Affirmation Tips: Listening to Your Affirmations

Hey, guys!

IMG_1475I’ve been writing, recording, and using affirmations for many years. I’ve found that listening to affirmations in an audio format is the most effective way for me to add them to my busy schedule and get maximum benefit from them.

Affirmations are still among the most powerful ways to shift your mindset in positive ways. Yes! Action is required, but empowered thinking is still the fuel for the action.

Here are my tips using affirmations.

  • Listen passively – have you ever had that experience where you didn’t think you were listening to the words of a song or a commercial and you suddenly know them? That’s how listening passively to audio affirmations works. You listen while you’re living your life. You may not think you’re listening, but your subconscious is. With enough repetition they become conscious.
  • Listen meditatively – audio affirmations are great when used as a guided meditation. Listen consciously and with intent. Absorb and embody the words. Soon they become part of who you are.
  • Add them to your workout playlist – workout time or running time can be personal development time. Sure, you like listening to your favorite music, but mix the affirmations in with the songs. Physical exertion is an amazing way to help the affirmation impact your consciousness.
  • Listen in the morning – affirmations are an amazing way to start your day withe positive energy and vision. Listen to affirmations that inspire rather than talk radio that demotivates.
  • When you need them – play your affirmations on the way to a sales call, an interview, while you work in the garden, or in the locker room before the big game. Power words right before you face a situation can power up your game!
  • While you sleep – if your spouse or partner will allow you, listen to affirmations while you sleep. This is the unconscious working at its best. No conscious rejection. You’re simply letting better thoughts fill your mind.

I’ve been doing this for more than 25 years. I’ve seen these techniques work over and over again. If you need some affirmations to listen download MP3 from my growing library or listen to them on my YouTube Channel.

I’d love to hear your experiences and how this works for you!

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

 


The Why Me Syndrome

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Back in the day, I used to enjoy reading the newspaper cartoons. One I often read was Hagar the Horrible. Above is one of the most memorable cartoons I ever read. For many years, I kept this posted in various places to remind me that there was nothing special or unique about my challenges.

It happens to all of us; that moment when it’s not just raining it’s pouring. We think we can’t handle one more upset, one more hurdle, one more person cutting us off in traffic. Literally or figuratively, we look to the sky and shout, “Why me?”

It’s unlikely we’ll get the immediate and direct response Hagar receives in the cartoon. Instead, many people begin to see this as a frustrating pattern in their lives. “Why do I always meet the wrong guys?” “Why do people always cut me off in traffic?” “Why can’t I just get a break?”

The next time you’re thinking these thoughts or feeling these feelings I’d encourage you to consider something. You’re not uniquely oppressed by the universe. There’s no massive force with the sole and conscious goal to make your life miserable. And, you’re not alone.

These situations are part of our human experience and they happen to everyone of us. Why does it seem it’s always you? Because you’re always, every single time, present when it happens to you. You’re not there most of the time when it’s happening to others.

That guy who cut you off in traffic is going through it too. In fact, he might have cut you off, not because he wanted to make your life miserable, but because he’s distracted by worries about a layoff or a sick family member. He’s probably also thinking, “Why does this always happen to me?”

If we can gain perspective and get above these situations, we may even develop the ability to laugh at them and move on with our lives unscarred.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s been studying and practicing personal development for 30 years. He’s also studied many of the world’s spiritual traditions and mythologies.

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Tips for Becoming a Positive Thinker

In the training world, there is constant discussion about what constitutes a learnable, trainable skill and what falls into the realm of motivation or determination. For instance, I can train a sales manager with the knowledge and the skills that can make he or she better at coaching sales representatives. However, I cannot train a sales manager to be motivated to use those skills.

Lately, I’ve given a good deal of thought into whether positive thinking is a learnable, trainable skill or whether it relies completely on the motivation of the individual. It’s fair to call any ability that can be enhanced with practice or additional knowledge a learnable skill.

