent, five percent respectively.

The easiest road is to be the buyer. You get plenty of emotional support and reinforcement in your circle for making that choice and staying true to it. You are, though, what I called above a tenant farmer living on ideas decided upon by others for you.

It’s harder to break free from the gravity of the buyer impulse and become a rejector. You set yourself up for social ostracism and lack of understanding from family and friends in the buyer category. You feel like a rebel, but you still haven’t chosen anything. You’ve only wholesale rejected the buyers in your culture. Thus, your paradigm is still decided by theirs because you’re going to reject it whatever it is.

Seekers are people who saw through the provincialism of the buyer mindset. No one group has all the good ideas. They probably passed through a rejector stage where they used rejection to break free. Eventually, though, they evolved to a thought-space of their own choosing. It was born from experience, trial and error, and insight.

Seekers may not be enlightened beings yet, but they have taken the two critical steps on that road.

So, I ask you again. Do you create your own paradigms or are you a tenant farmer for someone eles’s paradigms?

I deeply appreciate you stopping by and spending part of your day on this blog. You’re awesome!

Find your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

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Use I AM Wisely – Day 210 of 365 Days to a Better You

You likely say the phrase I AM or it’s shortened version I’m 50-100 times a day. And if you count the times you think them, and that’s equally impactful, it’s several multiples of that number.

No two words are more powerful and there’s something else you should know. Subconsciously, every time you say them, you’re creating an equation where what you say next is equal to I AM.

This is why they are the most common and powerful opening to affirmations. What equations are you burning into you’re subconscious?

  • I am a failure.
  • I’m always late.
  • I am bad at tests.
  • I am a bad parent.
  • I am never going to…

You get the idea. More than likely it’s a mix of positive and negative, but you often use the negative I AMs to systematically best yourself down. Stop it! Get conscious about it. Catch yourself doing that and correct it.

One great way to use your I AMs to maximum positive effect is to consciously turn them into affirmations. Drown out the negative I AMs with a tsunami of positive ones.

Make the power of that subconscious self-equation machine work FOR you.

Love you all and I’ll talk to you again tomorrow.

Ray

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Drop Your Shields! – Day 201 of 365 Days to a Better You

Yeah. I’m a Trekkie from way back. Could not resist the Star Trek reference here. I don’t know what you’ve been through in life. You may have had a relatively easy life or you may have had horrific things happen to you.

Here’s what I do know. You can’t go through life with your shields up all the time. Even though you may feel like you’ve been taken advantage of, and most of us have been at one time or another, you have to figure out a way to be open and to trust.

I’m not saying it’s easy. It is necessary. The fact is you need other people to pursue anything meaningful in this world. Having sky-high barriers that are like those signs on a Disney ride – “Go back while you still can” – pushes people away.

Bonds, partnership, and collaboration are needed for you to push your goals and dreams to the limit.

“OK, Ray. I may agree with you, but people have been awful to me in the past. How do I open up without being harmed again?”

Power hack: There’s no fool-proof way to avoid harm. We live in a world filled with risk and reward and a lot of each in the other. Here are some practical steps you can take to drop your shields without leaving yourself vulnerable to attack.

  1. See each person and each situation as different. The fact that other people have hurt you doesn’t mean all people will hurt you. Give people a chance.
  2. Two strikes and you’re out. Assume the positive. Give people two chances to prove they want to have a positive relationship. One strike and you’re out is kind of harsh. People make honest mistakes. Give people a second chance. However, the third time shows a pattern. Better to move on.
  3. Expect respect.  Respect other people, their rights, and their boundaries and require other people to do the same with you. You can’t expect respect if you don’t give it, but if you give it expect it back.
  4. You’re always in control. If someone just doesn’t give you a good vibe, you’re not required to engage them and take that energy into yourself. There are so many people walking around today looking for people who piss them off to do battle with them. Two negatives don’t make a positive. Not everyone has to be a friend or a colleague.
  5. Be authentic. Know thyself and work out from there. When you have a strong sense of who you are and you act on that, you’ll start to attract people and situations that align with that energy.

The bottom line is it’s not productive to cruise the galaxy of life with your shields constantly up. You’ll miss amazing opportunities and relationships. Just be true to who you are, give other people a fair chance, and cut your losses when that’s what needs to be done. Have boundaries not walls and you’ll do great.

I think each and every one of you is amazing and I thank you for stopping by and reading this today. If this struck a nerve, please leave a comment below. If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share it.

Ray

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Damn It! Just Be You

choiceI was out taking a walk with my dog on this beautiful summer afternoon. The Sun was busy being the Sun. Grasshoppers were busy being grasshoppers. I didn’t see one tree trying to be grass or altering itself to fit in with the other trees. I didn’t see one flower faking a smile.

Yet, we humans, sophisticated as we are, struggle with just being ourselves. We’re often trying to what be everyone else wants us to be, trying not to be what everyone else wants us to be, or trying to be someone else.

We can learn from flowers, grasshoppers, trees. Be who you are, damn it! Now, some will say I don’t like who I am or you won’t like who I really am. I can assure you, you weren’t born deficient and you weren’t born with a big ‘tude. You learned those things and they are just other masks you’ve learned to wear to protect yourself or hide from the magnificent being of light you came to the planet to be!

