How to Write Affirmations That Change Your Life – Day 203 of 365 Days to a Better You

Thought for the Day:

Affirmations without action are just glorified wishful thinking. Affirmations are “mental armor” supporting empowered action, not a substitute for it.

Over the past several years, I’ve written many articles about affirmations -how affirmations work, types of affirmations, ways to use affirmations, etc., etc., etc. Some of those articles are linked to in this article.

However, I’ve never just written an article on how to write an effective affirmation. Today I had a request from a follower on Twitter to provide a “how to” and decided it was a good time to write that article. Let me begin by saying that there are many gurus out there with many ideas on how to correctly write affirmations. There are also some dogmas around the process. I’m not big on dogmas of any kind. So some of this might be unorthodox. Feel free to use what resonates for you.

Before we begin, let me make a few quick points. Affirmations are a tool to reshape and refocus your thoughts. By themselves, they don’t “make” anything happen. However, as you replace negative thoughts with negative vibrations with positive thoughts and positive vibrations, you do begin to attract better things into your life. Affirmations without action are just wishful thinking. The idea is that as you raise the vibration of your thoughts, you become more inspired to take action to manifest those thoughts as reality in the world. See the thought of the day at the top of the article.


I recommend reading my two part series on
Affirmations: Repetition and Belief along with using this list to create your affirmations. Following is  7-step process for creating your own affirmations. This is my way. It has worked for me over the past 20 years. Others might have another way that works for them.

  1. Start with a goal – you must have a goal in mind. The clearer the goal, the better the affirmation and the better chance for success. A cloudy goal leads to an unclear affirmation, and poor results.
  2. Affirm what you can believe – affirmations are not a tool for persuading you to believe something you don’t believe. They are a tool to help you create and multiply thoughts that support the action necessary to achieve the things you believe you can achieve. However, you can use what I call “aspirational affirmations” to help manifest a distant goal. You just need to be able to believe you can achieve that goal one day. (Read more Incremental Affirmations and Unrealistic Affirmations)
  3. Use clear language – the language of your affirmation should be clear and powerful for you. It’s OK to use phrases and terms that are very personal to you as long as the language resonates and feels empowering when you say it. Be as specific as possible.
  4. Present Tense – in most cases, it is more effective to use the present tense when writing, speaking, or listening to affirmations. In other words, state your affirmation as “I am…” rather than “I will..” or “I should”. The lone exception would be those discussed in the Incremental Affirmations article.
  5. First, second, and third person – most affirmation gurus will tell you to always put your affirmations in the first person, such as I am a magnificent dancer, rather than the second person you are a magnificent dancer. I agree that first person is the best if you are only going to choose one. Why stop with first person, though? An affirmation can be very powerful in the second person and using your name. I recommend using all three. I am a great writer. You are a great writer. Ray is a great writer. This holographic language creates a more powerful and holistic affirmation. (Read more Adding the Power of You to Your Affirmations)
  6. Use them, use them, use them – once you have written an empowering affirmation, use it. Like so many other motivational tools, affirmations are created and then cast aside after a day or two. Read them aloud, read them into the mirror, post them places where you can see them throughout your day, record them and listen to them passively (Listening Passively to Affirmations) or actively over and over until they infuse your mind. The goal for an affirmation is to have it replace the negative or disempowering thoughts and become thoroughly embedded in your thought process so that it becomes the automatic response  (How Do You Know Your Affirmations are Working?) to your negative thoughts.
  7. Take action – affirmations without action is just wishful thinking. You must think and then act, if you are to achieve.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

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Refuse to Give In to Dystopian Mindsets – Day 202 of 365 Days to a Better You

Dystopia – Dictionary.com defines it as follows.

An imagined state or society in which there is great suffering or injustice, typically one that is totalitarian or post-apocalyptic.

I’m going to make a statement that might shock some of you. There are two things – and only two things – completely out of our control in the world as we understand it. We are born and we die. Every single thing in between is fungible.

Individually and collectively, our thinking literally creates our world. We’ve probably covered this principle half a dozen times in our 200 plus days together thus far. Projecting dystopian ideas into the mass consciousness through media, religious books, or any other means is literally helping to create that world.

The more we focus on it, the more likely we are to make it all come true.

This video is in response to a couple of recent comments on my Anunnaki Awakening Facebook page. We must understand the power of our thoughts and use them in ways that move us forward positively.

Love you ALL! Hold out for and demand our best possible future.

Ray

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Drop Your Shields! – Day 201 of 365 Days to a Better You

Yeah. I’m a Trekkie from way back. Could not resist the Star Trek reference here. I don’t know what you’ve been through in life. You may have had a relatively easy life or you may have had horrific things happen to you.

Here’s what I do know. You can’t go through life with your shields up all the time. Even though you may feel like you’ve been taken advantage of, and most of us have been at one time or another, you have to figure out a way to be open and to trust.

