6 Tips for Using Affirmations

anunnaki_cover_full_colorCheckout Ray’s breakout speculative fiction novel, ”Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation White House correspondent, Maria Love, discovers a shocking secret about alien intervention in the distant human past. That discovery puts her on the path of an even more stunning revelation.

One reader wrote, “I’m loving the book. There’s only one problem. I was so into the story that I missed my bus stop.” Another reader emailed to say, “My mind is officially blown!”

Is it fact or is it fiction? You decide!


Silhouette of a man figure meditating in the outdoorsMany affirmation gurus suggest that all affirmations be written in the first person. First person affirmations are the most effective when reading, writing, or saying affirmations. Most people do not feel comfortable looking into a mirror and using “you” affirmations. However, audio affirmations open up a whole new realm. Listening is more passive than speaking or reading and you are used to hearing people speak to you in the second person.

My 25 years of experience with audio affirmations demonstrates that second-person affirmations are highly effective as audio affirmations. They offer “outside” confirmation of the first-person version of the affirmation.

  1. Commitment – keep in mind that the key to using affirmations – audio, written, or spoken – is commitment to your goal. Without a commitment to making the change or reaching your goal, affirmations are just words.
  2. Repetition – repetition is the engine of affirmation success. For an affirmation to do its job in transforming your thoughts, it has to get at least equal time with the negative thoughts you want to replace.
  3. How much/how often – speak, write, or listen to the first person affirmation 5-10 times and then repeat the second person affirmation the same number of times. Do this at least twice each day. Stay with the affirmation(s) for at least 30 days. Use them again if the old thoughts return.
  4. How to use first person affirmations – “Own” the first-person version. Speak or listen as if you are speaking passionately to yourself.
  5. How to use second person affirmations – ”Actively accept” the second person version. Speak or listen as if someone you respect is confirming your affirmation back to you.
  6. How to know you’re getting results – there are several criteria for recognizing an affirmation’s success.
    1. The old thought, behavior, or performance disappears or lessens.
    2. Your mood, thinking, behavior, or performance change in a positive direction.
    3. The old thought, behavior, or performance appears and your thinking immediately answers with the affirmation. This is really exciting. Your old thought is “I am stupid.” You think this thought and immediately it is answered by your affirmation, “I am highly intelligent.”

For example, following “I am beautiful” with “You are beautiful” provides subconscious external confirmation of the first-person claim.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Tips for Becoming a Positive Thinker

In the training world, there is constant discussion about what constitutes a learnable, trainable skill and what falls into the realm of motivation or determination. For instance, I can train a sales manager with the knowledge and the skills that can make he or she better at coaching sales representatives. However, I cannot train a sales manager to be motivated to use those skills.

Lately, I’ve given a good deal of thought into whether positive thinking is a learnable, trainable skill or whether it relies completely on the motivation of the individual. It’s fair to call any ability that can be enhanced with practice or additional knowledge a learnable skill.

By this definition, positive thinking meets the criteria. There are teachable techniques that can help people see the world or themselves in a more positive light. A couple that I have employed successfully over the years are thought stopping and tick-marking.

Thought stopping involves mentally or verbally saying, “stop” when a negative or unwanted thought comes to mind. Sometimes the process requires you to say, “stop” multitple times to discontinue the negative thinking. This process is most effective when you can replace the negative thought or visualization with one that is positive or healthy. This technique is effective for people battling depression, obsessive thoughts, or addiction. However, anyone can use it in their daily lives. The fact that you are not dealing with a serious mental condition makes it that much more effective.

Tick-marking is another way to stop negative thoughts and embark on a positive thinking program. When we are afflicted with negative thinking we often don’t realize how many times during the day we are thinking negative thoughts to ourselves (negative self-talk). For some, there is a constant stream of negative thoughts, self judgements, and critiques of everyone and everything around them. Because we are what we think about all day long, unchecked these thoughts spill out into their lives – their view of the world, their self-esteem, and their interactions with others.

Tick-marking is a technique where you have a little note pad with you all day long. Every time you think a negative thought you make a tick mark on the note pad. Some people find it effective to categorize the negative thoughts. This is an awareness tool. Once they become aware of how many negative thoughts go through their minds in a day, many people become motivated to do something about it. Until there is awareness there cannot be action.

So, I come down on the side of those who believe positive thinking is a learned skill. That said, it is very much a commitment too. Developing a positive outlook on life has many of the same characteristics as a diet or an exercise program.