So, enough with the masks. Enough with the fakery. Enough with the pretense that you’re someone else. Being you is quite enough!

Ray

 

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation, Ray’s first novel,  is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous.

White House Correspondent Maria Love is on to the story of her life and with the help of an Anunnaki leader seeks to unravel and reveal history’s biggest conspiracy. The Awakening has begun!

Remember the Miracle That Is You

ray_meditating_rock_kauai_2013_5There is a natural human tendency to confuse our own frame of mind with the state of the world. When the stress and chaos of our daily lives closes in, we can easily slip into a sense of powerlessness and limitedness.

The world can appear dark and daunting. I was in that place just yesterday and a good friend “called me back to my true self” as Thich Nhat Hanh would say.

The miracles are all around us. Astonishingly enough, when we train ourselves to see the miracles manifest in the world we are forced to confront our personal miracle.

Have you ever considered that at this very moment there are people in outer space? There are people exploring the depths of the ocean. There 100,000 Americans in the air on airplanes right now. There are people climbing mountains, people praying, people weeping, people raising their voices in joyful song.

Somewhere in the world the sun is rising. Somewhere else it is setting. There are ants rebuilding their hills after a rainstorm and a mother leopard hunting prey to feed her hungry cubs. A rushing stream is eroding the soil along its bank while the air slowly claims the stream by evaporation. A baby monkey clings to her new mother while a 70 year-old elephant lies down and closes his eyes for last time; leaving this form he knows so well.

It is a big, amazing world. It is far larger and more wondrous than our limited perspective is capable of recognizing sometimes. When we become mired in our limitedness we forget that every single thing in existence – including us – is a miracle. Each came into being against overwhelming odds.

Further, not a single thing exists that is separate from us. The sun and the stream, the leopard and her prey, birth, living, dying – they are all a part of our common experience.

When we see ourselves in the context of the broader miracle…as an integral part of it….we become stronger and less vulnerable to the whims of our momentary frame of mind. The bottom line, my friend, is that you and I are miracles. We better learn to deal with it.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

He is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series (2015). Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle. This trilogy takes Ancient Aliens out of the past and into the present. An interstellar, interdimensional journey ensues with humanity’s future hanging in the balance.

Mind, Body, Spirit – Beautiful

Today’s Thought:

“It is one of the beautiful compensations in this life that no one can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Find your bliss. Follow your bliss. Become your bliss!

Ray

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28 Self-Esteem and Self-Image Affirmations

Today’s Thought:

“Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes our self-image.”
~ Dennis Waitley

Few things about us are more closely linked to our thinking than our self-image. Someone’s belief about who he or she is can make the anorexic feel fat, the average athlete a star, and the beautiful girl see herself as an ugly duckling. When it comes to this topic thinking, not reality, rules.

The famous scientist Dr. Maxwell Maltz, the creator of Psycho-Cybernetics stated it plainly, “The self-image is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior.”

Today I am featuring affirmations focused on giving your self-esteem, self-image, and body image a boost. These affirmations are written for people at various stages of self-acceptance. Not all of them will apply to you. Pick the ones that resonate with you.

  1. I am an immaculate being of light; perfect in form and function.
  2. When I look into the mirror I see my perfections not my imperfections!
  3. My beauty flows from inside to out. As I recognize my inner beauty, my outer beauty blossoms.
  4. I am making peace with my body. I accept its flaws, celebrate its beauty, and work to improve what I want to change.
  5. Those who told me I was unworthy were wrong. I AM worthy!
  6. I am a being of immense power and majesty.
  7. Today I see myself through a luminous prism of love and understanding.
  8. As I feel more attractive, I AM more attractive. Today I am very attractive!
  9. The more I love and appreciate myself, the more beautiful I become.
  10. I work hard to keep my body in shape and I know (men/women) find me attractive.
  11. The world be damned! I love every last pound, every last blemish, every last wrinkle. I love all of me!
  12. Happiness is an attitude NOT a number on a scale. Today I am happy with who I am.
  13. Being who I am is a blessing and a rush. There’s no one else I’d rather be!
  14. I accept myself exactly as I am. I am at absolute peace with myself.
  15. To see the beauty I want to see in the world, I must first see it in me. Today I see it clearly!
  16. Today I release my judgments about my body and love it exactly as it is!
  17. I am beautiful in mind. I am beautiful in body. I am beautiful in spirit.
  18. Today I make peace with my body and learn to be at home in it!
  19. I unconditionally love and respect myself in every way.
  20. I am the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am glad to be who I am!
  21. Today I make a bold statement. The world deserves the real me and today it gets me.
  22. I am a unique and worthy person. I require no more justification than that to be exactly who I am.
  23. I am a one-in-a-trillion miracle and amazing in every way!
  24. I love and accept my body just as it is!
  25. My completeness lives in the part of me that is beyond my form.
  26. I have a form, but I AM FAR MORE than my form!
  27. Today I shine with the full glory and brilliance of a summer Sun!
  28. What matters is who I AM not who I’ve been! Today I release everything I hold against myself!

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation, Ray’s first novel,  is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous.

White House Correspondent Maria Love is on to the story of her life and with the help of an Anunnaki leader seeks to unravel and reveal history’s biggest conspiracy. The Awakening has begun!