365 Days to a Better You – Day 17

Follow your bliss.

For years, I’ve ended posts with the phrase, “Follow your bliss, experience your bliss, become your bliss.” I borrowed and modified the concept from the great Joseph Campbell. He famously stated, “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”

The quote was based on Campbell’s firm belief that following your bliss was a vital – perhaps the most vital – message coming through the great historic myths to us. Campbell placed each of us in the role of “the hero” on our own heroic journey. As with all heroes in myth, there comes a moment of decision and choice. Often this is a climatic moment where all will be lost or gained. This is the magical moment Campbell is speaking of when he counsels to follow your bliss and watch walls turn into open doors.

The hero – you – is a chosen being. You’re here in this place and this time to fulfill your purpose. When you do, the universe rewards you in ways someone not living with that life force will never see.

So, today I want you to commit to following your bliss. You’ve defined a big dream, you’ve worked on creating a burning desire for its achievement. Listening to your inner-self and understanding what your bliss is will give you game cheats to reach your objectives more quickly.

Here is Campbell and the great Wayne Dyer giving you some master insight on following your bliss.

Once you follow it, take those next two steps. Really feel it and experience it fully. This is you at your absolute best in the flow. Next become your bliss. That is you embodying your bliss so fully that you and your path become indistinguishable. MAGIC happens then!

Ray

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365 Days to a Better You – Day 16

Now IS your moment

town-sign-1865304_640Let’s be honest, and I include myself in this, how many things that we put off really get accomplished? When you say “I’m going to start this after the holidays or after my vacation, or when things slow down a little bit,” what usually happens? Nothing!

I’m not pointing a finger at you (or me). It’s human nature. We have good intentions. We really do believe we’ll start living our best life on that far away day in that far away moment. Yet, that timeframe passes, that moment evaporates into the ether, and we’re still right where we were?

The truth is when it comes to getting started – which is really the hardest and most important part of any goal or dreams – NOW is the only moment that guarantees we’ll start. Think about it when does life ever really let up? What’s magical about after vacation or after the holidays? They’re all not NOW. They’re all a promise to procrastinate not to ACT.

The great Tracy Chapman has the following brilliant lyrics in her song “If Not Now.”

If not now then when
If now today then
Why make your promises
A love declared for days to come
Is as good as none

The same is true of a promise to start that goal or to live that better you. If not now, then when?

Fine, Ray. You got me. I procrastinate. How do get myself to act NOW? How do I get myself to take the importance of NOW seriously?

I want you to close your eyes. I want you to visualize all the reasons you want to follow that dream or live your better life. WHO matters to you? WHAT matters to you? Are you feeling WHY you want to do this? See it, feel it, taste it. Get it clear in your mind. Are you on FIRE for it?

Good! Now it’s a simple equation from there. Which is greater than (>)? Are the reasons you’re putting this off > the reasons you want to do it or are the the reasons you want to do it > the reasons you’re putting this off?

Because every time you put this off rather than acting NOW, you’re choosing your reasons to wait over your reasons to act. I love the way Rachel Hollis puts it. “You have to choose between what you want now (your procrastination) and what you want most (your dream).”

So, I know some of you started following these posts a couple weeks ago and you haven’t started pursuing that dream yet. NOW is your time!

You SO have this NOW! I believe in you and your dreams! Meet met halfway and believe in you too.

Ray

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365 Days to a Better You – Day 11

Thought of the Day
Have the weed’s mentality. Grow under any circumstances.

~Ray Davis


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Good morning, friends. I just want to take a moment to say THANK YOU for reading these messages each day! It is my highest desire that you’ll take something valuable each day from them and that, if they help you, you’ll share them with your friends.

Today’s life hack is be resilient. Ok, all the gurus are saying we need to be more resilient, but how do you do it?

Here are practical things you can do to be more resilient.

