We Experience What We Focus On – The Affirmation Spot for Friday January 16, 2009

Today’s Affirmation:

“I believe in the future of humanity. I believe our species’ most prosperous, peaceful, and enlightened times are ahead. I am living my life in a way that turns that belief into reality.”
(Click the affirmation to hear the mp3 version)

northfaceI’m probably about to expose how tragically unhip I am. So be it. Until two months ago, I had never heard of The North Face clothing company. My step-daughter asked for one of their jackets for Christmas this year.  I was oblivious to how “in” their clothing is right now.

We purchased her jacket. Over the past few weeks I have suddenly noticed The North Face clothing all over the place. I think I saw three people wearing their jackets just today. I’m sure people were wearing their clothing before the past few weeks. I simply had no reason to pay attention.

Have you ever noticed how once you become aware of something; you suddenly see it everywhere? It makes sense when you think about it. Ask a physicist and he will tell you that the world around us composed of a bunch atoms hanging in nothingness.

Your brain is a remarkable pattern recognition device. Somehow it transforms this mass of formless energy and into something comprehensible to you.

Amazing as it is, your brain does have limits. It cannot possibly make sense of all the information in that vast field energy. So it selects information that fits your conscious expectations. Before I had no conscious expectation of seeing The North Face and I didn’t see it. Our conscious awareness seems to unlock the code that allows us to notice what we expect.

The key here is that your brain works this way on more important issues too.

If your conscious expectation is that your life will be filled with negative people and negative experiences, that is precisely what you are going to see when you stare into the field of atoms.

Fortunately, when you expect positive people and experiences, your brain selects that information and that’s what you notice more of in your life. Expect success and that is what manifests. Expect happiness, health, or opportunity and your brain obliges.

You experience what you focus on. So watch your expectations. They are generating what information you choose to experience. And sorry, but now that I’ve planted the seed you are going to see The North Face brand everywhere too!

Stay inspired!

Ray

2009 Affirmation

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be.”

Advertisements

Time to Be Who You Came Here to Be – The Affirmation Spot for Friday January 2, 2009

Today’s Affirmation:

“This year I am absolutely committed to being the person I came here to be.”
(This is the official TAS affirmation for 2009. Click the affirmation to hear the mp3 version)

starfield2Unless you adhere to the most skeptical view of evolution, you probably believe that life has a purpose. There is a reason you – and everyone and everything that shares this planet with you – are here. Your very presence is a certifiable miracle.

Literally trillions of events in the history of this universe had to happen just right for you to be here. If any one of them had happened another way, then no you.

In my book, that makes your existence rather significant.

That begs the question. Why are you here? What are you here to be?

More than likely you know the answer to that question. It’s hidden or forgotten somewhere deep inside of you, but it is there. You’ve had inklings of it throughout your life. There are those things you just love doing and experiencing. There are places you just love to be. Perhaps at one time you dreamed of doing those things or being in those places.

Somewhere along the line your dreams and reality collided.  You gave up on the dreams to live in “reality.” “They” told you your dreams were not realistic and you bought it. My question to you is do your dreams and your reality have to be conflict? Can your dreams become your reality?

The great thinkers and spiritual teachers of our species have been clear and unequivocal in their conviction that our dreams can be our reality. Few things have been more universally taught.

That’s not to say that you can blink your eyes “Genie-style” and your wish becomes your life. It may take work. There may be challenges. You might have to make hard choices. None of the great sages ever promised otherwise.

Are your dreams worth it or not?

The joy and jubilation created by the new year will pass and “real life” will begin again. The momentum you need to make the changes you are promising yourself this year need to be boosted by something inspirational, if they are to survive.

Your dreams fit the bill perfectly. Suspend your disbelief and start walking in the direction of your dreams. As you get in better “dream shape” pick it up to a jog. By the end of the journey, you will be in full sprint towards your dreams.

Soon you will be embracing your deepest dreams and spending your days living your dreams instead of…well…dreaming about them. Belief and commitment are the only price of admission.

