I Can and I Can’t

Today’s Affirmation

I can, I know I can, and today I am.

Every day, dozens of times a day, you make a fundamental choice for that moment and your future.

That choice is “I can” or “I can’t.”

Each and every time you make that choice you either open the door to new possibilities or you slam that door shut.

Usually, you’re not saying the words out loud. They’re almost subconscious as you approach the decision on how to handle a thousand situations each day.

The key is each choice also builds momentum for the next choice. One “I can” quickly leads to ten more. One “I can’t” does the same.

Soon we’re living whole days, months, and years with one or the other as well-worn approach to life.

It’s never too late to change. Every choice is a new opportunity to put your trust again in “I can.”

Wherever you are on your journey today, know that you are awesome!


How to Write Affirmations That Change Your Life – Day 203 of 365 Days to a Better You

Thought for the Day:

Affirmations without action are just glorified wishful thinking. Affirmations are “mental armor” supporting empowered action, not a substitute for it.

Over the past several years, I’ve written many articles about affirmations -how affirmations work, types of affirmations, ways to use affirmations, etc., etc., etc. Some of those articles are linked to in this article.

However, I’ve never just written an article on how to write an effective affirmation. Today I had a request from a follower on Twitter to provide a “how to” and decided it was a good time to write that article. Let me begin by saying that there are many gurus out there with many ideas on how to correctly write affirmations. There are also some dogmas around the process. I’m not big on dogmas of any kind. So some of this might be unorthodox. Feel free to use what resonates for you.

Before we begin, let me make a few quick points. Affirmations are a tool to reshape and refocus your thoughts. By themselves, they don’t “make” anything happen. However, as you replace negative thoughts with negative vibrations with positive thoughts and positive vibrations, you do begin to attract better things into your life. Affirmations without action are just wishful thinking. The idea is that as you raise the vibration of your thoughts, you become more inspired to take action to manifest those thoughts as reality in the world. See the thought of the day at the top of the article.

I recommend reading my two part series on
Affirmations: Repetition and Belief along with using this list to create your affirmations. Following is  7-step process for creating your own affirmations. This is my way. It has worked for me over the past 20 years. Others might have another way that works for them.

  1. Start with a goal – you must have a goal in mind. The clearer the goal, the better the affirmation and the better chance for success. A cloudy goal leads to an unclear affirmation, and poor results.
  2. Affirm what you can believe – affirmations are not a tool for persuading you to believe something you don’t believe. They are a tool to help you create and multiply thoughts that support the action necessary to achieve the things you believe you can achieve. However, you can use what I call “aspirational affirmations” to help manifest a distant goal. You just need to be able to believe you can achieve that goal one day. (Read more Incremental Affirmations and Unrealistic Affirmations)
  3. Use clear language – the language of your affirmation should be clear and powerful for you. It’s OK to use phrases and terms that are very personal to you as long as the language resonates and feels empowering when you say it. Be as specific as possible.
  4. Present Tense – in most cases, it is more effective to use the present tense when writing, speaking, or listening to affirmations. In other words, state your affirmation as “I am…” rather than “I will..” or “I should”. The lone exception would be those discussed in the Incremental Affirmations article.
  5. First, second, and third person – most affirmation gurus will tell you to always put your affirmations in the first person, such as I am a magnificent dancer, rather than the second person you are a magnificent dancer. I agree that first person is the best if you are only going to choose one. Why stop with first person, though? An affirmation can be very powerful in the second person and using your name. I recommend using all three. I am a great writer. You are a great writer. Ray is a great writer. This holographic language creates a more powerful and holistic affirmation. (Read more Adding the Power of You to Your Affirmations)
  6. Use them, use them, use them – once you have written an empowering affirmation, use it. Like so many other motivational tools, affirmations are created and then cast aside after a day or two. Read them aloud, read them into the mirror, post them places where you can see them throughout your day, record them and listen to them passively (Listening Passively to Affirmations) or actively over and over until they infuse your mind. The goal for an affirmation is to have it replace the negative or disempowering thoughts and become thoroughly embedded in your thought process so that it becomes the automatic response  (How Do You Know Your Affirmations are Working?) to your negative thoughts.
  7. Take action – affirmations without action is just wishful thinking. You must think and then act, if you are to achieve.

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!


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Self-Confidence and Understanding – Day 173 of 365 Days to a Better You

Today’s Affirmation

I look everyone I encounter squarely in the eye with sincere respect for them and complete confidence in myself. I am firm in my conviction that I am up to any reasonable challenge. I have the courage and understanding to meet the world on an equal footing; looking down on no one nor standing in awe of anyone.

For everyone, beyond his or her position and burdens, is simply another human being doing the best possible given his or her current circumstances. Remembering this creates understanding within me and contributes to my peace of mind and success.

This affirmation speaks of courage, conviction, and the confidence to meet the world head on. When we allow our problems and challenges to take center stage in our lives it’s easy to fall into a cycle of diminishing self-confidence. We forget who we truly are and why we’re truly here. We forget our uniqueness and ignore our greatness.

Worse, those feelings and that forgetfulness have ripple effects in the world. We don’t give ourselves the benefit of the doubt and we are even less likely to grant it to the next person. Our thoughts become narrow and judgmental and we don’t take into account the circumstances under which the next person is operating.