  1. Opinions – have you noticed? Everyone has one, especially when it comes to you and your dreams. Wayne Dyer used to say, “Free yourself from the good opinion of others.” Rachel Hollis reminds her audience that the people with all those opinions won’t be around to live the life you don’t have because you let their opinions stop you. Get over other peoples’ opinions.
  2. Make lemonade – it’s old advice, but sagely advice. The results are in. Life is not always going to go your way. Things change, people change, bad things even happen to good people. Life will hand you the proverbial lemons. When that happens, make some lemonade from them. The alternative is to let the taste of those lemons sour your life. That’s not who you are!
  3. Higher purpose – these moments that can take you down for the count are the biggest reason you need a bigger life’s mission – a definite purpose – as we discussed a few days ago. Without it, all the bumps in the road will soon leave you in the ditch of life. With it, they seem like small speed bumps on the road to your Nirvana. Stay focused on your big picture.
  4. What lies within you – Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “What lies behind us and what lies before us ate tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” Remember who you truly are. You are not this temporary setback. You a hero on a hero’s journey meant for greatness. You are a one-in-a-trillion miracle indispensable to the successful operation of the universe in this moment. You are a force of nature that can’t – that won’t – be stopped.
  5. The experts said – this is similar to the first one, but even more important. You might be able to dismiss the opinion of people you know because what do they know? But, many get stopped in their tracks at the moment of setback because they start listening to all the experts. The train, the television, the Internet, Michael Jordan as a basketball player, Mickey Mouse as a good idea, the Colonel’s original recipe chicken are just a few examples of things the experts said would never work. I’m not counseling against taking good advice. I am saying that if you have a definite purpose and a burning desire to achieve it, don’t let the experts get in your ear at a moment of setback. They’ve been wrong many, many times. Every amazing breakthrough had had a chorus of naysayers jeering it along. Yours may just be the next great example of the experts being wrong.
  6. Affirmations, Affirmations, Affirmations – when your mind turns against you, turn it back. It does work for you, you know. Change your mind by changing your thinking. Everyone from Jesus to Buddha to the latest YouTube motivation sensation has said it in one form or another. Your thoughts become you. If you want to change yourself, change your situation, or change your life, change thoughts. Your thoughts are the greatest creative force at your disposal. Power them up in your moment of setback.

One of my all-time favorite quotes is by professor of medicine and promoter of meditation for stress relief, Jon Kabat Zinn. “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”

Grab a board! Life won’t stop coming and neither should we!

Ray

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365 Days to a Better You – Day 7

napoleon_hill_headshotWow! Already a week into the new year. Can you believe it? Last week I had you create a To-Be list for 2019. The big question always seems to be, “How do I get started?”

In his 1938 mega-best-selling book Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill wrote:

There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants and a burning desire to possess it.

What the heck is a definiteness of purpose and how do you get a burning desire to achieve it? Much has been written about this topic over the years. Let’s not complicate it. Go back and look at your To-Be List. What is your BIG goal for 2019? Is it so clearly stated (and so clear in your mind) that anyone reading your To-Be list could immediately recognize it?

Definite Goal

  1. If not, rewrite your BIG goal in clearer language that makes it definite. Write it concisely and clearly.
  2. Place the clearly written version of your BIG goal somewhere you can see it regularly during the day.

Burning Desire

The second part of Hill’s statement says you have to have a burning desire for it’s achievement. What does that look like?

  1. Passion and Commitment – this should be something that gets you out of bed early in the morning and sometimes keeps you up late because you’re so focused on it.
  2. Mental Energy – be thinking it about it all the time. The power and energy of your mind consistently focused on something is powerful!
  3. Physical Action – begin acting now on your goal, even if only small steps. Delay kills the momentum. Hill said you don’t need a perfect plan. Just a rough one. You can adjust as you go.
  4. Create a vision board – which simply captures in images – powerful to your mind – of the things you will have when you achieve your BIG goal. It helps you visualize what your life will look like when you have achieved your BIG goal! (My wife is going to read this and remind me I still need to create mine for 2019. I will work on it along with you and post it when it’s ready.
  5. Affirmations – our minds, especially today, are easily distracted and pulled off course. Our  belief and our passion can wax and wane from day-to-day. Affirmations keep you focused, believing, and constantly articulating your vision. This keeps the energy and the action high. (You will find everything you need to know about creating affirmations right here. You may also find some on the TAS site that match your goal and you can download them from there too.)

Stay inspired! 2019 is going to be the year you finally reach this goal or put a huge dent in it. Keep the momentum going. Get a definite purpose and a burning desire for it and you’ll be off and running.

Ray

Just a reminder, you may also find content that can help on my YouTube channel.

 

 

365 Days to a Better You – Day 6

balloon-3206530_640 (1)Let the past be the past. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? We humans are experts at carrying our traumas and dramas with us through life. We can develop an odd, even fearsome loyalty to them.

