Today I’m sharing three stories of famous people who had every reason to give up on their dreams, but didn’t. Don’t give up on yours. Have a great Monday, my friends!
I find my bliss in the chaos. I find my stillness in the dance.
When I was younger, I used to spend my time waiting for this perfect moment I imagined would come to take action. The right moment, I assumed, would arrive for me to ask out that girl. The sun would shine upon me, as in a movie, to tell me I was making the right choices. The Universe would suddenly sing in unison to show me the way.
Now, I’ve been lucky enough to have a few of those moments in my life and perhaps you have too. However, they’re not reliable enough base your life strategy around.
The great mythologist Joseph Campbell pointed out there were two spheres of thought in ancient Buddhism – Indian and Chinese. The former has this concept of Samadhi, while the latter is based more on the idea of the Tao.
Samadhi is a moment where the great enlightened being stills the world around him or her to a state of perfected bliss and union. Meanwhile, the Tao summons the idea that life is a chaotic balance always in movement around the great being and that enlightenment is found not in stilling the chaos, but in becoming one with the ebb and flow.
That younger me was constantly waiting for moments of Samadhi. Now I’m certain such a state is reachable by the most enlightened among us and for all of us in certain moments. It’s also reachable if you want to leave the world, as Buddha did, and spend your life on a mountain or in a forest in complete contemplation. For most of us ordinary human beings with a job and mortgage, though, we must be content with finding our bliss amid the chaos of a life that never stops and is always presenting new challenges.
That younger me thought life would stop and wait for me at some point; that I”d suddenly “get it” and all would fall beautifully into place. This older wiser me understands that the beauty and sometimes the terror is found in the constant chaos that is our lives. The beauty is not just in that magical stillness, but in the flow of the river that never ceases.
Power Hack: Stop waiting. There’s no perfect moment except this one. Your goals, your dreams, and your destiny are found on the run. Samadhi does exist and I’d welcome you to seek it, but it’s not the mechanism that will drive most of your happiness or success. For that, you must lose yourself in this moment of action and find your bliss amid the chaos.
Ask him out. Apply to Harvard. Write the book. Change the world. Do it now.
You are all amazing! Never forget it no matter what anyone says. Thank you so much for spending a few more minutes with me on the blog today.
Living beyond other peoples’ opinions.
Opinion is the medium between knowledge and ignorance.
April and I were listening to Rachel Hollis this morning. She says something repeatedly throughout her work that I really like. It’s something to the effect that other people don’t get to choose the life you live.
As long as you can remember, you had to deal with other peoples’ of you, what you do, and who you are. The mistake you may have made early on is believing their opinions. Maybe they had a position of authority, they were your friend, your spouse, or someone you really admired.
The fact of the matter is there’s only one opinion, ultimately, that matters in your life. There’s only one opinion that propel you or stop you in your tracks. That’s your opinion.
Now, you may have a low opinion of yourself in a given situation or endeavor. That’s content for another blog. Right now, we’re focused on all those other opinions that stream into your life, often without invitation. Who should you listen to and who should you ignore?
Let’s start with this. An opinion that limits you or squashes your potential, no matter how much you love or respect the person offering it, needs to be ejected from your life now. That opinion is not moving you forward.
I’m not talking about ignoring sound advice like don’t, “Don’t drive on the wrong side of the road.” I’m talking about opinions like:
- “Oh, you don’t want to write a book. No one will ever buy it.”
- “He’s the best you’ll ever do. You better hang on to him no matter how he treats you.”
- “You can’t run a successful business. I never could.”
- “Why do you need a Master’s Degree? I did fine without it.”
Power hack: When someone is audacious enough to tell you that you never can or never should follow your dream, I want you to apply this standard. Does that person have the life you want? Have they achieved what you dream of achieving?
You see, most people who spend their lives shooting down other peoples’ dreams and naysaying are bitter because they never had the courage to go after theirs. Or maybe they did, and it didn’t work out for them. That’s sad, but it’s no reason to squash your enthusiasm and determination for yours.
If your critic lacks the credentials to advise you or obviously is not coming from a supportive place, ignore the opinion. It’s of no value to you. Find those people who do support you and, damn it, support yourself! Every great achievement in human history happened, despite all the opinions about it not because of them.