  • Motivated to change – until you see negative or demotivated thinking as a problem in your life, you are not going to commit to change. You must commit yourself to chaning the way you think and react to things.
  • Stay on the program – if you begin an exercise program, you will reap the benefits of it only as long as you continue exercising. If you stop, your muscles will atrophy and your fitness level will drop to previous levels. Replacing negative thinking with a positive outlook works in much the same way. It requires an ongoing commitment and you will see the benefits only for as long as you work at it. If you don’t provide constant positive fuel and apply techniques that work for you, the negative thoughts can return. Face it, we live in society where there is a lot of negativity and fear perpetuated for a number of reasons. If you don’t take charge of your own thinking, it is easy to fall into the societal malaise.
  • Keep the end in mind – when someone goes on a diet they are going to be successful as long as they continue to visualize their life at the goal weight. What happens along the way, often, is the demons of the present take control and steer the person off course. The dieter falls back into old habits and the diet fails. A positive thinking program has the same pitfall. Especially when you are using positive thinking to improve a certain area of your life, it is critical to keep the end result in mind. Your old negative thought patterns are going to rise up and try to get you off course. In fact, the closer you get to your goal, the more intense they may become. The only way through this gauntlet is to keep moving step by step in your new, positive direction.
  • Believe – you have to believe that change is possible. You have to believe that by using affirmations or other positive thinking approaches you can change your life and your mind. Without the belief, the commitment to reach your goal is not going to be there.
  • Accept incremental success – change of any kind in life is a process not an event. Know that you are going to have negative thoughts and doubts. Know that a certain amount of it is just incurable human nature. Commit yourself to keep moving forward and replace those negative thoughts with something positive.
  • Claim your victory – reward your successes along the way and the big win that is your destination. Through hard work and a commitment to see the you and the world that are possible, you can change your outlook from negative to positive.

Once you know how all that is left is to do it!

Stay inspired!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.

anunnaki_cover_full_color“My mind is officially blown!” “I’m loving this book. There’s only one problem. I was so into the story that I missed by bus stop.” “I need Book 2. Now!”

These are some of comments from readers about Ray’s new speculative fiction novel – Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation. This fictional novel follows White House Correspondent Maria Love on her quest to learn the truth of human origins and the Anunnaki’s role in our emergence. She discovers their intervention never stopped, but can she act quickly enough to change the destiny of two worlds? Author Graham Hancock said, “We are a species with amnesia.” Let your Awakening begin today.

25 Miscellaneous Affirmations for Every Day Life

First Person and Second Person Affirmations

athlete_hphones.jpgToday I am sharing 25 miscellaneous affirmations. Each follows the first person, second person formula. I’ve written before on the importance of using first and second person affirmations.

Many affirmation gurus suggest that all affirmations be written in the first person. First person affirmations are the most effective when reading, writing, or saying affirmations. Most people do not feel comfortable looking into a mirror and using “you” affirmations.woman_chair_hphones_rs.jpgHowever, audio affirmations open up a whole new realm. Listening is more passive than speaking or reading and you are used to hearing people speak to you in the second person.

My 25 years of experience with audio affirmations demonstrates that second-person affirmations are highly effective as audio affirmations. They offer “outside” confirmation of the first-person version of the affirmation.

For example, following “I am beautiful” with “You are beautiful” provides subconscious external confirmation of the first-person claim.

25 Affirmations

  1. Even in adversity, I shine bright as the full moon on a cloudless night. Even in adversity, you shine bright as the full moon on a cloudless night.

  2. I unconditionally love and accept myself in every way. You unconditionally love and accept yourself in every way.
  3. Today I am making peace with food. Today you are making peace with food.

  4. I give myself the freedom to speak and act honestly in every situation. You give yourself the freedom to speak and act honestly in every situation.

  5. I have all the skills, talent, intelligence, and creativity I need to achieve anything. You have all the skills, talent, intelligence, and creativity you need to achieve anything.

  6. Step by step, I am releasing all fear and all anxiety from my life. Step by step, you are releasing all fear and all anxiety from your life.

  7. My life is coming together in a complete and perfect way. Your life is coming together in a complete and perfect way.

  8. Whatever I need always comes my way. Whatever you need always comes your way.

  9. Today I am building a life filled with possibilities more important to me than my fears. Today you are building a life filled with possibilities more important to you than your fears.

  10. Wealth and abundance are flowing to me right now. Wealth and abundance are flowing to you right now.

  11. When I’m on my tennis game, I’m practically unbeatable. When you’re on your tennis game, you’re practically unbeatable.

  12. Today I am sharing my talents with a world thirsty for what I have to offer. Today you are sharing your talents with a world thirsty for what you have to offer.

  13. Today I am molding my business into an unqualified success. Today you are molding your business into an unqualified success.

  14. My heart beats strong and healthy. My lungs are clear and strong. Your heart beats strong and healthy. Your lungs are clear and strong.

  15. I have complete freedom to create my own life and I do so brilliantly each and every day. You have complete freedom to creat your own life and you do so brilliantly each and every day.

  16. Today I am laying it all on the line for the possibility of something more. Today you are laying it all on the line for the possibility of something more.

  17. I am a world-class musician. You are a world-class musician.

  18. I am a great parent and I get better and better each and every day. You are a great parent and you get better and better each and every day.

  19. I am patient in my life. I am accepting in my life. I am patient and accepting in my life. You are patient in your life. You are accepting in your life. You are patient and accepting in your life.

  20. Good things are happening for me. My life is moving in a positive direction. Good things are happening for you. Your life is moving in a positive direction.

