Affirmation is a Verb – The Affirmation Spot for Monday April 12, 2010

Today’s Thought:

“Thought is the blossom; language the bud; action the fruit behind it”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson


Good morning and a wonderful Monday to everyone!

This morning I want to talk about affirmations as verbs. We all know from elementary school that verbs are “action words”.

In fact, the root word of affirmation is the verb affirm. The first definition for affirm at TheFreeDictionary.com is “to declare positively or firmly; maintain to be true.”

Most people know this definition, but they think it is the entire definition for the word affirmation.

They are forgetting the ‘ation’ part of the word. This suffix is Greek and it means, “action, process, or state of being.”

So, when we put the two parts of the word together we get:

To declare positively or firmly + to put the declaration into action or process so that it becomes a state of being.

This is where many people fall down or fail to understand the power of affirmations. They think it is just empty thoughts or words that don’t impact reality. Well, the thoughts and the words are not empty either, but I’ll save that for another post.

The fact is you really don’t have a true affirmation until your hands and your feet join your mind and your lips in action. True affirmations are the thoughts and words AND the actions that support those thoughts and words – they are verbs full of action.

The way the process works is that the positive thoughts and words encourage the action. As the action begins, obstacles are faced and the thoughts and words, when maintained, come to the aid and support of the action in overcoming the obstacles. By the end of the process, the thoughts, words, and actions are feeding on each other and producing the desired results.

That is a true affirmation put into practice. Not only thoughts or words, but thoughts, words, and actions working in concert to achieve goals and dreams!

Stay inspired and have an awesome Monday!

Ray

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What is Positive Psychology? – The Affirmation Spot for Tuesday June 23, 2009

Today’s affirmation is:

“It is not the mountain I conquer, but myself. I am reaching for the top of the mountain and my day in the sun is here.” (Click to download this affirmation in MP3 audio)

I will be posting Part II of the Collective Mental Empowerment later in the week. Today I found a brief, but solid explanation of the field of positive psychology from life coach Emiliya Zhivotovskaya. It provides a brief introduction to this exciting, positively charged study of human psychology.

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came to the planet to be!”

Make Your “Can’t List” – The Affirmation Spot for Wednesday March 4, 2009

Today’s Affirmation:

“Each and every day I am learning how magnificent life can be and how magnificent I can be.”
(Click the affirmation to add to your mp3 player)

lightning11Here is a great exercise to help you identify those thoughts and habits that are holding you back. Make a ‘Can’t list”.

Why? Before you can really use affirmations or other tools to change negative or limiting thoughts, you have to know what those thoughts are. That allows you to target the specific thoughts that are holding you back in the activity or area of life you want to improve.

It’s easy to do. Over the next few days, do the following:

  1. Keep a notepad nearby.
  2. Pay attention to your thoughts and write down every “I can’t” thought you have.
  3. Tick mark each thought to track how many times you have that thought.
  4. Track the circumstances when are having the thought.

After two or three days, review your list. Ask yourself the following questions.

  1. Is there a pattern? Are the thoughts focused on specific things?
  2. Do you have them in certain circumstances?
  3. Do they occur at certain parts of the day?
  4. Do they occur when you are tired or worked up?

The key is to become aware of what you are regularly telling yourself you cannot do. We often do not realize how many times a day we think “can’t” or the impact that has on our ability to accomplish things.

This will allow you to use affirmations to replace the can’t thoughts with “can” thoughts. As your thoughts change, your actions change. As your actions change, your results change.

Make your “Can’t List” today so you can be on your way to your CAN!

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation:

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”

Letting Go Strategies

woman_eyes_closed_sun_rs.jpgToday’s Affirmation:

“I hold on to those ideas, things, and circumstances that serve my growth and freely release those that no longer do.”

Letting go is something many people have a difficult time doing. As human beings, it is natural that we grow attached to the ideas, things, and circumstances that have added value to our lives. We get used to the way things are and, at times, will go to any extent to keep them that way. This is simply loyalty until it becomes destructive to our well-being.

The ability to let go and move on is a key factor for success in life. Successful people recognize when a situation has yielded all the benefit possible (or enough punishment) and they willingly accept the next challenge.