I’m not saying it’s easy. It is necessary. The fact is you need other people to pursue anything meaningful in this world. Having sky-high barriers that are like those signs on a Disney ride – “Go back while you still can” – pushes people away.

Bonds, partnership, and collaboration are needed for you to push your goals and dreams to the limit.

“OK, Ray. I may agree with you, but people have been awful to me in the past. How do I open up without being harmed again?”

Power hack: There’s no fool-proof way to avoid harm. We live in a world filled with risk and reward and a lot of each in the other. Here are some practical steps you can take to drop your shields without leaving yourself vulnerable to attack.

  1. See each person and each situation as different. The fact that other people have hurt you doesn’t mean all people will hurt you. Give people a chance.
  2. Two strikes and you’re out. Assume the positive. Give people two chances to prove they want to have a positive relationship. One strike and you’re out is kind of harsh. People make honest mistakes. Give people a second chance. However, the third time shows a pattern. Better to move on.
  3. Expect respect.  Respect other people, their rights, and their boundaries and require other people to do the same with you. You can’t expect respect if you don’t give it, but if you give it expect it back.
  4. You’re always in control. If someone just doesn’t give you a good vibe, you’re not required to engage them and take that energy into yourself. There are so many people walking around today looking for people who piss them off to do battle with them. Two negatives don’t make a positive. Not everyone has to be a friend or a colleague.
  5. Be authentic. Know thyself and work out from there. When you have a strong sense of who you are and you act on that, you’ll start to attract people and situations that align with that energy.

The bottom line is it’s not productive to cruise the galaxy of life with your shields constantly up. You’ll miss amazing opportunities and relationships. Just be true to who you are, give other people a fair chance, and cut your losses when that’s what needs to be done. Have boundaries not walls and you’ll do great.

I think each and every one of you is amazing and I thank you for stopping by and reading this today. If this struck a nerve, please leave a comment below. If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share it.

Ray

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What You Focus on Expands – Day 200 of 365 Days to a Better You

I was watching an Abraham Hicks video yesterday and it reminded me of a basic and important principle. What you focus on expands. There are a million quotes out there from teachers and saints concurring with this idea.

You’ve noticed this principle at play, even by accident. You buy a car and suddenly you see them everywhere when you didn’t before.

There’s a great quote in the linked video that I want to share.

“You can’t talk about why the drought is unpleasant and attract the rain. You can’t talk about what’s missing and allow what’s missing to be fulfilled.”

It’s a very eloquent way of talking about this principle. When you get in complaining mode (raising my hand), you are less able to manifest what you DO want in your life. When you focus on the negative or what’s going wrong, by definition, that’s what expands. On the other hand, focus on what you want and you see more of that.

The universe is not a giant ATM, but it does give you experiences that match your energy. Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and the door will be opened for you.

When you focus on the negative you’re inviting your conscious mind to identify more negative. Keep your energy focused on attracting what you seek and watch that expand like your new Prius at the stop light.

All my best for an amazing Saturday, my friends!

Ray

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Protect Your Belief in the Goodness of Humanity – Day 199 of 365 Days to a Better You

Turn on the evening news and you will immediately be given 30 minutes of reasons to fear, mistrust, and despise humanity. Go on Twitter for an hour and you’ll quickly find people absolutely willing to say anything, tear down anything or anyone. It’s all enough to make you lose faith in humanity.

Throw in the occasional big company greed swooping into your life to take something from you and you’re liable to right off the deep end with Mark Twain who once wrote, ““Well, there are times when one would like to hang the whole human race and finish the farce.”

I get it. I feel it sometimes myself. The greed, selfishness, and lack of compassion is enough to make you want to scream.

Stop! Look around you. See the kindness going on everywhere in your world today. See people doing selfless things. See people going the extra mile without any benefit to themselves.

I think we’ve been taught to tune into the negative “stations” of human activity by the popular culture. It has caused us to lose sight of the thousand thoughtful, loving, joyful things people have done for every heinous act.

It really comes down to which you choose to notice, focus on, and buy into. Yes. Ugly things happen in the world every day. We can be a savage, juvenile species. However, there’s a beauty and an amazing potential that lives within us too.

Which wolf wins? As the old Native American tale says about the two wolves reminds us, “the one we feed.” Seeing a happier world makes a happier you.

Be the amazing person you are today and notice all the amazing people and selfless acts that literally fill the world. You’ll restore you faith in humanity.

Ray

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Daily Video Affirmations #26 and #27

Hey, my friends, good evening. I posted two video affirmations to my YouTube channel this evening. Can you do me a favor? If you haven’t already, would you please take a moment to subscribe to my YouTube channel after you watch the videos. I have a stretch goal to reach 1000 subscribers by the end of 2019. We’re at 364 right now.

Thank you so much for your support!

Ray

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Daily Video Affirmation #26 – Always Smart with My Money

Daily Video Affirmation #27 – Better Today Than Ever Before