Identifying Your Negative Thoughts – The Affirmation Spot for Thursday March 27, 2008

Today’s Affirmation:

I create my own life everyday and I work hard to create a life full of growth and expansion.


panic.jpg Are you consciously aware of the negative thoughts that are impacting your performance or your happiness in life? Knowing what those thoughts are is the first step in dealing with them.

One of the key benefits of affirmations is their ability to replace negative or destructive thoughts with positive and productive thoughts. This process is referred to as “thought replacement” or by psychology professionals as “cognitive restructuring.”

The process is simple. Let’s say you are a baseball player. You have this thought stuck in your mind, “I can’t hit curve balls.” Well, guess what? When you have a thought like that firmly planted in your mind you are going to struggle to hit curve balls. This is a perfect example of how our thinking can get in the way of our performance.

Affirmations are a very powerful thought replacement tool because you can – through repetition of a countering positive thought – replace the thought, “I can’t hit curve balls,” with a thought like, “I am a great curve ball hitter.”

Notice that the skill to hit curve balls is present, but the belief by the player that he or she can is limiting performance.  In a case where actual skill is the issue, an affirmation such as, “I get better at hitting curve balls each and every day,” is more effective.

When the negative thoughts or negative thinking process is obvious it’s easy to figure out what kinds of affirmations you need to counter them. Sometimes, however, the negative thinking is a bit more cloudy. You know it’s there and that it’s impacting some aspect of your life, but are not consciously aware of the problematic thoughts.

There are several effective techniques for uncovering your negative thoughts and getting them out in the open so you can deal with them.

Here are a three techniques you can use to expose your negative thoughts so that you can deal with them.

  1. Journaling – journaling is an effective way to get feelings out of your mind and into the real world for analysis. You may think your internal thinking is catching your true thoughts and feelings, but journaling can really surprise you.
  2. Recording – while journaling is a conscious effort to write down thoughts and feelings at an assigned time, recording is making note of the negative thoughts that occur to you as you go through your day. Try stopping and writing down every negative thought that comes into your mind for a day. You will be shocked at how many there are. Don’t beat yourself up over it. We all have negative thoughts. It’s not having negative thoughts that is the problem. It’s how we deal with them.
  3. Affirmation Therapy – this is one I’ve used to great effect. I’ve never seen it mentioned in any professional literature. If there is an area of your life that you know is causing you trouble, start using some affirmations targeted to that area of your life and wait. A natural process that occurs when you use affirmations is that the negative thoughts (conscious or unconscious) rise to challenge the positive thought for their supremacy. This causes the negative thought to come out into the open.
  4. Meditation – meditation or a quiet time with eyes closed is another effective way to identify negative thoughts. Just sit and “thought watch”. You will experience a whole range of thoughts from euphoric to depressing (the mind is an active thing). Write down the negative thoughts you observe and want to deal with.

Be peaceful Be prosperous Be positive!

Ray

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Be A Winner

Developing a winning attitude offers benefits far greater than the immediate win or loss. A winning attitude creates perspective that leads an expectation of success and satisfaction that transcends an outcome. In fact, the winner sees in every loss the seeds of a new win.

The following “poem” effectively distinguishes between the two mindsets. It is variously titled “Be a Winner” and “Winners Versus Losers” around the Internet. I have not been able to track down the author’s name.

handshake2.jpg“Be A Winner”

The Winner is always part of the answer
The Loser is always part of the problem

The Winner always has a program
The Loser always has an excuse

The Winner says “Let me do it for you”
The Loser says “That’s not my job”

The Winner sees an answer for every problem
The Loser sees a problem for every answer

The Winner sees a green near every sand trap
The Loser sees two or three sand traps near every green

The Winner says “It may be difficult but it’s possible”
The Loser says “It may be possible but it’s too difficult”

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

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CALL Your Negative Thoughts – The Affirmation Spot for Monday March 17, 2008

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woman_eyes_closed_sun_rs“Speak of the Devil and he appears,” goes the old aphorism. Some people in the positive thought movement seem to think the same thing about negative thoughts. They are something to be avoided at all costs. You must stamp them out like burning embers of a campfire to prevent their spread.

Obviously, the goal of positive thinking and affirmations is to diminish negative thoughts and counter them with positive thoughts. This is a worthy and highly beneficial goal that enahances your life.  Negative thoughts, however, are a natural part of being human. We all have them and we will always have them.

To panic and spend a lot of time concerning yourself with them, only causes them to blossom and grow. Recognizing them, accepting them, and letting them go steals their power and allows them to vanish back into the void from where they came. Having a negative thought is not the problem. Allowing them to become your habitual way of seeing things is what you want to avoid.

Actually, our negative thoughts provide a natural benefit. They spread light on the parts of us that need work and attention. If you always have negative thoughts about your job, maybe that part of your life needs some attention. If you have negative thoughts about certain people, those may be relationships that need work.