Many situations begin in our lives as fertile rivers that nourish us and help us grow. However, when we hold on longer than we should we wake up one morning laying in a proverbial dry river bed and wondering what in the world happened.

Now, I’m not advocating a bottom-line cost-benefit approach to life, where you dump your spouse because you “don’t feel it” today or change jobs every six months. Commitment is an important characteristic of successful people as well.

I’m advocating a wise, well-considered approach that honestly aligns with your deepest needs and intentions. Those are not fickle, flavor-of-the-day feelings, but they do change periodically.

One stumbling block encountered when trying to let something go is the fact that it is a mostly mental process. One way to put an exclamation point on the release is to do something physical to represent the release.

Not every situation needs this much attention, but situations where you are really having a hard time letting go; try the following.

Write the situation you are trying to release on a piece of paper. Be specific. Use names, dates, and descriptions. At the end of the note, write, “Today I am releasing you.”

Here are three ways to solidify your release of the issue.

1. Take your note and tear it into small pieces. Feed the pieces – one at at time -into a fire until it is gone. As you feed each piece into the fire, say to yourself, “I release you.”

2. Get a balloon and stuff your note inside. Fill the balloon with helium and release it. As the balloon sails up and away, say to yourself, “I release you.” The balloon gets smaller and smaller until it is gone. Visualize your attachment to the situation getting smaller and smaller until it is gone.

3. If there are very strong feelings associated with the situation, try this technique. Put your note in an empty aluminum can. Set the can in your drive way and roll over it with your car until it smashed flat. Each time you roll over the can say to yourself, “I’m done with this situation.” When you have crushed the can flat throw it a way and “be done with it.”

These techniques are helpful for situations involving strong emotional attachments. Not every situation requires such an extreme measure, but we do need to maintenance our lives occasionally to make sure we are surrounding ourselves with the people, things, and circumstances that benefit us and the people we care about.

Have an exceptional Monday.

Peace…

Ray

Are You Pole-Vaulting in Quick Sand?

Today’s Affirmation:

“I succeed by helping my clients succeed.”
(Click the affirmation to hear the mp3 version)

pole_vault1The image is rather humorous to imagine, isn’t it? Picture a pole-vaulter racing down the track and planting his pole in a vat of quick sand to launch. What do you think would happen?

Yet many of us do that every day. Our careers, businesses, and personal lives are a lot like a pole-vaulting competition. As we progress, someone keeps moving the bar higher each time. Have we set a firm foundation for success?

The pole represents the actions we take to “vault” over our goals. Our thoughts are the foundation we use to launch. If our thoughts are like quick sand – not empowering and supportive of our goals – then no amount of action is going to get us where we want to go. We have to have a solid foundation from which to launch our activity.

Unfortunately, establishing and maintaining success-generating thoughts is not a “once and done” proposition.

Henry David Thoreau once wrote:

“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”

Here are some simple steps to help you create a firm mental foundation for your actions.

  • Add Thinking Time – Many people forget to account for time to think, imagine, and dream. When you start a new project or create an action or business plan add “thinking time” into your time line as the first step. Thinking before you act creates a firm foundation for success.
  • Empower Your Thinking – Now that you’ve added thinking time focus on creating the kinds of thoughts that support your plans, goals, and dreams. Elevate your strengths and abilities and reduce focus on negatives and naysayers. Harness the power of your thinking to propel you forward rather than hold you back.
  • Rinse and Repeat – Keep the positive, empowered thoughts coming. As you move forward, you may encounter doubts or headwinds.  Your thoughts are a critical buffer to keep you going. Many, many people give up as soon as the obstacles appear because their thoughts have not prepared them to handle it. Stay focused on your mental game to keep your edge and weather storms.
  • Grow and Change – Even power thoughts can be misdirected. The point is not to beat your head against an unmovable wall. That is stubbornness not success. An empowered thinker is constantly reevaluating and adjusting course to keep steering towards the goal. Sometimes the goal even changes through the process. Be adaptable and ready transition your thoughts to support the new goal.

Particularly in the current environment, your thoughts are your life-line to keep you going. Make sure they are rock solid and not quick sand. The bottom line is that the first step to any achievement is an empowered thought. The secret to sustained success is constant maintenance of your thinking.

Make getting your thoughts empowered, aligned, and on board the first step in every action plan or business plan you create. Don’t try to pole-vault in quick sand.

