About Affirmations: You Already Think in Affirmations All Day Long

Today’s Thought:

Positive thinking may not work 100% of the time, but negative thinking does.

When I talk to people about using positive affirmations I often encounter comments like, “Well, affirmations are OK, but they just won’t work for me,” or “I could never do that.”

I always think, “Did I just hear you right?” You just used a (negative) affirmation and proved your own point incorrect by demonstrating how successful that affirmation is for you. You believe you can’t do affirmations or that they would never work for you and your affirmation has come true!

Consider this. You think in affirmations all day long. You are constantly molding your experience of the world through a series of can/can’t am/aren’t statements in your mind (a.k.a. positive affirmations or negative affirmations). An affirmation, after all, is only a statement that you can/can’t accomplish something or that you are/aren’t capable.

I love reading articles by folks who say affirmations are a fraud, useless, or self-delusional (more affirmations). The kinds of affirmations you think have a pretty high correlation to the outcomes in your life. When you think in positive affirmations about something, your attitude and your actions fall into line and you generally succeed. When you harbor and express negative affirmations about something failure is almost sure to follow.

Positive affirmations are not magic pills. They don’t change certain laws of physics. They cannot always impact the quantitative, but they can almost always improve the qualitative. For instance, a sixty year-old woman cannot affirm that she is twenty and wake up one morning 20 years old. However, the sixty year-old who affirms that she feels twenty is going to remain happy and active longer than someone who affirms all day how old they are becoming.

So, the questions really are these:

  • If affirmations are just a fancy name for the kinds of thoughts we think all day, do you choose to think in positive affirmation or negative affirmations?
  • Do you choose to believe you can or conclude you cannot?

Affirmations are inevitable travelers through your consciousness. They are an autonomic function of your mind that’s been dubbed “self-talk.”

You can’t stop them from appearing and you can’t necessarily change the ones that appear in your mind. However, you CAN control  which thoughts you choose to focus on. Remember, “where focus goes, energy flows.”

Whichever you choose, you will experience. Which kind of affirmation do you choose today?

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

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Balancing Acceptance and Not Giving Up – Day 240 of 365 Days to a Better You

The caterpillar must be a caterpillar, while never ignoring he is becoming a butterfly. You and I must accept our caterpillar-ness in this moment without conceding our butterfly-ness for a single moment.

I’ve found that deep breathing and affirmations work well together. So, I often incorporate breathing right into the affirmation.

Today’s affirmation is: Breathing in, I completely accept that what is is. Breathing out, I am absolutely determined Ed to change it!

I’ve been using a version of this affirmation for years. It hepls me balsnce two very important, but seemingly contradictory, principles. Those are acceptance and a strong desire for change.

Acceptance of what is is a critical foundation for any change. I can’t thin’ of an instance where denial of a present reality is useful or healthy. However, that reality might be something you’re absolutely determined to change.

  • You accept your current state of health as your real starting place, but you want to inspire change to live healthier. You can modify this very flexible affirmation to something like the following. Breathing in I accept that I am out of shape. Breathing out I am exercising every day to change it!
  • You accept the current state of conflict in the world. You can modify this affirmation to something like: Breathing in, I accept that peace is not our current reality. Breathing out, I am working like hell to change it!

You can apply this affirmation to virtually any current and desired state of affairs.

Using the affirmation regularly grounds you. It commits your mind to both acceptance and a determination never to give up on what you know can be. I recommend using your affirmation with with more aspirational affirmations to tilt the balance in favor of the desired state.

Examples:

  1. Breathing in, I accept that I have a C in chemistry. Breathing out, I am working my butt of to make that an A.
  2. I am a great student!
  3. I own chemistry!
  4. I am acing my final chemistry exam!
  5. I deserve to make straight A’s!

Give this a try. I think you’ll find it an effective way to deal with the now, while continuing to work for your goals.

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Ray

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Affirmations, Marketing, and the Big Lie – Day 167 of 365 Days to a Better You

Why do you believe what you believe? For many people on this planet, they believe what they believe because it’s what they’ve been exposed to repetitively throughout their lives. Without an innate determination to question those beliefs, they will capture you.

Why do affirmations work? They are simply messages repeated to yourself over and over again. The more you hear them, see them, and say them, the more you believe them.

The Nazi Reich Minister of Propaganda Joseph Goebbels has one of the most famous quotes about repeating a message or propaganda. “If you repeat a lie often enough, people will come to believe it, and you will even come to believe it yourself.” He called it The Big Lie.