It’s time to “show up” and be the people we came here to be in 2009! Are you with me?

Stay awesome!

Ray

Playing With A Full Deck – The Affirmation Spot for Monday December 1, 2008

Today’s Affirmation:

“My imagination overflows with great writing ideas.”
(click the affirmation to hear it in mp3)

cards_royal_flushIt occurred to me the other day that life is a little bit like a card game. We are all dealt a hand at the beginning of the game. Some are dealt powerful hands while others are dealt difficult hands. Either situation is fraught with pitfalls and full of potential.

The person dealt the strong hand may experience life as soft and easy, but never truly be challenged to live up to his or her full potential. The daily news headlines are filled with stories of people who “have it all” and yet behave in ways that are “self-destructive”.

Meanwhile, people who were dealt terrible hands at the beginning of the game achieve great things all the time.

Remember the following 10 rules to the card game of life.

  1. Everyone, regardless of the hand they are dealt, is playing with a full deck. I guarantee it.
  2. Every possible hand is in that deck for every person.
  3. There are many possible winning hands in the deck.
  4. The hand you are dealt at the beginning of the game, wonderful or awful, is just fate.
  5. If you spend your life worrying about the hand others were dealt and thinking it is unfair; you’ll never get anywhere.
  6. If you spend your life thinking you earned the good opening hand instead of working to make the most of it; you’ll never get anywhere either.
  7. If you start with a good hand, but play your cards foolishly you can fail.
  8. If you start with a poor hand, but play your cards wisely you can succeed.
  9. Every day is a new opportunity to reshuffle the deck.
  10. The game is never over until the last card is played.

Interview with Maia Berens – The Affirmation Spot for Friday June 20, 2008



ray_launchpad.jpgYour Fifth Affirmation is Always Free at The Affirmation Spot

Whenever you download four affirmations at The Affirmation Spot your fifth affirmation is free. Simply type five in the coupon field at checkout to get your fifth affirmation free. (Offer valid only on a per order basis. Multiple single downloads do not receive this discount.)


Today’s affirmation is:

“Right this moment I am attracting the perfect mate into my life.”
(5 times)

“Right this moment you are attracting the perfect mate into your life.”
(5 times)

Hear an audio mp3 version of this affirmation right now.



 

Today we are honored to have a The Affirmation Spot exclusive interview with Maia Berens.

 

 Maia Berens is a California-based life coach specializing in relationships. She has successfully coached countless clients by telephone over more than 10 years. She helps people to improve their lives and develop long-term successful relationships.

 

 Maia credits her own successful 23-year relationship and her 18 years collaboration with world-renowned relationship expert John Gray (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus) for giving her the foundation to help others with their relationships.

 

 Maia says about herself, “I have a natural ability to help people see what’s good about what’s going on in their lives.” Her goal for her clients is simple – help them create the confidence within that leads to the ability to have a successful relationship.

  

The Affirmation Spot: Maia, thank you for the opportunity to speak with you. Can you begin my telling us a little about your background and what inspired you to become a relationship coach?

Maia Berens: That’s a pretty funny one to start with for me. I am just becoming very clear on my own personal path that I am really not a relationship coach, but rather someone who coaches clients to get ready for relationships by helping them re-discover/uncover their authentic selves. So what inspired me to become that – lets call it Real Self Coach? (It) was my natural bent to teach and coach and the miraculous changes that I’ve been blessed to have occur in my life using all the tools and attitude changes I teach/coach.

 

The Affirmation Spot: There seem to be three sides to your current work – coach, writer and blogger, and business person. How do you balance those three aspects of your life and keep your own relationships in balance and vibrant?

 Maia Berens: I know my priorities. They are self-care, work, family and friends in no particular order except self-care is the basis for it all. My husband and my family are definitely priorities, but I put them before me and my needs only if there is an emergency. I guess it boils down to knowing who and what’s important in the moment.

 

The Affirmation Spot: You worked with John Gray author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus for many years. What was it like to work with John and how did that collaboration influence what you are doing now?