Think It! Believe It! Do It! Be It!

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be!”

We Experience What We Focus On – The Affirmation Spot for Friday January 16, 2009

Today’s Affirmation:

“I believe in the future of humanity. I believe our species’ most prosperous, peaceful, and enlightened times are ahead. I am living my life in a way that turns that belief into reality.”
(Click the affirmation to hear the mp3 version)

northfaceI’m probably about to expose how tragically unhip I am. So be it. Until two months ago, I had never heard of The North Face clothing company. My step-daughter asked for one of their jackets for Christmas this year.  I was oblivious to how “in” their clothing is right now.

We purchased her jacket. Over the past few weeks I have suddenly noticed The North Face clothing all over the place. I think I saw three people wearing their jackets just today. I’m sure people were wearing their clothing before the past few weeks. I simply had no reason to pay attention.

Have you ever noticed how once you become aware of something; you suddenly see it everywhere? It makes sense when you think about it. Ask a physicist and he will tell you that the world around us composed of a bunch atoms hanging in nothingness.

Your brain is a remarkable pattern recognition device. Somehow it transforms this mass of formless energy and into something comprehensible to you.

Amazing as it is, your brain does have limits. It cannot possibly make sense of all the information in that vast field energy. So it selects information that fits your conscious expectations. Before I had no conscious expectation of seeing The North Face and I didn’t see it. Our conscious awareness seems to unlock the code that allows us to notice what we expect.

The key here is that your brain works this way on more important issues too.

If your conscious expectation is that your life will be filled with negative people and negative experiences, that is precisely what you are going to see when you stare into the field of atoms.

Fortunately, when you expect positive people and experiences, your brain selects that information and that’s what you notice more of in your life. Expect success and that is what manifests. Expect happiness, health, or opportunity and your brain obliges.

You experience what you focus on. So watch your expectations. They are generating what information you choose to experience. And sorry, but now that I’ve planted the seed you are going to see The North Face brand everywhere too!

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be.”

Caching Out – The Affirmation Spot for Wednesday January 14, 2009

Today’s Affirmation:

“Release stress…I am releasing all stressful thoughts and feelings from my life.”
(Click the affirmation to hear the mp3 version)

sunrise7Did you know that when you look at the Sun you are not actually seeing the Sun as it is right now? Traveling at the speed of light, the Sun’s light takes about eight and a half minutes to reach the Earth. You are seeing the Sun as it existed eight and a half minutes ago.

You are seeing the Moon as it existed about 1.255 seconds ago. You see most of the stars in the night sky as they were decades, centuries, or millennia ago.

Sometimes we can think we are looking at what is when we are really looking at what was.

In your computer, there is a function known as caching that goes on constantly while you are using the computer.  This function saves into memory the last version of a visited web page. The benefit of caching information is that allows the computer to more rapidly access information than if it had to find it and load it all over again. This saves computer resources and time.

Your “mental software” functions in a similar way. You are constantly caching beliefs, feelings, and memories. You are constantly caching perceptions about people, things, and situations. Like the computer, this process allows you easily access information about your environment and saves valuable mindshare resources for other more pressing things. In other words, it is convenient not to have to rethink or reevaluate.

When a computer accesses a web page that has been cached in its memory it displays the version of the web page that was current when it was saved to memory. The browser may have to be refreshed to display changes made to the web page since it was cached.

When your mind “caches” things something similar happens. You may continue to see an old version of your reality and the people and things in it. Dogma forms and your perception becomes limited and inflexible. People never change and things never change. All new information is filtered to conform to your existing perceptions.

While convenient, this process denies the fact that people and things do change. A person who you categorized once as rude and obnoxious could have a profound change, but you would not recognize it because you see them through your cached view. A circumstance that once was very beneficial to you might have become toxic in your life, but you fail to recognize it because you are seeing it through a dated filter.

Worst of all, this process is nearly unconscious until you bring it to your conscious awareness. You have to remember to click refresh once in a while in your relationships and circumstances. Look with fresh eyes and see what is really there now.

Every moment in this universe is a totally unique and special event.  People are capable of change for good or bad.  You miss the diversity, opportunity, and potential when you use your cached files to view the world.

Click refresh right now.

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be.”