(Un)derestimated

I refuse to give up

A few tales untold

A few verses unfinished

Some feelings unfathomable

That yearning undeniable

Those desires unattainable

Some thoughts unforgettable

Are often underestimated

Not realizing that it’s

The “un” in each one

That makes some

storiesexceptional

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365 Days to a Better You – Day 12

Ask for what you want.

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In Matthew 7:7, Jesus says, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.” There is a power in asking.

Picture my wife April and I driving down the road. I look behind me once and then again. She feels a tinge of frustration.

Are you trying to get over,” she asks?
Yes,” I reply.
Do you have your turn signal on so they know you want to get over?”

It seems silly, but we walk around in our lives acting as though the people around us and the Universe already know what we want. We’re all adults and we’ve learned that simply asking doesn’t get us everything we want in life. It gets us a lot more, though, than not asking and expecting the world to somehow infer our intentions and wants.

Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” Failing to ask is failing to shoot.

Power hack: Use these seven power words up the power of the ask. The goal is not to control others. The goal is to make your asking for what you want as powerful as it can be.

In the video above, Kevin Hogan mentions the research of Dr. Ellen Langer. Here’s more information on the power both of asking and, specifically, of adding the word because.

Then there’s the work of Dr. Robert Chialdini. He’s studied the universal principles that persuade people to say yes. We’ll get into these in more detail in a future blog. For now, watch his very popular video overview of the topic. You’ll definitely pick up some things you can use right away.

There’s no question that asking ups your chances of getting what you want in life and how you ask influences the response. It appears that asking is the key to receiving.

Stay inspired!

Ray

For tons more motivational content, please visit the TAS website or YouTube channel.

Becoming Comfortable With Discomfort

We can all learn something from this article.

Meditations in Motion

Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. – Romans 5: 3-4

Meditations in Motion We are laughing at our inability to take a decent selfie.

I ran a race with Hubby the day before New Year’s Eve. It was a 5-miler that we have done many times before. This year, runners ran the usual course in reverse. That meant that the big hill, which usually appears at mile one, now showed up at mile four.

I checked my running log. This race was the first time I attempted to push the pace since last June due to my injury.

The race started out fine. We ascended a small hill on the road, then turned left to run on a cinder trail that followed a creek. It was pretty, fairly flat and not too cold. When we got to…

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365 Days to a Better You – Day 10

Be a coach, not a critic.

There’s no doubt that we all need a kick in the pants from time to time to keep us driven and focused. Self-discipline and self-reflection are keys to the pursuit of success and happiness.

Many of us learned in early in life to be our own worst critics. I’m not completely sure of the psychology behind it; whether it’s nature, nurture, or some combination thereof. The thing is many of us allow that inner critic to speak to us and treat us in ways we’d never allow another person to do.

Here’s today’s life hack. Coach yourself up don’t beat yourself up. I want you to fire the inner critic and hire the best coach you can ever have – YOU.

Instead of mindlessly and destructively criticizing yourself to defeat, coach yourself to victory.

To be a good leader, start by leading yourself well. Rather than going into critical mode, try Balanced Feedback.

Ask yourself:

  1. What did I like about what I did?
  2. What would you do differently next time.
  3. Close with an affirmation or a positive pep-talk.

Shush the critic and bring on the coach!

Have a great day, my friends!

Ray

Here’s more tips for giving feedback. Most are easily applicable to self-coaching.

Evening Motivation – Roadblocks Are Shortcuts to Something Better

Hey, my friends!

I hope you’ve had a fantastic day! Here’s a little evening motivation for any of you who have ever hit a roadblock or a detour in your plans. Sometimes it’s the best possible thing that can happen. Here’s an affirmation you can use to remind yourself of that profound fact.

Enjoy your evening and sleep well!

Ray

Proof of All the Good Going on in the World Today

Tuning into the daily news, it would be easy to get the idea that no one is doing anything nice for anyone out there. We should remember that there are million acts of kindness happening all around us for every spectacular unkindness covered on the news.

This video shows seven that were captured on video.

Let’s stay committed to kindness.

Ray

365 Days to a Better You – Day 7

napoleon_hill_headshotWow! Already a week into the new year. Can you believe it? Last week I had you create a To-Be list for 2019. The big question always seems to be, “How do I get started?”

In his 1938 mega-best-selling book Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill wrote:

There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants and a burning desire to possess it.

What the heck is a definiteness of purpose and how do you get a burning desire to achieve it? Much has been written about this topic over the years. Let’s not complicate it. Go back and look at your To-Be List. What is your BIG goal for 2019? Is it so clearly stated (and so clear in your mind) that anyone reading your To-Be list could immediately recognize it?

Definite Goal

  1. If not, rewrite your BIG goal in clearer language that makes it definite. Write it concisely and clearly.
  2. Place the clearly written version of your BIG goal somewhere you can see it regularly during the day.

Burning Desire

The second part of Hill’s statement says you have to have a burning desire for it’s achievement. What does that look like?

  1. Passion and Commitment – this should be something that gets you out of bed early in the morning and sometimes keeps you up late because you’re so focused on it.
  2. Mental Energy – be thinking it about it all the time. The power and energy of your mind consistently focused on something is powerful!
  3. Physical Action – begin acting now on your goal, even if only small steps. Delay kills the momentum. Hill said you don’t need a perfect plan. Just a rough one. You can adjust as you go.
  4. Create a vision board – which simply captures in images – powerful to your mind – of the things you will have when you achieve your BIG goal. It helps you visualize what your life will look like when you have achieved your BIG goal! (My wife is going to read this and remind me I still need to create mine for 2019. I will work on it along with you and post it when it’s ready.
  5. Affirmations – our minds, especially today, are easily distracted and pulled off course. Our  belief and our passion can wax and wane from day-to-day. Affirmations keep you focused, believing, and constantly articulating your vision. This keeps the energy and the action high. (You will find everything you need to know about creating affirmations right here. You may also find some on the TAS site that match your goal and you can download them from there too.)

Stay inspired! 2019 is going to be the year you finally reach this goal or put a huge dent in it. Keep the momentum going. Get a definite purpose and a burning desire for it and you’ll be off and running.

Ray

Just a reminder, you may also find content that can help on my YouTube channel.