  21. I am confident; much more confident than ever before. You are confident; much more confident than ever before.

  22. I am self-reliant. I control my destiny. You are self-reliant. You control your destiny.

  23. I am taking bold action to improve those things I want to change in my life. You are taking bold action to improve those things you want to change in your life.

  24. I have a right to my feelings and beliefs and I allow others the same right. You have a right to your feelings and beliefs and you allow others the same right.

  25. I am a model of peace and tranquility. I remain, in all circumstances, calm, cool, confident, and collected. You are a model of peace and tranquiltiy. You remain, in all circumstances, calm, cool, confident, and collected.

    Follow your bliss! Achieve your bliss! Become your bliss!

    Ray Davis is the founder of The Affirmation Spot. He’s spent more than 25 years studying personal development and especially writing, recording, and using affirmations to achieve his goals. His eBook – The Power to Be You – offers 416 life-changing and original quotes, ideas, and affirmations to take you to new levels of achievement and reflection.

    anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation, Ray’s first novel,  is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous.

    White House Correspondent Maria Love is on to the story of her life and with the help of an Anunnaki leader seeks to unravel and reveal history’s biggest conspiracy. The Awakening has begun!

Negate and Affirm: The Power of But

Today’s Thought:

Words have amazing power. When you use them well, they can power you.

The Power of ButFrom time immemorial, back through Hay, Peale, W. Clement Stone, and Wallace Wattles, it has been affirmation heresy to use any words that are perceived as negative in an affirmation. I have one thing to say about that….BUT.

Actually, the advice of all these affirmation gurus is not wrong. What they have taught is word your affirmations in a way that affirms what you want not a negative you don’t want. Example: I am winning rather than I don’t want to lose. BUT

Many years ago, when I started using and writing affirmations, I noticed how powerful the wold BUT can be when used in an affirmation. I call this negating and affirming.

BUT is a very powerful word in the English language. It consciously and unconsciously negates what was said before it. You hear examples everyday and you have experienced its power. “I love you, BUT…” “You’re great at what you do, BUT…” What does that BUT do? It’s an overt negation of what you just said. It diminishes its meaning and replaces it with what you are about to say next. In these cases, it is often a criticism, BUT…

Used with an affirmation, BUT can boost the power of the affirmation. It negates the negative thought and adds power to the affirmation that comes after. You can say something positive about the issue, negative thought, or even perceived challenge, negate it with BUT, and then follow that with an affirmation to overcome it.

Examples:

Alcohol is strong, BUT I AM stronger!
Getting published is tough, BUT I AM publishing my book!
I may face setbacks, BUT I am overcoming them!

Try this. It is very powerful. Subconsciously, negating is powerful and affirming is powerful. Together they will boost your affirmations.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and the author of Anunnaki Awakening: Revelation – order your signed copy today at AATrilogy.com. He advocates for the potential of the human race. He’s life-long history buff and holds a B.S. in History Education. He’s always been fascinated by alternative views of history.

anunnaki_cover_full_colorAnunnaki Awakening: Revelation is turning heads and opening minds. Humanity’s past is checkered, secret, and dangerous.

White House Correspondent Maria Love is on to the story of her life and with the help of an Anunnaki leaders seeks to unravel and reveal history’s biggest conspiracy. The Awakening has begun!

4 Affirmations for Clarity

Today’s Thought:

“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart to it.”
~ Buddha

Man meditating on a cliff at Kauai's Waimea Canyon.
Man meditating on a cliff at Kauai’s Waimea Canyon.
  1. I KNOW who I came to the planet to be and I am committed to be that person!
  2. When my purpose stands up, my doubt stands down!
  3. When I follow my heart, I always find my way!
  4. Whenever I listen to my heart, I KNOW why I’m here!
  5. Whenever I listen to my heart, I KNOW what to do!
  6. Today I am blessed with absolute clarity. I am on purpose and achieving results!
  7. Today my purpose is clear and my life path opens before me!
  8. Today wisdom guides my vision. I see everything precisely as it is.
  9. I see my dreams clearly and today I today I claim them!
  10. I came to the planet to be a great being of light. Today I shine like never before!
  11. Today I master my distractions and stay on purpose!
  12. The light within me is so bright it blinds my fears and doubts.

Find your bliss. Follow your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams.He’s spent the past 21 years in sales and sales training for major companies.

He is the author of the Anunnaki Awakening series (2015). Book 1 – Revelation – is now available in paperback and on Kindle. This trilogy takes Ancient Aliens out of the past and into the present. An interstellar, interdimensional journey ensues with humanity’s future hanging in the balance.

I CAN, I CAN, I CAN, AND I AM!

Today’s Affirmation:

As the voice of I CAN becomes stronger in my life, I can’t melts away!

The Power to Be You

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Courage! I CAN are two of the most powerful words in the English language. I CAN and I CAN’T are two of the primal and most powerful affirmations in our lives. The one that rules your mind and governs your actions will determine your outcomes in life. Which one is winning the battle in your mind today?

Ray

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