By this definition, positive thinking meets the criteria. There are teachable techniques that can help people see the world or themselves in a more positive light. A couple that I have employed successfully over the years are thought stopping and tick-marking.

Thought stopping involves mentally or verbally saying, “stop” when a negative or unwanted thought comes to mind. Sometimes the process requires you to say, “stop” multitple times to discontinue the negative thinking. This process is most effective when you can replace the negative thought or visualization with one that is positive or healthy. This technique is effective for people battling depression, obsessive thoughts, or addiction. However, anyone can use it in their daily lives. The fact that you are not dealing with a serious mental condition makes it that much more effective.

Tick-marking is another way to stop negative thoughts and embark on a positive thinking program. When we are afflicted with negative thinking we often don’t realize how many times during the day we are thinking negative thoughts to ourselves (negative self-talk). For some, there is a constant stream of negative thoughts, self judgements, and critiques of everyone and everything around them. Because we are what we think about all day long, unchecked these thoughts spill out into their lives – their view of the world, their self-esteem, and their interactions with others.

Tick-marking is a technique where you have a little note pad with you all day long. Every time you think a negative thought you make a tick mark on the note pad. Some people find it effective to categorize the negative thoughts. This is an awareness tool. Once they become aware of how many negative thoughts go through their minds in a day, many people become motivated to do something about it. Until there is awareness there cannot be action.

So, I come down on the side of those who believe positive thinking is a learned skill. That said, it is very much a commitment too. Developing a positive outlook on life has many of the same characteristics as a diet or an exercise program.

  • Motivated to change – until you see negative or demotivated thinking as a problem in your life, you are not going to commit to change. You must commit yourself to chaning the way you think and react to things.
  • Stay on the program – if you begin an exercise program, you will reap the benefits of it only as long as you continue exercising. If you stop, your muscles will atrophy and your fitness level will drop to previous levels. Replacing negative thinking with a positive outlook works in much the same way. It requires an ongoing commitment and you will see the benefits only for as long as you work at it. If you don’t provide constant positive fuel and apply techniques that work for you, the negative thoughts can return. Face it, we live in society where there is a lot of negativity and fear perpetuated for a number of reasons. If you don’t take charge of your own thinking, it is easy to fall into the societal malaise.
  • Keep the end in mind – when someone goes on a diet they are going to be successful as long as they continue to visualize their life at the goal weight. What happens along the way, often, is the demons of the present take control and steer the person off course. The dieter falls back into old habits and the diet fails. A positive thinking program has the same pitfall. Especially when you are using positive thinking to improve a certain area of your life, it is critical to keep the end result in mind. Your old negative thought patterns are going to rise up and try to get you off course. In fact, the closer you get to your goal, the more intense they may become. The only way through this gauntlet is to keep moving step by step in your new, positive direction.
  • Believe – you have to believe that change is possible. You have to believe that by using affirmations or other positive thinking approaches you can change your life and your mind. Without the belief, the commitment to reach your goal is not going to be there.
  • Accept incremental success – change of any kind in life is a process not an event. Know that you are going to have negative thoughts and doubts. Know that a certain amount of it is just incurable human nature. Commit yourself to keep moving forward and replace those negative thoughts with something positive.
  • Claim your victory – reward your successes along the way and the big win that is your destination. Through hard work and a commitment to see the you and the world that are possible, you can change your outlook from negative to positive.

Once you know how all that is left is to do it!

Stay inspired!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

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These are some of comments from readers about Ray’s new speculative fiction novel – Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation. This fictional novel follows White House Correspondent Maria Love on her quest to learn the truth of human origins and the Anunnaki’s role in our emergence. She discovers their intervention never stopped, but can she act quickly enough to change the destiny of two worlds? Author Graham Hancock said, “We are a species with amnesia.” Let your Awakening begin today.

Walking Among the Greats

Today’s Affirmation:

“My life is coming together in a complete and perfect way. I’m doing all that is necessary, accepting all that is necessary, and releasing all that is necessary for my life to come forth and blossom. I give myself credit for my accomplishments; cut myself some slack for my mistakes. Know that all leads to my growth and healing. I am happy and I enjoy life!”

path_in_the_woodsWhen you accept that your life is coming together just as it should, you are free to challenge yourself to stretch beyond your limits.