Now Goebbels and company used this principle for evil purposes. Yet, there’s no denying the truth of the statement. A message repeated over and over begins to gain acceptance in your consciousness.

He got one thing wrong though. The principle doesn’t just work for lies. It works for any message – positive, negative, or neutral – that is repeated often enough. The message seeds deeply in your consciousness and there for ready recall. Don’t believe it? See if you can finish these ad tagline sentences.

  • Like a good neighbor…
  • America runs on….
  • Bounty: The quicker…
  • M&M’s: Melts in your mouth…

The reason you, more than likely, easily finished those sentences is you’ve heard them over and over and they right there beneath your consciousness waiting to be triggered. That’s what effective marketing does. It delivers a concise, memorable, message over and over. That’s what affirmations can do you for you.

“Wait a minute, Ray!” you might say. “I may know that like a good neighbor, state farm is there, but that doesn’t mean I believe it.”

True enough, but the affirmations – your ad campaign to yourself – is presumedly messages you do want to believe and accept. So by repeating them over and over, you allow the power of repetition to seed your consciousness with words that inspire, push you, and bolster you.

Then, by using words, that evoke strong emotions you generate a powerful belief in the messages. After all, “I can’t” was just an ad campaign you or someone else ran against you. “I can” or “I am” or “I choose” can just as easily become your new ad campaign.

Repetition and belief are the duel engines of affirmations. Even someone as nefarious as Goebbels had one thing absolutely right. Say your affirmations often enough and you WILL come to believe them.

Stay inspired and thanks for reading today’s post. I hope your weekend is rejuvenating you and getting you ready for a great week ahead!

Two weeks from today, April, Mia, and I will arrive back in Kansas City to restart our lives there. We are gearing up for our second cross-country move in four years. Please keep sending us positive energy for that journey!

Ray

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Affirmation Tips: Listening to Your Affirmations

Hey, guys!

IMG_1475I’ve been writing, recording, and using affirmations for many years. I’ve found that listening to affirmations in an audio format is the most effective way for me to add them to my busy schedule and get maximum benefit from them.

Affirmations are still among the most powerful ways to shift your mindset in positive ways. Yes! Action is required, but empowered thinking is still the fuel for the action.

Here are my tips using affirmations.

  • Listen passively – have you ever had that experience where you didn’t think you were listening to the words of a song or a commercial and you suddenly know them? That’s how listening passively to audio affirmations works. You listen while you’re living your life. You may not think you’re listening, but your subconscious is. With enough repetition they become conscious.
  • Listen meditatively – audio affirmations are great when used as a guided meditation. Listen consciously and with intent. Absorb and embody the words. Soon they become part of who you are.
  • Add them to your workout playlist – workout time or running time can be personal development time. Sure, you like listening to your favorite music, but mix the affirmations in with the songs. Physical exertion is an amazing way to help the affirmation impact your consciousness.
  • Listen in the morning – affirmations are an amazing way to start your day withe positive energy and vision. Listen to affirmations that inspire rather than talk radio that demotivates.
  • When you need them – play your affirmations on the way to a sales call, an interview, while you work in the garden, or in the locker room before the big game. Power words right before you face a situation can power up your game!
  • While you sleep – if your spouse or partner will allow you, listen to affirmations while you sleep. This is the unconscious working at its best. No conscious rejection. You’re simply letting better thoughts fill your mind.

I’ve been doing this for more than 25 years. I’ve seen these techniques work over and over again. If you need some affirmations to listen download MP3 from my growing library or listen to them on my YouTube Channel.

I’d love to hear your experiences and how this works for you!

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

 


Three Keys to Successfully Using Affirmations

world musicI’ve been using affirmations for 30 years and writing and recording them for 25 years. They are one simple, powerful tool to change the way you think. As we all know, what we think we become.

Here are three easy, but necessary steps, to make the most of your affirmations.

  1. Repeat– you’ve had the negative thoughts or circumstances you’re trying to overcome for some time in your life. Saying a couple of affirmations once or twice is not going to overcome them. You must give your positive thoughts equal time – time to work. Use your affirmations daily and continue using them until you begin to notice a change in your thinking. Despite many sources that claim that 21 or 30 days are magical threshholds, I’ve not discovered that. It varies from situation to situation. I know an affirmation is working when my affirmation becomes and auto-response in my mind to the kinds of negative thoughts I’m trying to replace.
  2. Believe – saying empty words that you don’t feel or that fail to address the area of your life you’re ready to improve is worthless. You must repeat your affirmations often and you must work to believe that what you’re saying is true for you. There will be moments and days when you don’t believe. That’s OK. Don’t give up. Affirmations only succeed when you break through that initial resistance. That resistance is called cognitive dissonance and it is a natural part of the process.
  3. Act – I’ve often said that affirmations without action to follow them are just wishful thinking. Saying you want to be a great tennis player to yourself will never happen, if you never pick up the racket and hit the court.