Some people even come to define themselves almost exclusively in terms of their past negative experiences. The victimize themselves again and again because some harm brought to them by another or by circumstances long ago. They allow it eat them up like a toxic acid within. Let it go.

Maybe that’s not you. Maybe you’re storing a thousand little “paper cut” grievances that have coalesced into major baggage. Let it go.

Some, at the suggestion of letting go, will vehemently defend their need to hold on because they have for so long and life without those scars seems frightening.

Look, I’m not saying don’t work through a natural anger or grief process or even legal process, depending on the situation. There is a time and a place for that. I’m talking about the kinds of things you’ve been carrying with you for years or decades beyond any possible benefit to you. Let it go.

You’ll feel amazing, once you do. A burden will be lifted from your shoulders. The sun will be able to shine into your soul again. You can be the person you came to the planet to be rather than someone stuck back there somewhere.

Here are some practical tips for letting go.

  1. Let go and let God – this is a standard practice in 12-step programs and spiritual healing approaches. This meditation can help you. This classic collaboration meditation between John Bradshaw and Steven Halpern helps you connect to your higher power.
  2. Letting Go Strategies – this is an article I wrote back in 2009 with some very tangible ways to release something, if that’s what your situation calls for.
  3. Mentally release – for some, recovery  approaches or burning things is not necessary. You’re able to release the baggage once you become aware of it. It’s amazing how we can go through our lives accumulating this stuff, almost unconsciously.

Common Questions

  • How do you know you’ve let something go?
    • It’s not weighing you down any more. It’s not the defining event or thought process in your life any more. Forgiving others and even yourself is often a HUGE component of letting go. If you need professional help, get it.
  • How do I know what I need to let go of?
    • This may require some reflection, meditation, or prayer. If you’re more logical, it may require sitting down with a piece of paper and capturing what’s going on with you. You know what it is. You may just need to choose to see it.
    • Another rule of thumb, if you’re just cleaning house in your life, is if it serves me it stays, if it no longer does it goes.
  • What if I can’t do it myself?
    • I would tell you that you do have it within you to release and let go. However, if you want the support, get into a self-help or recovery group related to your issue, seek counseling, or confide in friends or family that provide a safe space for you to work through this.

I only know this. Without these weights around your neck, you will soar and become the amazing miracle you are here to be.

Stay inspired, my friends!

Ray

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365 Days to a Better You – Day 5

Good morning, my friends!

guitar-756326_640It’s Day 5 of 2019 and if you’ve been following these blogs, you are well on your way to being a better you in 2019. Today is the first weekend day of the new year and you’ve earned some R & R.

There are many ways we can better care for ourselves in 2019. I’m sure we’ll get to them as we move through this journey. One of the best is to schedule some “You Time.”

Most of us give away tons of our time all week long to jobs, friends, families and they’re all important for their own reasons. The thing many of us forget to do is take time to stop, reflect, and do something nice just for ourselves and just because.

reading-3462508_640So today, at some point, I want you to take some and treat yourself to something you truly enjoy. Take a few minutes to reflect on this first week of the New Year and get your bearings for what’s ahead.

It’s trite, but true. You’re no good to anyone else unless you take care of yourself.

Have a fantastic day! I’d love to hear what you did for YOU today in the comments below.

Ray

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365 Days to a Better You – Day 4

The Serenity Prayer

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

action-bangkok-business-1031698Patience, they say, is a virtue. It’s a virtue in short supply in our society today. It’s not because we’re all evil or selfish. It’s just that we’re always in a hurry. Running from one thing to the next and working to be productive little bees, we have a short fuse for things that hold us up.

You see this in the form of honked horns, people yelling at retail clerks or waiters, and, in extreme cases, road rage. People can literally lose their minds because some has the audacity to slow them down. Has this ever been you? I’m sad to say it has, on occasion, been me.

Here’s my challenge to you on Day 4. Take a breath. Breathe in, breathe out, and relax. In whatever ways present themselves today, let the other person go ahead of you. If someone honks at you, take a breath, smile, and see how they’re being driven by this same crazy force that’s driving all of us.

Demonstrate some patience today. You might like enough to make it a new habit doing its part of make you a better you. If you’re lucky, you may touch on something even deeper than conscious patience…serenity.

Peace out and chill out, my friends! Have an awesome and patient day. Share your experiences in the comments below.

You’re AWESOME!

Ray

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