Small Business Affirmations 1 Video

Hey, my friends

This latest video on my YouTube channel is a series of affirmations targeted to small business owner and entrepreneurs.

The affirmations promote a positive mindset regarding your business and an encouraging message of forward progress. The affirmations are recorded in first and second-person for maximum impact. It’s suggested you listen with headphones and for about three weeks every day for best results.

The Affirmations:

1. I am a successful business owner.
2. Excellence is my personal brand. My commitment to it is unwavering.
3. I am attracting and finding new customers for my business every day.
4. My business grows by word of mouth every day.
5. My revenue and profit is growing every month.
6. I am finding new ways to expand my business with existing customers every day.
7. I am always adapting to meet my customers’ needs.
8. I offer world-class service at reasonable prices.

Just in case no one else has reminded you today, you ARE awesome!

Ray

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How to Write Affirmations That Change Your Life – Day 203 of 365 Days to a Better You

Thought for the Day:

Affirmations without action are just glorified wishful thinking. Affirmations are “mental armor” supporting empowered action, not a substitute for it.

Over the past several years, I’ve written many articles about affirmations -how affirmations work, types of affirmations, ways to use affirmations, etc., etc., etc. Some of those articles are linked to in this article.

However, I’ve never just written an article on how to write an effective affirmation. Today I had a request from a follower on Twitter to provide a “how to” and decided it was a good time to write that article. Let me begin by saying that there are many gurus out there with many ideas on how to correctly write affirmations. There are also some dogmas around the process. I’m not big on dogmas of any kind. So some of this might be unorthodox. Feel free to use what resonates for you.

Before we begin, let me make a few quick points. Affirmations are a tool to reshape and refocus your thoughts. By themselves, they don’t “make” anything happen. However, as you replace negative thoughts with negative vibrations with positive thoughts and positive vibrations, you do begin to attract better things into your life. Affirmations without action are just wishful thinking. The idea is that as you raise the vibration of your thoughts, you become more inspired to take action to manifest those thoughts as reality in the world. See the thought of the day at the top of the article.


I recommend reading my two part series on
Affirmations: Repetition and Belief along with using this list to create your affirmations. Following is  7-step process for creating your own affirmations. This is my way. It has worked for me over the past 20 years. Others might have another way that works for them.

  1. Start with a goal – you must have a goal in mind. The clearer the goal, the better the affirmation and the better chance for success. A cloudy goal leads to an unclear affirmation, and poor results.
  2. Affirm what you can believe – affirmations are not a tool for persuading you to believe something you don’t believe. They are a tool to help you create and multiply thoughts that support the action necessary to achieve the things you believe you can achieve. However, you can use what I call “aspirational affirmations” to help manifest a distant goal. You just need to be able to believe you can achieve that goal one day. (Read more Incremental Affirmations and Unrealistic Affirmations)
  3. Use clear language – the language of your affirmation should be clear and powerful for you. It’s OK to use phrases and terms that are very personal to you as long as the language resonates and feels empowering when you say it. Be as specific as possible.
  4. Present Tense – in most cases, it is more effective to use the present tense when writing, speaking, or listening to affirmations. In other words, state your affirmation as “I am…” rather than “I will..” or “I should”. The lone exception would be those discussed in the Incremental Affirmations article.
  5. First, second, and third person – most affirmation gurus will tell you to always put your affirmations in the first person, such as I am a magnificent dancer, rather than the second person you are a magnificent dancer. I agree that first person is the best if you are only going to choose one. Why stop with first person, though? An affirmation can be very powerful in the second person and using your name. I recommend using all three. I am a great writer. You are a great writer. Ray is a great writer. This holographic language creates a more powerful and holistic affirmation. (Read more Adding the Power of You to Your Affirmations)
  6. Use them, use them, use them – once you have written an empowering affirmation, use it. Like so many other motivational tools, affirmations are created and then cast aside after a day or two. Read them aloud, read them into the mirror, post them places where you can see them throughout your day, record them and listen to them passively (Listening Passively to Affirmations) or actively over and over until they infuse your mind. The goal for an affirmation is to have it replace the negative or disempowering thoughts and become thoroughly embedded in your thought process so that it becomes the automatic response  (How Do You Know Your Affirmations are Working?) to your negative thoughts.
  7. Take action – affirmations without action is just wishful thinking. You must think and then act, if you are to achieve.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

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Tony Robbins, Self-Help, and Victimhood – Day 144 of 365 Days to a Better You

Emotion unlocks the secret chambers of the mind and is sometimes necessary for healing.

We live in a world filled with miracles and savageries. Not one of us, regardless of our gender, race, or social standing, is immune. When you’ve experienced a savage event of any kind or any degree, the natural first reaction is to feel victimized by the event. It’s inherently unfair that someone else’s words or actions have caused you physical or psychological harm.