 

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot and an advocate for the potential of the human race.  He’s the indie author of the breakthrough novel Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation – order your signed copy today at AATrilogy.com

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6 Tips for Using Affirmations

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Silhouette of a man figure meditating in the outdoorsMany affirmation gurus suggest that all affirmations be written in the first person. First person affirmations are the most effective when reading, writing, or saying affirmations. Most people do not feel comfortable looking into a mirror and using “you” affirmations. However, audio affirmations open up a whole new realm. Listening is more passive than speaking or reading and you are used to hearing people speak to you in the second person.

My 25 years of experience with audio affirmations demonstrates that second-person affirmations are highly effective as audio affirmations. They offer “outside” confirmation of the first-person version of the affirmation.

  1. Commitment – keep in mind that the key to using affirmations – audio, written, or spoken – is commitment to your goal. Without a commitment to making the change or reaching your goal, affirmations are just words.
  2. Repetition – repetition is the engine of affirmation success. For an affirmation to do its job in transforming your thoughts, it has to get at least equal time with the negative thoughts you want to replace.
  3. How much/how often – speak, write, or listen to the first person affirmation 5-10 times and then repeat the second person affirmation the same number of times. Do this at least twice each day. Stay with the affirmation(s) for at least 30 days. Use them again if the old thoughts return.
  4. How to use first person affirmations – “Own” the first-person version. Speak or listen as if you are speaking passionately to yourself.
  5. How to use second person affirmations – ”Actively accept” the second person version. Speak or listen as if someone you respect is confirming your affirmation back to you.
  6. How to know you’re getting results – there are several criteria for recognizing an affirmation’s success.
    1. The old thought, behavior, or performance disappears or lessens.
    2. Your mood, thinking, behavior, or performance change in a positive direction.
    3. The old thought, behavior, or performance appears and your thinking immediately answers with the affirmation. This is really exciting. Your old thought is “I am stupid.” You think this thought and immediately it is answered by your affirmation, “I am highly intelligent.”

For example, following “I am beautiful” with “You are beautiful” provides subconscious external confirmation of the first-person claim.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Affirmations Never Work For Me

Today’s Thought:

Positive thinking may not work 100% of the time, but negative thinking does.

FlyingWhen I talk to people about using positive affirmations I often encounter comments like, “Well, affirmations are OK, but they just won’t work for me,” or “I could never do that.”

I always think, “Did I just hear you right?” You just used a (negative) affirmation and proved your own point incorrect by demonstrating how successful that affirmation is for you. You believe you can’t do affirmations or that they would never work for you and your affirmation has come true!

Think about that for a moment. You think in affirmations all day long. You are constantly molding your experience of the world through a series of can/can’t are/aren’t statements in your mind (a.k.a. positive affirmations or negative affirmations). An affirmation, after all, is only a statement that you can/can’t accomplish something or that you are/aren’t capable.

I love reading articles by folks who say affirmations are a fraud, useless, or self-delusional (more affirmations). The kinds of affirmations you think have a pretty high correlation to the outcomes in your life. When you think in positive affirmations about something, your attitude and your actions fall into line and you generally succeed. When you harbor and express negative beliefs about something failure is almost sure to follow.

Positive affirmations are not magic pills. They don’t change certain laws of physics. They cannot always impact the quantitative, but they can almost always improve the qualitative. For instance, a sixty year-old woman cannot affirm that she is twenty and wake up one morning 20 years old. However, the sixty year-old who affirms that she feels twenty is going to remain happy and active longer than someone who affirms all day how old they are becoming.

So, the questions really are these. If affirmations are just a fancy name for the kinds of thoughts we think all day, do you choose to think positively or negatively? Do you choose to believe you can or conclude we cannot?

You cannot prevent affirmations. They are an autonomic function of your mind. What you can control, though, is which kinds of affirmations you want to be pervasive in your life.

Whichever you choose, you will experience. Which will you choose today?

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation, Ray’s first novel,  is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous.

White House Correspondent Maria Love is on to the story of her life and with the help of an Anunnaki leader seeks to unravel and reveal history’s biggest conspiracy. The Awakening has begun!