You will never be free of opinions flowing into your life, but you can free yourself from their negative effect and get on with the business of following your bliss!
You – yeah you – you’re AWESOME!
Don’t die with your music still inside of you.
One of my favorite moments in Spring is the first time I see and hear a cardinal sing. I love red and so I find cardinals to be stunning birds. The best thing, though, is their amazing song. I can’t get enough of it. I’d love to hear your song too!
The late Wayne Dyer often encouraged his listeners with this aphorism. I never heard Wayne say it, but I’ve always believed he was referring back to another proverb of indistinct origin. “A bird doesn’t sing because it has the answer, it sings because it has a song.
Did you know you have a song inside of you? I believe we all do. You may call it your bliss, your mission, your path. It’s that thing that we cannot imagine dying without having expressed, experienced, and shared. Yet, many of you reading this, have not blessed the world with your song.
“Well,” you might think, “No one really cares about my song. It won’t change the world or my situation.” Are you sure? Who among us knows how a word, a gesture, a thought from you might change everything?
Whether you “singing” your song would shift the world or just shift a moment, read the quote again. The reason for singing your song is not because your song is the answer, though it might be. The reason for singing your song is because you have a song and it’s what you’re here to do. You won’t feel complete until you pipe up. So, pipe up!
It doesn’t have to be the most beautiful song or the most profound. It only needs to be the contribution you came here to make.
No pressure, but it’s time to start singing!
Have a fantastic and song-filled day!
Follow your bliss.
For years, I’ve ended posts with the phrase, “Follow your bliss, experience your bliss, become your bliss.” I borrowed and modified the concept from the great Joseph Campbell. He famously stated, “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
The quote was based on Campbell’s firm belief that following your bliss was a vital – perhaps the most vital – message coming through the great historic myths to us. Campbell placed each of us in the role of “the hero” on our own heroic journey. As with all heroes in myth, there comes a moment of decision and choice. Often this is a climatic moment where all will be lost or gained. This is the magical moment Campbell is speaking of when he counsels to follow your bliss and watch walls turn into open doors.
The hero – you – is a chosen being. You’re here in this place and this time to fulfill your purpose. When you do, the universe rewards you in ways someone not living with that life force will never see.
So, today I want you to commit to following your bliss. You’ve defined a big dream, you’ve worked on creating a burning desire for its achievement. Listening to your inner-self and understanding what your bliss is will give you game cheats to reach your objectives more quickly.
Here is Campbell and the great Wayne Dyer giving you some master insight on following your bliss.
Once you follow it, take those next two steps. Really feel it and experience it fully. This is you at your absolute best in the flow. Next become your bliss. That is you embodying your bliss so fully that you and your path become indistinguishable. MAGIC happens then!
Happy New Year’s Eve to everyone Europe and west. Happy New Year to those of you ringing in 2019 already!
As you enter 2019, I want you to be SUPER aware of two words that you probably say mindlessly hundreds of times a week…I AM. Other than your name, there are no other words in the English language (or any other) as powerful as I AM.
As the pitcher and catcher are “the battery” on a baseball field, I AM is the battery of affirmations. The AM is actually an equals sign. Even though we say it often, this phrase has an untold power on our consciousness. I AM is really I =.
I AM fat. I AM lazy. I AM cold. I AM happy. I AM always last in line. Each and every one of these are mindless affirmations telling pelting our subconscious with instructions on how to view the world. Perhaps more importantly, they are instructions to the Universe to help more of that show up. After all, we all like to be proven right.
When feed I AM statements to ourselves, consciously or unconsciously, we are telling ourselves and the world WHO we are. Be cautious with this phrase. Use it with intention. Empower your mind, your body, and your spirit with I AM statements that support your highest self.
Do that and I promise you 2019 will be your best year yet! Here, let me get you started on the right track. You are AMAZING. You are a ONE-IN-A-TRILLION MIRACLE. You are DESTINED TO GREAT THINGS!
Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.
In today’s Motivation Moment, Ray talks about following your bliss and how to determine what that is for you.