Here’s the thing. Victimhood is a normal and natural beginning of the healing process. There’s a legitimate push for legal or other repercussions for the person that harmed you. That’s all healthy and legitimate.

There comes a point, however, when remaining in the status of victim becomes detrimental both to the healing and to moving forward with your life. It can become your identity and that doesn’t serve a healthy and prosperous life. Despite that fact, people cling voraciously to their victimhood.

Eventually, a victim feels the side effects of this approach and they seek some kind of help or relief. There are many efficacious ways to get that help. Professional counseling, medicines, and, yes, personal development or self-help techniques.

Before I begin, let me clear. I am not personally defending Tony Robbins for anything inappropriate he may have done. That seems to be having its day in the court of public opinion and perhaps eventually in courts. Hopefully, justice will be done for Tony and his accusers.

People with big emotional scars have been attending Tony Robbins events for decades. For better or worse, his techniques have been practiced on millions of people. In a sample size that large, there are going to be some who find those techniques exactly what they needed to free themselves from their disempowering victimhood. The evidence by way of personal testimony is that’s the case.

Conversely, there are going to be some people for whom his direct, loud, and aggressive techniques don’t mesh with their personal psychology and it may cause further distress. Mixed outcomes are to be expected with any modality. I’ve been involved in personal development for 30 years. I’ve also used counseling other modalities as a part of my journey. Every technique I’ve ever been exposed to has it plusses and minuses.

There is simply no denying Tony Robbins has helped many people over the years. How do we know? There’s no shortage of people who have given him credit for helping them break their victimhood and other destructive patterns. While his techniques may offend or feel like abuse of the victim to some, to others they have been precisely their salvation.

Beyond Tony Robbins, self-help, personal development has helped me and millions of other people aspire to and achieve a better life. It really angers me that the media and others use this instance as an excuse to attack the whole field as charlatanism and snake oil.

Credentialism has become quite a thing in our culture. You see this in many areas of thought. Everyone should just leave the thinking to the “experts.” That makes for a culture of dependence. I’m not suggesting that we shouldn’t listen to the experts, but we are all ultimately responsible for ourselves.

“Self-help Gurus” are attacked because they lack credentials. Having taken all the psychology, psychiatry, and counseling courses does not grant one an automatic corner on human wisdom that might help others. I would argue that personal experience combined with reflection can provide as much benefit as book learning.

Persuading people to walk over hot coals may seem cultish to an outsider. Getting in someone’s face and calling out the BS may seem rude and unprofessional. Our culture of atoms and matter still has a bias against the power of the human mind to heal. That said, if some of the allegations are true, Robbins may have gone too far in some instances.

The question again is, have these techniques worked? The answer for many is yes. Rather than attacking Robbins and others for their approach, perhaps they should just come with a warning label.

If you’d rather spend 15 years on a counselor’s couch talking through your issues, that’s fine. A Tony Robbins event is probably not for you. If, however, you’ve been there and done that and you’re ready to try something more radical and cathartic to change your situation, then it might be perfect for you.

My point is there is no one right way help someone mentally and spiritually heal. One person might like hard rock and someone else might like classical music. Who’s right? They’re both right for the right person. The same goes for healing modalities.

Power Hack: I’m not going to let you off the hook on the victimhood thing. Someone telling to it you straight is not necessarily more dangerous than your chronic victimhood. We are all victims to one extent or another and for one reason or another. It’s part of the human condition. I could make you a long list of ways I’ve felt victimized over time, but I’m just not going to let them decide me.

In the meantime as I said in another recent post, you can become stuck in the victimhood and waste time here waiting for life to be more fair and our society to be more just or you can do the only thing any of us can do. You decide that you won’t be anyone’s victim, including your own, any more.

That’s empowerment and however you get there; it’s cool with me!

Wishing my American readers a wonderful Memorial Day and thanking you all for your support in reading, liking, and sharing this blog.

Ray

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I CAN, I CAN, I CAN, AND I AM!

Today’s Affirmation:

As the voice of I CAN becomes stronger in my life, I can’t melts away!

The Power to Be You

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Courage! I CAN are two of the most powerful words in the English language. I CAN and I CAN’T are two of the primal and most powerful affirmations in our lives. The one that rules your mind and governs your actions will determine your outcomes in life. Which one is winning the battle in your mind today?

Ray

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Return to Innoncence – Enigma – The Affirmation Spot for Friday July 31, 2009

I first experienced (and it always an experience) Enigma’s powerful music about 20 years ago. I just realized yesterday that they are the artist behind this astonishing piece of music and inspiring video. Sometimes we get so caught up in our lives that we forget the basics. Who are you? Why are you here? Why does it matter?

This song reminds us that there is something of immense value to be had when we return to our core; when we listen to the essence of our being. The wisdom, the knowledge, the remembering all right there any time we are ready to experience them.

May that experience inspire your day! May it stoke the fire of passion you once had for your life, your goals, and your dreams! May you truly return to innocence!

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Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”