On my journey this day, I follow in the footsteps of the immortals. The imprints they have left behind on the Earth are large and their strides are a stretch for me. Yet, if I dare not encounter them and measure myself by them, how shall I ever know the true immensity of my own being?

So, I step consciously into the light; walking the path they once walked. Leaving it, occasionally, and improvising. Adding to it qualities uniquely my own.

Breathing with the trees and conversing with the clouds, as once they did. Our collective wisdom grows until no distinction remains among the path, the immortals, and me.

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” ~ Henry Ford

“There is no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather.” ~ John Ruskin

Right now is the time to open yourself to the possibility of ignoring limitations and going beyond self-imposed boundaries. For the fear and anxiety you experience are nothing but the shadow of unfulfilled promise.

arms_stretched.jpgThe world is full of opportunity and peril and a little of each in the other. It is ever forming and reforming; manifesting in precise accordance with our expectations. For your world lives in your mind long before it becomes visible; shaping itself to your perception of what is possible.

What is set in stone today is the dust in tomorrow’s breeze. Remember you are creating tomorrow’s results with every thought, word, and action today. Change is the catalyst for your betterment and your imagination its only limitation. Make the most of this blessing given you to personify the fruition of the promise that dwells within.

Each moment is a gift providing you with a fresh start on which to build a life filled with things more precious to you than your problems.

Stay inspired!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

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Interview: Dennis Nappi II, Founder Service of Change

D2 Oil PaintingToday’s interview is with Dennis Nappi II founder of Service of Change. Dennis is a veteran, having served in Army counterintelligence. He’s served as a police officer in Delaware, and a school teacher in the Philadelphia area. Today, he’s a publisher and a writer focused on making big changes through the small changes we can all make every day.

Dennis is someone who is really thinking about our world, where we are, and where we’re going. You’re going to find his ideas and insights profound in a way that will inspire you to dig more deeply for truth in your experience.

The Affirmation Spot: Hi, Dennis. Can you share more details about Service of Change? What it is, why you started it, and what do you hope to achieve? How can people help?

Dennis: Hi Ray! I’d be happy to talk a little about Service of Change. I initially created the site to promote my first book, Service, A Soldier’s Journey: Counterintelligence, Law Enforcement, and the Violence of Urban Education. My goal was to create a community of readers interested in making a change in the world with a focus on military life & PTSD, repairing the relationship between citizens and police, and brining about the changes needed to education. What started as a promotional blog, however, has turned into a grass-roots movement of change. We promote “Small changes among the masses can have a massive impact around the world,” and encourage people to “be the change.” I’d like to see more people take ownership of their lives, and develop a sense of commitment and responsibility to the improvement of their communities. Right now, people can help by communicating: start making changes and share your experiences on our social-media feeds. Also, it would be a great help if readers and listeners would share our articles and podcasts within their own respective circles.

TAS: You’ve published four books to-date. We’re going to talk about I Am Human in a moment, but what can you share with readers about your other books? Two are written specifically for teachers and one details your own journey of discovery, correct?

Dennis: Correct! The first book, Service, is my memoir. It details my journey as a young soldier, through a deployment to Bosnia as a counterintelligence special-agent, to a transition into police work, and finally concludes with my experiences teaching in a high-needs, violent, Philadelphia special-education classroom. I try to give readers an honest and raw look into my thoughts and emotions because I want people to understand how a soldier feels, or what a cop experiences when they are afraid or lonely. I also want people to know just how bad education has become in America, and how desperately our students need support. If we don’t fix education, I see the American future as being extremely grim.

My other 2 books are a part of “The Urban Educator’s Survival Guide” series. The first book is an easy-to read guide with 7 strategies designed to improve classroom management in the most challenging classrooms. The second book gives advice, procedures, and suggestions on ways to prepare, plan, address, and recover from violence in the classroom. They are quick reads, and I recommend them for every new teacher or anyone facing a challenging school-year.