It’s rather entertaining sometimes to simply “thought watch”. Our minds are interesting things. When we relax, close your eyes, and watch your thoughts for a while you notice how impermanent thoughts are. They appear and create feelings. The disappear and the feelings disappear with them.

If your thoughts are very destructive and involve hurting yourself or others, get professonal help.
Here are four  things you can do to handle and live more harmoniously with common negative thoughts. They form the word CALL.
  1. Counter – counter your negative thoughts with tools like affirmations. Persistent negative thoughts can be countered and changed by offering a positive alternatives.
  2. Accept – accept that you will have negative thoughts and it’s OK. You’re human afterall. No beating yourself up.
  3. Listen – listen to your negative thoughts. They may provide insight into where you need to focus your self-improvement efforts.
  4. Laugh – some of your negative thoughts really are pretty funny when you get enough perspective. Lighten up and see the humor in the way your mind works.

I’m not saying don’t try to transform your negative thoughts into something positive. I’m just saying that when they want to come out and play, CALL allows you to say, “Bring it on!”

Be peaceful Be positive Be prosperous!

Ray

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Metta and The Monk – The Affirmation Spot for Thursday January 24, 2008

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Today’s affirmation is actually a version of a Buddhist meditation called Metta (loving-kindness). This meditation is practiced by directing the following words at yourself. Then spreading them to loved ones and people towards whom you have positive feelings. Then applying them to people that you are neutral towards. Finally, you direct the meditation towards people you view negatively – enemies or people who have hurt you in life.


In my own practice, I have also expanded it to include all people and living things on the Earth and all living things where ever they may exist in the universe. Back in my days as a sales professional, I also would direct this meditation particularly at the customers I planned to call on the next day. It had an uncanny way of opening doors where they appeared to be closed.


“May I be happy. May I be peaceful. May I be free from suffering.” “May (fill in the name) be happy. May (fill in the name) be peaceful. May (fill in the name) be free from suffering.”


cave.jpgToday’s post is a random meandering from a few years ago. During my own meditations, this image of a monk sitting in the entrance to a cave kept appearing. He just sat there playing this old flute and meditating on the sound. He seemed to be communicating with me without saying anything.

How wonderful to remember that there are people out there who spend every waking moment hoping and believing in what the rest of us are capable of becoming.


“The Monk”

Gongs echo in the darkness of the valley below;
one hour to sun up.
Against the mouth of a mountain cave sits a solitary monk;
meditating on the sound of his weathered flute.


Clothed in tattered robe that once was of yellow tint;
he owns nothing in this world
but the peace of mind
born of transcendent joy.


Each morning at this very time he prays with every breath;
that those of us in the world below
would give up our anger, greed, and hatred
and be transformed by the profound bliss he knows.



Be peaceful Be prosperous!

Ray

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Psychology of Seasons – The Affirmation Spot for Friday November 2, 2007

autumn_leaves1.jpgA pleasant good morning to all my friends around the world who are sharing our tiny planet with me on this Friday.

I took my black lab Mia for a short walk earlier this evening. As I’m prone to do, my eyes wandered upwards to take in the beautiful sight of the pitch black skies of Autumn. The stars seemed especially bright this evening and Jupiter was like a beacon…almost close enough to touch.

We live on an amazing planet orbiting within a magnificent solar system that thrives in a wonderous universe. It’s so easy to forget how miraculous are the workings of our world. We are spinning around at a tremendous rate and flying through the galaxy at break=neck speed and yet we often forget to take the time to just reflect on this mystery.

I’m always struck by the significance of the circle in it all. The circle figuratively and literally represents the cycles great and small that make up our existence.

Today I’m going to be a bit indulgent by sharing a poem I wrote some years ago. It ponders the part of our annual cycle we call Autumn or Fall in the northern hemisphere. It’s a time of death in the natural world as we transition from life-giving Spring and vibrantly alive Summer to the seasons of dying and death. It strikes a hopeful chord, however, reminding us that the cycle will come around again in due time, if we have the patience and the wisdom to wait and watch.

Here is the poem. Have a peaceful and productive weekend!

“Psychology of Seasons”
 

A sun-drenched sky
on windy autumn day;
out across open fields
passing clouds make shadow play.

Silent beauty in multi-hues
but ominous in a sense;
for though today be delightful
darkness soon gains precedence.

Shortly days will end too soon
as the leaves of autumn blow.
The gods withhold their aid
to the life-forms down below.

A chill will permeate the air
and death will be around.
Evidenced by dying trees:
their leaves spread on the ground.

Depression need not be our course;
all things must come to pass.
Death is an integral part of life;
perennial as fields of grass.

For very soon rebirth takes place
and all springs back to life.
To our hearts the glow returns,
bringing end to stress and strife.

Given time we come to find
and perhaps appreciate
the coming of darkness and death
who’s end gives cause to celebrate.
Peace…
Ray
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