Maia Berens: John is a very creative and brilliant guy. It was inspiring and a great learning experience working closely with him. His influences are vast in my life and that of my husband and my kids. He taught us and took us through many healing experiences in his workshops in the early ’80’s. He taught us tools to heal the past and have functional relationships. I got an opportunity to create workshops based on his material and coach 500 professional therapists and speakers to help them get out of their own way to create success in their workshop businesses. My husband and I actually met in a workshop conducted by John and Barbara De Angelis and John participated in marrying us 22 years ago. One of my daughters got to work in our Mars Venus Institute for 3 years and got to get experience being paid as a writer and she is now a screenwriter.

 

The Affirmation Spot: Are relationships more complicated today than they were 50 or 100 years ago? If so, what is driving that complexity and how do people handle deal with the complexity and succeed in their relationships?

Maia Berens: Relationships of the past were more based on financial need and functional need years ago, I believe. Today we expect partnership; we have super busy lives complicated with technology, traffic, everyone working, etc. And we are evolving to become more authentic (although probably not less complicated) humans. Your question about how do people deal – not so well in a lot of cases. We are still suffering from a lot of old ideas and (this) isn’t helped by our media. But the news is good. More and more people like you and I are having an impact and people are willing to learn.

 

The Affirmation Spot: You mention the role of the media in propagating some old ideas. What are some the biggest misconceptions that you see repeated or reinforced in the media?

Maia Berens: It’s probably mostly the happily ever after stories in the movies that never show real work and real resolution, more than anything.

 

The Affirmation Spot: What role, in your view, do our relationships play in our spiritual development?

Maia Berens: Relationships can be a “Way”. They can be a way to lay bare the ego and learn how to heal the past and in doing so lead one to become more and more authentic – who we really are – spirit having a human experience.

 

The Affirmation Spot: How would you describe your coaching philosophy?

Maia Berens: I believe that all the answers are in each of us. Our coaching collaboration allows me to hear where you may not be looking and (helps me) point out to you where you are not seeing yourself as fabulous as you really are. I reflect back to you and keep you on course in the direction you’ve told me you want to go. Unlike many coaches, I also act as a mentor in many areas. I gently tell you what I see and you may reject it or use it.

 

The Affirmation Spot: How does a person or a couple recognize the need for a coach? How does what you differ from traditional counseling?

Maia Berens: If you want support to get somewhere in your life and you aren’t getting there yourself, a coach is a great choice. If you feel you want to delve into the whys and wherefores of your past, probably a therapist is for you. Also a therapist is probably a good idea if you keep having highly abusive relationships.

 

The Affirmation Spot: What qualities and credentials should people be looking for in choosing a coach?

Maia Berens: You know you have a match if you feel like this person (the coach) gets you and has your agenda first. I suggest having sample sessions or conversations with as many coaches as it takes until you find that fit. Trust your gut and don’t be sold.

 

The Affirmation Spot: What are some of the biggest pitfalls you see people in long-term relationships falling into? What words of advice would you offer to people in “stale” relationships?

Maia Berens: (The) biggest pitfall is not saying what is going on for real and in good time – even if it’s to say I feel the relationship is stale and I’m not feeling loving. Hard truths are the most challenging to speak, but they are the only way to get back to love. I also think people don’t really know how to have really deep relationships. By that (I mean), I don’t think they know that it takes work and clearing of old emotional stuff and old beliefs formed in childhood in order to have a relationship that can works now.

 

The Affirmation Spot: What words of advice can you offer young people entering the world of serious relationships for the first time?

Maia Berens: Be brave enough to express what is really going on with you and trust what your intuition is telling you. Find an older, more successful person in good relationships to check things out with.

 

The Affirmation Spot: Maia, thank you for the fantastic insights. How can people contact you to learn more about your services?

Maia Berens:

 Phone:  (310) 264-5625

Email: maia@whataboutlifecoaching.com

Websites: http://whataboutlifecoaching.com and http://thepumpkincoach.com

 

Thank you to Maia for sharing her wisdom with us.

 

Stay inspired!

 

Ray