TAS: Let’s talk about your latest book, I Am Human: & We Are Not What We Think We Are. It’s a provocative title and one that’s sure to get attention. Let’s start there. What’s the reason for the title? What does it mean?

Final Cover I Am HumanDennis: Great question, Ray! As I mention in the book, throughout my life I have recognized my spiritual path. I’ve had experiences that main-stream science and religion fail to acknowledge. After years of study and reflection, I found myself extremely restless one night. Information was pouring into me – some of it was my own thoughts, some was flowing in from places unknown. So I wrote everything down, trying to understand what it all meant, and what I produced was an essay that I felt compelled to title: “I Am Human.” Upon review of the essay, it taught me that humanity is living in a state of ignorance with a false sense of security. The basic premise is that in trying to understand who we are, I looked at life on this planet and realized life requires life to survive. Why should we be any different? I Am Human & We Are Not Who We Think We Are explores this essay in greater detail and suggests that we may not be at the top of the food chain, but woven within it as a potential source of nourishment for an unseen force that keeps us in a state of chaos and despair.

TAS: It’s a short book and I devoured it one sitting. I really connected with your writing style and the material. It details some profound experiences you’ve had and equally profound insights that it’s spawned for you. Can you briefly describe those experiences?

Dennis: Sure! Since early childhood, I’ve had experiences with Them. They come in the night and offer paralysis and terror. But they also inspired a profound inquiry and investigation into who they are. That study has led me on a journey of exploration that connects everything in this world: religion, politics, education, and even reality TV! The book mentions one of my encounters with Them, and then takes readers through my own investigation into the validity of modern religion, our relationship to nature, and an attempt to understand not just who we are, but our connection to everything around us.

TAS: What’s your hypothesis for these experiences? Do you believe you’ve been chosen for them? Do you believe they are happening to many people or all people? What meaning can you put to them?

Dennis: That’s a tough group of questions, Ray – but good ones! I’ll try my best to give an answer. I’ll start with the big one – my hypothesis. Please note that I am not the first one to make such a claim, but did come to this conclusion on my own. I believe that a parasite exists just beyond our perception. This parasite feeds off of human emotions (such as sadness and fear), and is able to influence our thoughts and actions to encourage such states within us. In ancient texts, this parasite is referred to as Demons (Christian Bible), Archons (Gnostics), and Djinn (Islam), among others.

I used to believe I was chosen and special, and in book 2 (Food for the Archons), I explore this in greater detail. However, in answer to your question – no. I don’t think I am special or chosen. I happen to be aware of a tiny aspect of something that is happening and feel compelled to investigate this further. I believe the “special” designation (common among many abductees) is designed to ensure complacency in a given agenda. (I’m special, so I will do X since it is my destiny). The way I see it is: I’ve seen so much suffering in this world, and I think (they) had a hand in my father’s suffering, so I am going to learn everything I can in hopes of starving Them out of our existence.

Is this happening to everyone? The late Karla Turner theorized that this could possibly be happening to everyone. I tend to agree with that theory. There are so many accounts of false memories, screened memories, or a complete lack of a memory for an experience, that I think this affects the majority of the human population.

As far as meaning – I am still trying to find my own understanding. On one hand, something terrible is happening. On the other hand, had it not been for this terrible circumstance, I never would have started this journey of understanding. I never would have grown in the ways that I am growing. I have come to understand that sometimes “bad” things are necessary for growth. Most days I believe that these experiences are not necessary and we are mere cattle and lab-rats. But as an objective investigator, I still have to wonder if in the end there is a greater purpose for this hardship. With that being said – I have not seen any revolutions or evolvement for the benefit of the species in chickens or cows since we have been slaughtering them for our own nourishment…

TAS: If your hypothesis is correct, how does that change the day-to-day lives of human beings on this planet?

