Waiting for Samadhi Isn’t a Life Strategy – Day 156 of 365 Days to a Better You

Today’s Affirmation:

I find my bliss in the chaos. I find my stillness in the dance.

When I was younger, I used to spend my time waiting for this perfect moment I imagined would come to take action. The right moment, I assumed, would arrive for me to ask out that girl. The sun would shine upon me, as in a movie, to tell me I was making the right choices. The Universe would suddenly sing in unison to show me the way.

Now, I’ve been lucky enough to have a few of those moments in my life and perhaps you have too. However, they’re not reliable enough base your life strategy around.

The great mythologist Joseph Campbell pointed out there were two spheres of thought in ancient Buddhism – Indian and Chinese. The former has this concept of Samadhi, while the latter is based more on the idea of the Tao.

Samadhi is a moment where the great enlightened being stills the world around him or her to a state of perfected bliss and union. Meanwhile, the Tao summons the idea that life is a chaotic balance always in movement around the great being and that enlightenment is found not in stilling the chaos, but in becoming one with the ebb and flow.

That younger me was constantly waiting for moments of Samadhi. Now I’m certain such a state is reachable by the most enlightened among us and for all of us in certain moments. It’s also reachable if you want to leave the world, as Buddha did, and spend your life on a mountain or in a forest in complete contemplation. For most of us ordinary human beings with a job and mortgage, though, we must be content with finding our bliss amid the chaos of a life that never stops and is always presenting new challenges.

That younger me thought life would stop and wait for me at some point; that I”d suddenly “get it” and all would fall beautifully into place. This older wiser me understands that the beauty and sometimes the terror is found in the constant chaos that is our lives. The beauty is not just in that magical stillness, but in the flow of the river that never ceases.

Power Hack: Stop waiting. There’s no perfect moment except this one. Your goals, your dreams, and your destiny are found on the run. Samadhi does exist and I’d welcome you to seek it, but it’s not the mechanism that will drive most of your happiness or success. For that, you must lose yourself in this moment of action and find your bliss amid the chaos.

Ask him out. Apply to Harvard. Write the book. Change the world. Do it now.

You are all amazing! Never forget it no matter what anyone says. Thank you so much for spending a few more minutes with me on the blog today.

Ray

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Now Is Your Moment – Day 16 of 365 Days to a Better You

Now IS your moment

town-sign-1865304_640Let’s be honest, and I include myself in this, how many things that we put off really get accomplished? When you say “I’m going to start this after the holidays or after my vacation, or when things slow down a little bit,” what usually happens? Nothing!

I’m not pointing a finger at you (or me). It’s human nature. We have good intentions. We really do believe we’ll start living our best life on that far away day in that far away moment. Yet, that timeframe passes, that moment evaporates into the ether, and we’re still right where we were?

The truth is when it comes to getting started – which is really the hardest and most important part of any goal or dreams – NOW is the only moment that guarantees we’ll start. Think about it when does life ever really let up? What’s magical about after vacation or after the holidays? They’re all not NOW. They’re all a promise to procrastinate not to ACT.

The great Tracy Chapman has the following brilliant lyrics in her song “If Not Now.”

If not now then when
If now today then
Why make your promises
A love declared for days to come
Is as good as none

The same is true of a promise to start that goal or to live that better you. If not now, then when?

Fine, Ray. You got me. I procrastinate. How do get myself to act NOW? How do I get myself to take the importance of NOW seriously?

I want you to close your eyes. I want you to visualize all the reasons you want to follow that dream or live your better life. WHO matters to you? WHAT matters to you? Are you feeling WHY you want to do this? See it, feel it, taste it. Get it clear in your mind. Are you on FIRE for it?

Good! Now it’s a simple equation from there. Which is greater than (>)? Are the reasons you’re putting this off > the reasons you want to do it or are the the reasons you want to do it > the reasons you’re putting this off?

Because every time you put this off rather than acting NOW, you’re choosing your reasons to wait over your reasons to act. I love the way Rachel Hollis puts it. “You have to choose between what you want now (your procrastination) and what you want most (your dream).”

So, I know some of you started following these posts a couple weeks ago and you haven’t started pursuing that dream yet. NOW is your time!

You SO have this NOW! I believe in you and your dreams! Meet met halfway and believe in you too.

Ray

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