You Time – Day 211 of 365 Days to a Better You

Are you the hardest worker you know? Excellent! Are you always the one who makes sure everyone else’s needs are met? It’s a worthy aspiration. Do you have enough You Time?

Most of us were taught that putting ourselves first is selfish and something we should never do. I guess the message was that there’s something unholy about considering our needs and making sure they get met. Could that be why so many people feel so incomplete in our society?

Have you been on a plane and been exposed to the safety briefing? You probably only half listened as you picked your movie, read the in-flight magazine, or tried to find a comfortable sleeping position.

Have you ever noticed the instructions when they get to that part about the cabin losing pressure and the oxygen masks dropping from the ceiling? Secure your oxygen mask first before you helping others. It seems like common sense, right? I mean if you can’t breathe, you can really help someone else can you?

Yet because of that life-long conditioning about always putting other people first, you go through life pretending you can proverbially breathe while you’re helping everyone else secure their proverbial oxygen masks first. Meanwhile, your goals and dreams and well-being are set aside. Soon they’re starved of oxygen.

I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with putting other people first or being selfless sometimes. I am saying that you need to secure your mask first because you won’t be able to help others for long unless you do.

Feed yourself and you will have more energy to help others. Starve yourself and you will poison your ability to help others.

You’re all amazing! Let’s make this the best week of your year!

Ray

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I Refuse Affirmations

I’m a little unorthodox when it comes to affirmations. I have found that a word like REFUSE has a lot of emotional energy in it An forms a fantastic affirmation. Here’s some examples.

Stay inspired, my friends!

Ray

Use I AM Wisely – Day 210 of 365 Days to a Better You

You likely say the phrase I AM or it’s shortened version I’m 50-100 times a day. And if you count the times you think them, and that’s equally impactful, it’s several multiples of that number.

No two words are more powerful and there’s something else you should know. Subconsciously, every time you say them, you’re creating an equation where what you say next is equal to I AM.

This is why they are the most common and powerful opening to affirmations. What equations are you burning into you’re subconscious?

  • I am a failure.
  • I’m always late.
  • I am bad at tests.
  • I am a bad parent.
  • I am never going to…

You get the idea. More than likely it’s a mix of positive and negative, but you often use the negative I AMs to systematically best yourself down. Stop it! Get conscious about it. Catch yourself doing that and correct it.

One great way to use your I AMs to maximum positive effect is to consciously turn them into affirmations. Drown out the negative I AMs with a tsunami of positive ones.

Make the power of that subconscious self-equation machine work FOR you.

Love you all and I’ll talk to you again tomorrow.

Ray

There Are No Dumb Questions – Day 209 of 365 Days to a Better You

You’ve probably heard someone say, “There are no dumb questions,” when trying to get a class or a group of people to open up. Because of the situations where you’ve heard it (maybe a situation where you didn’t have a question), you might have allowed this important piece of advice to slide right by you.

Questioning is at the heart of a growing mind and an expanding soul. Yet, many in our culture fear looking weak if they admit they don’t have all the answers. Questioning is like opening the door and exposing your ignorance.

Some pretty smart people disagree.

  • Confucius said it like this, “The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute; the man who does not ask is a fool for life.”
  • Einstein added, “The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.”
  • Socrates went a step further by saying, “The only true wisdom is knowing that you know nothing.”

Power hack: So, never fear asking questions. Those who don’t ask won’t know. Every question answered adds to your store knowledge. There’s no embarrassment in admitting you don’t know, asking for help, or seeking new truths.

Go through life like a great journalist. Always asking the hard questions of life, of others, and of yourself. You’ll be better for it, smarter for it, and way ahead of those people sitting in silence afraid to ask.

Thanks for spending another few minutes on the blog. You ARE awesome! If you enjoy what you read here, please tell a couple of friends.

Speak your truth unapologetically!

Ray

 

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