Be An Allower – Day 192 of 365 Days to a Better You

Abraham Maslow said back in 1966, “I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”

Some of the stock language in personal development and often on this blog is set goals, measure results, push, hustle, and dream bigger. These words of determination and encouragement and the “Type A” actions they inspire are certainly one way to the goal. However, as Maslow eloquently points out, having only one tool and one way of doing thing soon becomes problematic.

There’s another methodology that can also get you to your goals. It’s slower and more patient, but can be equally effective. Ironically, it’s the polar opposite the one above.

I was recently listening to an Abraham Hicks video on YouTube. He had come up with a name for this alternate approach – Allower.

While the driver approach is embodied by two hands on the boats wheel and full speed ahead, the Allower has hands off the wheel allowing the river to steer and moving at the pace of the flow. This approach means giving up the control and letting the current push you where it will, as you make the most of the opportunities that come your way.

The speed boat may get down the river faster than the leaf, but they both get down the river. You may find the Allower approach less stressful and a better fit for your personality. If not, you can still add it to your toolbox, allowing you to put down the hammer once in a while and still succeed.

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Change Your Perspective, Change Your Results – Day 182 of 365 Days to a Better You

Good evening, my friends. Thanks for stopping by. Our movers came today and our stuff has officially followed us to Kansas. I spent much of a very hot summer day directing traffic on where to put everything.

This evening I had several errands to run. I thought I’d closed the garage door when I left the first time, but it was open when I returned. I closed it again, but when I came back out to my car it was up again. I tried closing it only to find that the door was closing partially and then coming back up.

Ninety-nine times out of a hundred that because something is blocking the door sensors. I made sure the path between them was clear and that nothing was within three feet of either. Still, the door would not close.

After hearing the door start to close several times, April came out to see what I was doing. I explained what was going on. She tried it a couple times and got the same result. However, the second time she happened to notice that the manual pull rope for the door had jammed into the track and was preventing the door from closing.

A simple solution, but not if you’re bound and determined, as I was in this case, to find the solution you’re expecting. Even though 99 times out of 100 my line of troubleshooting would have fixed the situation, in this instance it did not. I don’t know how long I would have continued down that path had April not made her casual observation.

We all do this in life sometimes. We keep on operating from a comfortable perspective. It may even be one that has worked for you before. Yet, we’re not making progress in addressing the challenge or moving forward.

That’s when fresh perspectives from other people can pay rapid and massive dividends. We can get so into our own heads and what we know that we miss the obvious like the pull string is stuck in the track.

Trust your judgment and your instincts, but don’t be afraid to enlist other perspectives or even force yourself to see other possibilities. The answer you’ve been seeking may be obvious from those fresh perspectives.

Power hack: Here are some tips for getting new perspectives.

  1. Enlist the help of a friend.
  2. What would Superman do? If you had no fears, what would you do in this situation?
  3. What would younger/older you do?
  4. Physically get a new perspective. Lay on the floor and look at the ceiling. Get out into nature and ponder your situation. Stand on your head. Literally change your physical point of view.
  5. Ask someone who’s done what you’re trying to do.
  6. Screw convention. Walk and own your unique path.

Thanks for stopping by. Hope your Monday was fantastic! Sleep well and I’ll talk to you again tomorrow.