Drop Your Shields! – Day 201 of 365 Days to a Better You

Yeah. I’m a Trekkie from way back. Could not resist the Star Trek reference here. I don’t know what you’ve been through in life. You may have had a relatively easy life or you may have had horrific things happen to you.

Here’s what I do know. You can’t go through life with your shields up all the time. Even though you may feel like you’ve been taken advantage of, and most of us have been at one time or another, you have to figure out a way to be open and to trust.

I’m not saying it’s easy. It is necessary. The fact is you need other people to pursue anything meaningful in this world. Having sky-high barriers that are like those signs on a Disney ride – “Go back while you still can” – pushes people away.

Bonds, partnership, and collaboration are needed for you to push your goals and dreams to the limit.

“OK, Ray. I may agree with you, but people have been awful to me in the past. How do I open up without being harmed again?”

Power hack: There’s no fool-proof way to avoid harm. We live in a world filled with risk and reward and a lot of each in the other. Here are some practical steps you can take to drop your shields without leaving yourself vulnerable to attack.

  1. See each person and each situation as different. The fact that other people have hurt you doesn’t mean all people will hurt you. Give people a chance.
  2. Two strikes and you’re out. Assume the positive. Give people two chances to prove they want to have a positive relationship. One strike and you’re out is kind of harsh. People make honest mistakes. Give people a second chance. However, the third time shows a pattern. Better to move on.
  3. Expect respect.  Respect other people, their rights, and their boundaries and require other people to do the same with you. You can’t expect respect if you don’t give it, but if you give it expect it back.
  4. You’re always in control. If someone just doesn’t give you a good vibe, you’re not required to engage them and take that energy into yourself. There are so many people walking around today looking for people who piss them off to do battle with them. Two negatives don’t make a positive. Not everyone has to be a friend or a colleague.
  5. Be authentic. Know thyself and work out from there. When you have a strong sense of who you are and you act on that, you’ll start to attract people and situations that align with that energy.

The bottom line is it’s not productive to cruise the galaxy of life with your shields constantly up. You’ll miss amazing opportunities and relationships. Just be true to who you are, give other people a fair chance, and cut your losses when that’s what needs to be done. Have boundaries not walls and you’ll do great.

I think each and every one of you is amazing and I thank you for stopping by and reading this today. If this struck a nerve, please leave a comment below. If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share it.

Ray

 

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An Awareness Experiment Part I

woman_confusedThis week we are going to conduct a little experiment. I hope you will participate. Despite the fact that both modern science and ancient wisdom confirm that our thoughts are very powerful things; many, many people still fail to grasp their significance.

The words people say are often a window into the thinking that pervades their minds. Words are the outward expressions of thoughts and the next step forward in manifesting the reality – positive or negative – that thoughts create.

This week I want you to pay special attention to all the negative and disempowered thinking around you. Pay attention to your family and friends. Pay attention to your leaders and the media. Listen for how often people articulate – even glorify – the negative side of things.

Keep track of how many negative statements you hear in a day. Listen to how the people around you limit themselves, deprecate themselves, and hold themselves back through their thinking and their words. Pay attention to the reasons people give to justify their negative, disempowered thinking.

How to proceed:

  1. Listen for all the “I can’t…”, “I’m not good at…”, “I’ll never…”, “I’m not lucky at…” statements put out into the world by the people around you.
  2. Listen for negative self-judgments.
  3. Listen for catastrophe thinking in the media and among leaders.
  4. Watch how people respond to positive thinking or the suggestion that their negative perspective might be wrong.
  5. Watch how the media reacts to positive thinking or empowered thinking.
  6. Listen to how people justify negative, disempowered thinking – “realistic”, “other people lucky”, “I’m unlucky”, “That’s how things have always been.”, etc.

This experiment is not meant to judge anyone. This is simply for you to become more aware of the mental environment you inhabit.

Here are parts II and III of this experiment.

An Awareness Experiment: Part II
An Awareness Experiment: Part III

Stay inspired!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

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Your Belief Inventory – The Affirmation Spot for Monday January 12, 2009

Today’s Affirmation:

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be.”
(This is the official TAS affirmation for 2009. Click the affirmation to hear the mp3 version)

yesterdayWhat you believe about you, your life, and the world impacts your experience of them. Your beliefs inform your thoughts and your thoughts generate your actions. And, of course, your actions create the world where you live. It’s very important to be aware of your beliefs.

Are your current beliefs fully conscious to you? Or, is your self-perception stuck in yesterday? Do you know what you believe today? Of course, the quick answer is “yes”. Do you really?

Just as a once- thriving river bed slowly dries up and changes course your beliefs can subtly shift over time almost without your knowledge. You don’t notice it day to day, but over years the change can be dramatic.

Life is an ever-changing adventure, but sometimes your self-perception and the perception of others does not keep up with who you are today.

You and the people around you may have an outdated idea of who you are.

Have you had the experience of really advancing in your professional or personal life only to have your family not recognize the change? You go home for the holidays and your mother still sees you and treats you like you’re 13. It can be very frustrating when others fail to recognize the strides and leaps you have made in life. Their perception of you can become locked in time.

When I was 25 I became seriously ill and spent several weeks in the hospital. One of the best internists in the city took my case. He became my personal physician for several years. He was a gifted and talented doctor, but he never let go of his vision of me as that sick person lying in a hospital bed. Finally, I had to move on and find a new doctor. His belief about who I was didn’t keep up with reality.

While frustrating when other people do this to you, you often do it to yourself. Has your perception of who you are kept up with the reality?

Here is an idea to help you get in touch with who you are today. Complete a Belief Inventory.

Take each of the following dimensions of your life (feel free to add your own) and write a brief description of your belief on that area of your life.

Don’t jump the gun. Give it some real thought. Really capture your true beliefs on each of these topics.

Belief Inventory

  • Personality
  • Relationships
  • Career
  • Body image
  • Future
  • Spiritual life
  • Life
  • Politics

Here’s the punchline. Now that you better understand where you really stand on these aspects of your life you can map a strategy for self-development based on where you really are instead of where you thought you were.

If you’re really bold, share it with family and friends and have them complete one on you. The feedback could be interesting and you will get a sense of who they think you are.

Have fun with your Belief Inventory and I’d love to hear how it comes out.

Stay inspired!

Ray

Ray Davis is the author of Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation – order your signed copy today at AATrilogy.com – founder of The Affirmation Spot and an advocate for the potential of the human race. He’s life-long history buff and holds a B.S. in History Education. He’s always been fascinated by alternative views of history.

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