The world can be a better place starting today, if only you will live with greater confidence. When you are confident your vision broadens and more possibilities open up. You see yourself and the world with balanced eyes that recognize your strengths as well as your opportunities for improvement.

ralph_waldo_emerson.jpgRalph Waldo Emerson is quoted as saying, “If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me.” Let’s keep the universe with us today.  Pledge to believe in yourself at least a little more than yesterday. Meet the world as an equal and it is forced to treat you as one.

You are amazing! Never doubt that for a moment! Thank you so much for reading the blog.


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Confidence Affirmations

Today’s quote:

“There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.”
~ Marianne Williamson

Today I am featuring some affirmations on confidence. Confidence is so important to success. Confidence is not a house we build once in our lives and reside blissfully there forever. It is a quality we must constantly nourish and an encourage.

It waxes and wanes depending on the circumstances. The reasons for that are many. Our past experiences, learned beliefs and responses, and people around us can all influence how confident we are – in general and in particular circumstances. Well, let’s be more accurate. Those conditions can dent our confidence, if we give them the power to do so.

We have a choice. We have the ability, as Wayne Dyer says, “To be free of the good opinions of others.” We can create a self that does not allow circumstances to diminish our confidence and resign us to mediocrity and inaction.

Some people fear that confidence borders too much on egotism, boastfulness, or conceit. They are concerned that it’s prideful and somehow not in keeping with their spiritual beliefs. The truth is confidence is none of these things. Confidence is simply developing an internal sense of the sovereignty you have to be the person you are and have the things you want. It is not about mistreating others or thinking you’re better than them. The truly confident person encourages others to claim their confident nature too.

Here are some affirmations to stir and build your confidence. They speak to many different situations and to people at different levels of confidence. Choose the ones that speak to you and make you feel better.

  1. Today I AM the person I came to this planet to be!
  2. I came here to be a great and conscious being and so that is what I am.
  3. Today I AM confidence armored with the power of my beliefs and strength of my abilities.
  4. Life is about choices and today I am making all the right choices for me!
  5. I am always a great bet! Today I am making it happen!
  6. I am bigger than any doubt, bolder than any fear, and stronger any obstacle!
  7. Today I stand up! Today I stand strong! Today I stand out!
  8. Today a pandemic of confidence spreads through my every thought and action!
  9. I am undeniably amazing!
  10. I CAN! I know I CAN! And today I AM!
  11. My endeavors impact things positively! I AM a difference-maker!
  12. Today I am confident because I KNOW my best days are ahead of me!
  13. Today my life blooms in ten shades of awesome!
  14. I bring a balanced attack of talent, intelligence, and creativity to every endeavor!
  15. Given the choice to be popular or be myself; I CHOOSE to be myself!
  16. Today is my day! I am rushing like a tsunami unstoppably towards my goals!
  17. I bring value to every interaction I am part of today!
  18.  I am a find-a-way, make-a-way person! Anything is possible for me!
  19. Opportunities are multiplying for me as far as the eye can see!
  20. Today I bring my A-Game to everything I do!
  21. Today I win the battle in my mind the world becomes a push over!
  22. Every single time I feel I am ‘less than’, I remind myself that I am a one-in–a-trillion miracle.
  23. My confidence is sky high and I have the talent, skills, and determination to back it up.
  24. Today I shine with the full glory and brilliance of a summer Sun.
  25. I am a powerful being with a purpose to fulfill. Today I am fulfilling it!
  26. Breathing in, I feel confident. Breathing out, I am confidence.
  27. Being who I am is a blessing and a rush. There’s no one else I’d rather be!
  28. I have a vision for my life! I have potential and possibility and today I am living up to it!
  29. Whatever this day brings, I can and I do handle it!
  30. Today I silence my doubts, ignore my critics, and follow my intuition and talents to my dreams.
  31. My life is going places today! One word keeps running through my mind. YES! YES! YES!
  32. A highly confident, highly competent person lives within me. Today that person shows up in my life!
  33. I have experienced this situation many times before and I will handle it brilliantly!
  34. My vision is clear! My mind is determined! MY moment has arrived!
  35. I am a great starter and a better finisher!
  36. I look people I meet squarely in the eye, firmly shake their hand, and see myself as their equal.
  37. Breathing in, I feel my anxiety. Breathing out, I choose my confidence!
  38. Today is my day! I am generating a winner’s momentum to carry me through to success.
  39. Today I take pride in my business and my skills. How dare I deny the world my gifts by acting small!
  40. Today and forever I release my doubts about promoting what I do. I have a great gift to give and today I give it!
  41. Today I am eliminating the word impossible from my vocabulary. I am 100% possible!
  42. I am a model of peace and tranquility. I remain, in all circumstances, calm, cool, confident, and collected.
  43. Today I am giving the world the gift of the real me!
  44. I handle my responsibilities with confidence and joy.
  45. I have the mental strength, emotional stability, and balance necessary to deal effectively with my challenges.
  46. I am a rising star! Good things are on the way for me.
  47. Today I am a stronger person than I was yesterday. Tomorrow I will be even stronger.
  48. I am going BIG because I am NOT going home!
  49. Today I am sharing my talents with a world thirsty for what I have to offer.
  50. I have the inner resources to face whatever comes my way!
  51. Nothing can stop me when I bring my A game! I always bring my A game!
  52. I am a goal setter. I am a trend setter. I am a paradigm shifter.
  53. The higher I climb, the brighter I shine!
  54. I AM courage! I AM wisdom! I AM strength. I AM able to handle what life sends me today!
  55. When I feel helpless I remember I AM powerful. When I feel weak I remember I AM strong!
  56. When the game is on the line, I am at the top my game!

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

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