Dennis: If my hypothesis is correct, then this should change everything. It also explains human suffering, war, and hardship. If humanity could realize that our suffering is by design, and we could understand the mechanism behind that design, we could find a way to design our own “matrix.” We would be empowered to create a better way of life, based on helping one another instead of fighting for our own piece of the pie, which in my opinion, is much easier than one may imagine. If we all started making those small changes and caring about one another and our relationship to the planet, I believe the majority ( but not all) of our problems would disappear.

TAS: Some people might dismiss ideas like these. What would you say to those people?

Dennis: I probably wouldn’t say much to them. It is because of these types of people that I took so long to go public with my thoughts and ideas. They are a part of this system of control, and so was my silence. If anything, I would encourage them to read my book. It’s free online and a quick read. If they are willing to have an open dialogue, free from unfair judgment, then I am happy to hear what they have to say, even if they are being critical. We sometimes learn from our greatest critics. My goal is not to be right – my goal is to work together with others to find a better way.

TAS: Dennis, what else are you working on right now? What’s top of mind for you at this moment?

Dennis: I always have several projects running at any given time! I can’t wait to get back into Food For The Archons (Book 2), since I stopped writing half way through to create I Am Human. As a publisher, I am proud to be working on The Art of Service, A Collection of Haiku Poems by my good friend, Lori Latimer. We are publishing her inspirational haiku poems in a beautiful collection this May. I am also working with a former student who is writing a book about his experiences growing up with special needs. He has a powerful story and an important message to share. For more information on these projects, readers can visit www.ServiceOfChange.com/Projects.

Lastly, I am also currently working on an online classroom management course for teachers that I hope to release this summer.

TAS: Now, I Am Human is a short teaser for a more in-depth second book you’re writing, correct? How can people get Book 1 and when do you expect Book 2 to be available?

Dennis: People can read Book 1 for free at www.ServiceOfChange.com/IAmHuman when they sign up for The Seiker Newsletter (also free). We are building a great group of readers and interested people who want to explore this topic further and hopefully find some concrete answers.

Right now my goal for the release of Book 2 is March 2016. It’s such a great project, and I can’t seem to type fast enough to get all of my thoughts down. I am excited to eventually get some feedback on it, as I go into greater detail with my personal experiences and provide some research to support not only what I have experienced, but what I think may be happening to us. Subscribers to The Seiker will get updates on the progress of the book, along with some teasers along the way. In addition, they can get a little more insight at www.ServiceOfChange.com/Archons.

TAS: Readers can also hear you, along with your partner Joel Shafer, on the Service of Change podcast each Thursday night, correct? Where can readers find your podcast?

Dennis: Yes! Every Thursday at 9:15 pm, Joel and I host our Changecast: The Podcast for Change. Our goal is to interview helpers, free thinkers, and people having a positive impact on this world in hopes that our listeners can find inspiration, motivation, and concrete ideas on ways they can start their own journeys of change. For more information, readers can visit www.ServiceOfChange.com/Changecasts or subscribe to us on iTunes at “Service of Change.”

TAS: Dennis, thank you so much for investing your valuable time to bring your insights to our readers. What would you like to say to them in parting?

Dennis: Ray, it has been my honor to be a part of this discussion. Thank you so much for your time and interest. I’d like to tell your readers that despite the darkness that may be hanging over our heads, and despite all of the fear that is spread throughout the Internet and media outlets – there is hope! The system is designed to keep us afraid, but there is a better way. Start small. Look within and ask yourself what you can change in your own life that will make things better for you. One step at a time, and we can make a huge difference. As I say at the end of each show, “Small changes among the masses can have a massive impact around the world. Be the change!” Thank you!!!

TAS: Dennis, thank you. You’ve given us all much to think about. I know I speak for readers when I say, we’re looking forward to Book 2. I want to urge everyone to take Dennis up on his offer to download I Am Human & We Are Not What We Think We Are. You won’t regret it.

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorHe is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series (2015). Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle. Can one woman really change the world? Can she expose a lie told for millennia? Can she make the future possible for two worlds?